But all I really want is somebody that is at least as attractive as I am to have a relationship with. I'm picky when it comes to looks and personality, but I feel like I should be having better luck.
I don't think anyone would call me unattractive. I'm in very good shape, I'm well educated, well traveled, have a good amount of money considering I'm still in grad school. I'm friendly and make people laugh, and have a ton of hobbies. I go out to bars, take extra classes solely to meet new people, go to concerts and events, etc. I'm not particularly lacking in self confidence because I have high standards for myself and have achieved a lot.
Despite all this, I can't find any attractive single women - especially ones that are into me. It's like they don't exist. The ones that I do like and are friendly back to me are already in relationships. In the rare event that I find somebody that I find attractive who appears to be single, I get no reciprocation at all. For example, I was watching a band play a week ago with a friend, and next to us were three girls by themselves. They were enjoying the band (as was I), and I had been joking with them before, so I leaned over to one of them and said "these guys are good!". Her response: "yeah".
... and then nothing. No follow up, no interest in either friendly conversation or flirting. It's always like this - unless they're already in a relationship or I'm completely not interested in them, it just falls flat.
I can't figure out why this is so hard.
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