Why do women keep dating the wrong men?

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This happens more often than not, that women get in a one sided relationship with some boyfriend, who neglects them and calls her only when he wants something, gets helped and all that and then he goes back to pretty much ghosting her for yet another time period while she waits on her phone for his name to show up. Needless to say he is likely after someone else anyway.
There are men out there like me, who would never do that to a girl and we can't get a girlfriend. Like pretty much ever. 🙄
Is it the time to turn into one of these neglectful men or what am i missing? They are apparently in such a high demand.

Dinklex3 · Accepted Answer

I hope you're not dumb enough to think women are only attracted to them because they neglect them.
They like them. Not because they neglect them. Not because they treat them like shit. Chances are they sweet talk them and their actions don't always match their words. Some people can be sweet one moment, but act like a jerk the next. People have faith and remember the sweet nice things. They know not everyone's perfect and try to overlook the negatives. There's a lot more to people and their relationships than what you see.
Trial and error. Men don't always date "the right" one the very first try either.

Marianna546 · Accepted Answer

Well... Some women have low confidence and sexual energy and for some reason choose alcoholics, drug abusers, abusers, narcissists and pathological liars as well as sugarbabies...

Summeroflove · Answer

Well it happens to men as well…. You see men too dating women who are demanding expensive gifts, needing a shoulder to cry on, wanting sex, but offers nothing in return expect for sex when she’s in the mood for it with him at least.

I think some people do seek bad people because they’re bad people themselves. They chase away all the decent options so that’s who they’re stuck with.

But for the good hearted people a lot of times someone pretends to be someone they’re not. Until they got them hook, line, and sinker. Before they reveal their true colors. Seeing someone only on dates it’s easy to pretend to be someone you’re not until you’re around them all the time. It’s harder to keep that facade on.

A lot of people are very loving in the beginning. But slowly pull away and leave someone one sided.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think they care more about the guys sexual performance than the guys morals, I also know people who put up with abusers cause the guy has money or is physically more attractive or gives them attention, some women need attention so badly, they will tolerate extreme mistreatment to get it. And I’ve never met a needy woman who dated a guy that respected her, she was always with abusers.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Lol, Nice Guy content.

But in all seriousness, for me it's because I genuinely liked them, we had good times, and then I outgrew them.

As much as both my exes have been shitty to me, they've also provided many more happy memories and good times. It's just that their fuck ups were so colossal that it was obvious I wasn't going to be happy with them any longer.

For me, they were learning experiences.

And now, I know I'm not into straight cis white men. If I date a male, they've gotta be at least bisexual, and ideally not cis. And certainly not white (or at least not an established North American white).

Now I know better, and I have a stronger sense of self. I still enjoyed the good parts.

Now, I know I'm not just looking for someone "nice". I'm looking for someone who has their own life, their own stories, their own sense of competence, and who is looking to share their stories with mine.

It's not enough for me for someone to be nice or respectful. That's the minimum, and it doesn't mean the person won't fuck up. It's not even a personality, it's just... Normal. So in addition to being "nice", one has to have personality and value to bring to the table. It's what I bring and what I expect in return.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

If it’s not in your nature, you can’t pretend to be a douchebag. Women and real douchebags will smell the kindness on you from miles away. There are a variety of reasons women date losers. Some women have lousy self esteem and don’t think a guy could be good to them. That’s a small minority, but real. Some women are attracted to the “danger” of dating “bad boys”. Some women think so highly of themselves they think they can change a guy. All women love DRAMA. They love the engagement of the wider array of emotions that a tumultuous relationship provides. Don’t get it twisted, the douchebags aren’t ALL bad and women are easily addicted to those highs and lows.
In the end, you have a choice. You can resign yourself waiting until women are used up and jaded, then rescue one from herself, knowing she’s settling. You can try and fail at being a dick or wait until you’re so jaded yourself that you don’t have to fake it. You can try to find other ways to provide dramatic experiences to the women you love. Or you can cool your jets and look for a woman who knows herself and has learned to provide for her own dramatic needs, rather than putting that demand on her fella. She’s a unicorn. It won’t happen quickly or easily. The only question is, is she worth the wait, for you?

