When you reach this point in dating someone do you prefer going to your dates home first or have them come to yours?

[Still-alive]

Was wondering who's place you prefer going to first when dating them and reached this point already.

I prefer going to their place first

I prefer they come to my place first

I have no preference

[Apulu_3]

Why is that girl looking him like she will murder him? Gosh that evil smirk is saying that she is going to choke him! And what the hell! Why will I kill my partner? Which kind of question is this? Are you asking will I kill him in my home or his home? Yeah I know I have some really painful and merciless ways to kill someone but I don't have guts to kill a cockroach leave human. I have no preference.

[Still-alive]

Kill 🧟‍♂️

[Apulu_3]

Nah I ain't murdering anyone. I don't know how people casually choosed places. It's common indeed wow

[SecretsofKB]

Their place! I still live with roommates. Not that I'm embarrassed by them or anything... okay maybe a little. They can be obnoxious lol in a good way, but still.

[OpenClose]

My place, basically because it's the project I've put the most work into. It says more about me than my clothes probably do.

Plus I'm literally 1 guy in a house with 4 bedrooms and 3 stories. It could really use the extra people.

If I were still in an apartment, I would probably prefer her place, because she probably keeps her place cleaner than I kept my apartments.

[HighlyVolatile]

My place. I prefer to be the host rather than the guest. Going to a woman's place early on before we've become an item would kill some of my momentum in leading the courtship and seduction since I'd want to be a very polite and gracious guest in her home.

[HighlyVolatile]

I did that before once and I was doing quite well taking the lead on the date. But once she suggested going inside to her place, and I accepted the invitation, I wasn't uncomfortable necessarily but I didn't know what to do except just sit there and try to be very polite while she served me things. And I didn't know when I should kiss her and so forth. She kind of had to take over leading, and I'm not so into that.

[HighlyVolatile]

I'm not the smoothest guy but the closest I am to smooth is when I have that sort of control over the environment and the lead and the role of a host. When that's taken away from me and I'm in a more submissive position, I tend to turn into a complete dork not knowing what to say or do.

[KrisPW]

I'd rather go to his place. Scope out more about him and how he lives. If things turn sour quickly, I would want my place to be a sanctuary to still turn to.

[Still-alive]

So the burdens on him to prove he's not a weirdo?

[KrisPW]

I wouldn't call it a burden. If I'm going to his place I already like and trust him enough to go to his home, leaving the safety of "being in public". And the question asked my preference, not something I require of him.

[lakotabebebe]

I don't have my own place yet, I still live with my parents bc I'm broke 😭

[lakotabebebe]

That being said, I wouldn't mind a guy or girl around my age still living w their parents

[Still-alive]

That’d be me.

Oh wait around your age :(

[lakotabebebe]

With this economy, if your parents have a place to let you stay in it's hot 😅

[Still-alive]

Heh 😈

[NathanDavis]

no preference, either is fine... and most of the times is actually about the circumstances... one thing though, finding out more about her is always going to be way more interesting to me

[CurlyGirl42]

No preference. Actually I would say I prefer going first to either his/mine and the next time the opposite. Both showing/letting him into my home and seeing his home is important to me.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Never my place, don't want them to know where I live to stalk me later if things don't work out.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

If I'm available for dating, hypothetically, and ready to take things up a notch, I'd like to see where & how he lives.

[CrazyGirl2]

It’s just so much easier to tell a guy “look, it was fantastic, but I need to sleep, so you need to GTFO, when you’re not in HIS house!

[yug_a_tsuj]

Get an uber FROM his house? 🤔

[CrazyGirl2]

@yug_a_tsuj What? Does anything I just wrote suggest my issue is with my inability to drive? I’ve raced in both a Ferrari & a Lamborghini at Las Vegas Motor Speedway, I can drive just fine thank you. But after sex, I like to roll over and go to sleep because good sex, REALLY good sex is extremely relaxing, and getting up, getting dressed, either getting in my car and driving (or sitting in the back of an Uber) getting to my house, opening the door, walking upstairs, getting undressed, maybe pee, then getting into a cold bed is not as nice, as saying “don’t forget to lock the door on your way out”, rolling over in my own, nice, warm bed and going to sleep!

[yug_a_tsuj]

My point was, if you're in his house, you can pick up your stuff and go, if it was good great might happen again, if it was a bit less good it might not it's your choice from there on, if he comes to your place...

You might need to make him go.. and if that's the case it's not as simple as "ghosting him" as he was at your place he knows where it is

And point of UBER was that you don't even need to drive if you don't want to, not that you can't

All in all in my mind it just seems "safer" to go to his house first

And it gives you way more information about him.. to make decision will you keep dating him

As question was referring to dating, so I'm assuming hooking up is not main topic

[CrazyGirl2]

@yug_a_tsuj I can see your point. But if we are looking at this from a strictly safety policy, any ex military (like my mom) would tell you, “you are always safer in friendly territory where YOU control the variables” example: he could have 5 friends waiting to gang rape you (well me). Also, at his house I don’t have a Glock 19 hidden but very easily accessible if you know what to push to release the drop-down bin where it’s stored!

[yug_a_tsuj]

Okay, now if you add guns into the equation the "get out" part becomes much easier I'll give you that

Here in Australia/Europe (where I'm originally from), no guns in equations, it could technically be an issue if you live alone..

So different circumstances may make both choices correct 🤷‍♂️

[CrazyGirl2]

@yug_a_tsuj There you go! Understanding and compromise and looking to common ground, the true sign of intelligence. I commend you good sir. 😘💋

[yug_a_tsuj]

Thank you very much 😊 it has been pleasure 😁

[CrazyGirl2]

@yug_a_tsuj Likewise, you are a true gentleman, a rarity in these parts. Thank you for such a pleasant experience. 😘💋

[De_La_BakedBeans]

I don't have a preference, but because of the situation we're in, my girlfriend usually comes over to my place rather than me going over to her's.

[Jasmine-Darkfire]

Never reached that point, and when I do it will be on my wedding night so it will be "Our Place"

[menina]

This has never happened to me but I would prefer to go their place.

[menina]

*to go to their place

[BipBipLeddus]

My house. Home field advantage; I know where all the weapons are, in case a murder has to happen.

[Jaximus-Lion]

My place! To show how good i take care of my self and how i live.

[TacosRAwesome]

Their place first, even if they live with family. My family thinks they're being cute but will go all out with embarrassing stories.

[Alyssa_11]

I prefer them coming because I take ages to get ready lol. I’m this way with my friends also.

[Hellraiser1984]

It's up to them. I think she'd be more comfortable at her place.

[AndrésC64]

I'd actually probably choose her place, unless she has roommates.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

My house is full of my kids and relatives.. Her place it is every time.

[Joshua0213]

Whatever she was more comfortable with, doesn't matter to me

[gingerwolf08]

If i do it would be my place

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I would go to their place first

[llorando]

I have no preference.

[moonpie89]

Preferably his

[krin_m]

Either way is fine!