It could of course be rude but I interpret it more as an explanation as to why he asked you. The explanation being warranted since he ultimately wasn't looking for anything special and so his question wouldn't make much sense.
From that perspective him stating that is giving both you and him some support for the "just going with the flow" notion and would instead be quite polite.
So in my head it seems more polite than rude. But hey, if he expects a lot from date one that was the heads-up warning. If that is the only thing you thought poorly off I'd either just double down on the question of what he wants or shrug it off.
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many guys have been used for a free meal or whatever in the past, myself included.
I used different dating sites back then, long before computers, video dating then eharmony, which really helped eliminate most of thse.
sometimes it was lunch or dinner and you just knew it wasn't going to go any furthr, but you have to try.
Dating can be a lot of work.
Unless, he said that be cause he expects sex after the date?
No clue on his mind set.
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I would phrase it differently and at the same time, be more direct. Say EXACTLY what you want, don't leave any room for any doubt or misinterpretation. Example, "I'm not rushing into anything, but I also want something that will hopefully lead to something long term and serious. What about you?" (important to get them to say exactly what they want also). Then you're establishing right off the bat that you're both on the same page.
It is a bit if an asshole thing to say. But would put it down to first time meeting nerves. Be sure to look for red flags in that date.
Yeah, that statement puts me off too. For the reason you said, and it's very Captain Obvious too. Yeah we are all here to waste our time! Really? Lol
Nothing rude in that... I believe same.
I don't waste time in dating when I know I want to have sex with her. So I directly came to the point instead of wasting time on date.He makes a valid point. He's a driven person with goals in his life. Hopefully you will respect that. So don't waste his time stringing him along if you don't like him.
I don't really think so. It sounds like he's just saying that he's not looking for someone that wants to play games.
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