Is it just me or do women create an impossible dating situation for men? How do guys find a girl to marry? I genuinely don’t understand?

[Gangactivities911]

Let me give an example I see. Young Women really don’t go for the guys who show the most interest in them. Guys who show the most interest are seen as “creepy, clingy, desperate, or a fuck boy.” So instead women go for guys who show what in guys terms at least is minimal interest. But women somehow want to get a guy to marry them like this. Why would any guy want to marry a girl he’s really not that interested in? The guys women think just wanna fuck them are the guys who moreso want to date them and vice versa. So as a guy u have to either A pretend to not be that interested which is pretty difficult to do consistently well all the time. Or b date a girl ur not that interested in. And this is why marriage rates are dropping so hard. Women don’t create any incentive for guys to want to get married yet simultaneously women by and large are supposedly looking for a long term relationship that will eventually lead to marriage. Tell me how does a guy navigate this other than getting good at acting or sticking to casual his whole life? And like I don’t want be an actor around someone I want a relationship with.

[Heartache0405]

Men don't think before they propose. They're told that they shouldn't be lonely and the idea of being alone scares then which I think is absolutely pathetic. So they end up proposing too fast to shitty ass women and they end up miserable and telling the donation door attendants at the local goodwill to never get married. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Alyssa_11]

Can I say I’m a 24-year-old fairly attractive women and I feel like men have created an impossible dating situation. Most men only want to have sex and for those who have pursued me they ended up mistreating me in the relationship or cheating on me. I used to really want to be married and have kids but now I’ve learned to become independent as a way to cope with the trauma.

[TonyMetal___86]

Never lose hope sweet alyssa rapunzel, in the end you won't be sad for all these guys who have treated you like that when you fall for the right one 😊

[Gangactivities911]

U do agree tho that women do create the impossible situation that I described above?

[Alyssa_11]

@TonyMetal___86 Thank you, I hope so lol

[Alyssa_11]

Not really

[Gangactivities911]

So women do go for the guys who do show the most interest in them over guys who show the least?

[OlderAndWiser]

What you are describing is more common among very young girls, not grown women.

[Gangactivities911]

I mean yeah but I don’t want to start a serious relationship when I’m 30 that’s weird in my opinion. Not only is that just not fair to the guy. Women only “mature” because they get older and less attractive and slowly learn what they can actually expect. And like I want an intense emotional connection and that’s harder when u meet later in life. Delusional narcissism isn’t a quality I could ever deal with in a partner especially when it’s effecting me.

[OlderAndWiser]

" I want an intense emotional connection and that’s harder when u meet later in life." I don't know why you say that. In my experience, as women get older, they play fewer games and become more sincere, open, and available emotionally.

Also, as you get older, the women your age will remain attractive to you but younger women will still be attractive.

[Gangactivities911]

Why should I date someone who for years previously acted like they were too good for me? Like that doesn’t leave a sour taste in your mouth? I don't know i don’t think I could ever bring someone like that in my life. Couples who start dating earlier in life are more likely to stay together. And I don't know my friends from high school will always be closer to me than friends I made as an adult

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you the same person that you were ten years ago, or are you now a better person?

[Gangactivities911]

If they’re actually sorry sure but they’re not they have no empathy for the situation they r putting men in.

[Znizza]

This is my belief: the feminist movement was a good organization for changing things that have allowed women to survive independent of a man. The issue is that right after this happened suddenly men are not worth hearing and everyone is now supposed to listen to the female’s perspective. I wasn’t raised by such values, the only perspective that I listen to is one for my own benefit. If I’m going to ignore 100% of everything anyone says than how exactly am I supposed to experience women limiting my dating options? They’re an adult like everyone else, if they have disagreements or issues with what I have to say then they can have a conversation about them or simply walk away. Women haven’t limited anything, men have been led by bullshit of “yes dear, I’ll do whatever you say dear” I’ve only done that with one woman and she was my mother, she died in ‘15, the amount of actual acknowledgment of anything a woman says to me in terms of dating is two categories: “TF do want?”
”What can you give me?”
Any issues with those two questions and I’m already gone, children have the right to socially debate, we’re not children. The majority of men need to stop giving a fuck so shit can get done, we have all the technology we need to advance to the next civilization level and we’re in danger of losing all of it, let’s figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Women create an impossible dating situation for themselves and they will be the ones that lose out in the end...

[Gangactivities911]

But men are losing along with them too. We’re all losing cuz women would rather sit in their narcissistic delusions than actually date a guy their compatible with.

[Anonymous]

Dating sucks and lots of guys feel like you do. You wish you could find a cute girl that wants a long term commitment but it seems impossible, they just want to pole jump from guy to guy it seems or they are lesbians.