Am I a rebound?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy and he actively pursued me. We are long distance (5 hour drive). We went on a trip together with one of his friends. He came back to my city with me and we spent some time together but it was hard for me to connect with him. I felt there was something blocking him. I also questioned was it me. I told him I had a crush on him and he started texting and calling every day. I told him that I feel like I’m chasing him and I don’t feel comfortable with that. He mentioned to me that he is emotionally unavailable due to his break up 9 months ago. He has baggage and he is not ready to open his heart up again. He mentioned that he really liked me and he doesn’t want to be in another situation right now. He is clearly not over his ex. Even so I still pursued him but less. I went to his house because I had work in his city. We hung out. He introduced me to his friends and we had fun! We laid together every night but didn’t kiss nor have sex but we cuddled. On the last night while I was “sleeping”, he said he loved me. I didn’t respond. He told me he’s not ready for a relationship to “I love you”. The next morning I acted like nothing happened. He made me breakfast and went to work. He gave me a big hug. I left him a gift on the counter for him to come home to and he was very happy about it and after that, he started calling and texting much less. He barley talks to me now. We are meeting in New York this weekend from a previously planned trip but I just can’t feel happy or comfortable around him. I too have gotten out of a bad relationship and I’m scared too. I don’t want to be hurt anymore.

[Wise4myage]

Rebound or not, he should be over a relationship that ended 9 months ago. But no, you were not a rebound because you didn't have sex with him.

[rienna888]

Yes, it's sadly as he says that he's not ready yet.