SayLesss · Answer

Nice guys are the type of men that were raised by single mothers. The mother told him about how abusive the father was and now he is repulsed by anything remotely abusive. The Niceness comes from his protective energy towards his mom. The frustration from the nice guy comes from him witnessing women willingly going for the same type of man that abused and hurt his mother. It’s why nice guys see a “side”: bad boy, good man. Crossing to the other side would be like betraying your mother. The truth is, women like men are primal. The same way men are addicted to corn stars is the same women are addicted to bad boys. Bad boys are the corn stars of the female fantasy. These addictions hurt us in the long run. Men/women don’t care because they are primal/carnal desires which need to be fulfilled. Discipline is key here.

Anonymous · Answer

Stupidity. Women feel too much and use their eyes and their head to little. I mean we all make mistakes. But guys are generally less emotionally so we learn from them quicker than women do when it comes to matters of the heart.
Also you have some women who simply refuse to take responsibility for the role they play in anything. Ever met one of those women that is ALWAYS the victim? It's conditioned behaviour. They pro ably learned it from their mother. They have no idea how to take responsibility because nobody ever held them to account for anything.

Changiis07 · Answer

They don't pray about it. What happens when we pray is that we gain wisdom and discernment to make the best choices. We know what is of the Lord instead of jumping to a relationship without getting to know that person for sometime. Women we make mistakes and not look closely at the red flags from the beginning

lightbulb27 · Answer

been through all that thought process. think through the psychology, you are asking a psych question... why people do what they do. understand why they do what they do, and you'll get your answer. Humans are emotional... not logical.

there's plenty girls out there for you, you've got to up your emotional game.

its as simple as this... they are wounded and responding from those wounds.

TransAm85 · Answer

It all starts in childhood, whether the woman wants to believe it or not. How she was raised and what her mother and/or father taught her. I grew up w/o a father and rebelled a lot, became attracted to the "ghetto" guys, little cholos, and wannabe gangsters. After my grandpa died when I was 16, I said, fuck it, Idc who I end up with! That was the only father figure I had. But it all can be fixed when the female really pays attention to the stupid shit she's doing.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Yeah, why come women don't give all that sex to you. You would make them happy, by buying them flowers or something.

Or wait, here is a way to get some women. Just treat them terrible and they will come running to you.

fonduegirl · Answer

Because nice guys might say they're accepting as hell, but they're not. Ex. A good woman with a high body count. So many "nice" guys would be bothered by it. If she was more honest and told you she liked to date for fun in the past, you'd either vent again here on how she's using you or tell her she's undateable.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Life like a box of chocolate you never know what you’re gonna get. There’s a couple Of things.
When choosing someone we have our intuitions (gut) one thing. Family and friends tell us another thing.
Most of the things have to be a feeling for us rather than logic sometimes. Honestly we truly don’t think they are bad person. We either can fix them, think they are potential, we think we are the ones that can make them better.
This is someone in not all women don’t quote me 🤷🏾‍♀️

Shamalien · Answer

They have issues and actually want to be treated like shit. I’m not kidding. Many refuse to acknowledge this but deep down they know it’s true. If you become an emotionally unavailable asshole who takes what he wants and doesn’t give a shit you will have sexual success

but the women who r attracted to this r generally not keepers…so good for sex, not for ltr

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because women just follow their emotions. And the wrong men make them wet. This is deeply psychological because women today have no self worth and so any man that respects them is deficient. Who in their right mind respects someone with no value? So they prefer these men. Women with high self worth dont do this but they hardly exist in our society.

And no "living my best life/girl boss" is not self worth.

slatyb · Answer

“Can’t get a girlfriend...” How many women do you know enough to greet them when you see them? Also why would anyone want to date you? What attractive qualities do you have? What are you doing with your life?

CubsterShura · Answer

I'll just tell you that I was with a guy who would also say shit about how women don't wanna date nice guys like him and want bad boys, while he ended up acting like the asshole himself.

You may not be as nice as you think you are.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

It’s not women dating wrong men. It’s women dating men at wrong places.

Also, the ‘bad’ guys put on a facade of pretending to be ‘nice’ guys. So are women really to blame for being manipulated and lied to by so called ‘nice’ guys?

EllaNella · Answer

i have never met a man who said he is too nice to get a girlfriend that was actually nice  usually they were being manipulative & so bad at it that women caught on early and rejected them

Sour-rose · Answer

"There are men out there like me, who would never do that to a girl and we can't get a girlfriend. Like pretty much ever." :)... buddy... you... you know you... you uuuh... you uuu

Anonymous · Answer

they don't
they only want the top 15% of men
the stats are there

so those men can cheat as much as they want
cause a new girl will be on his lap easy

so she has a choice be a side chick or stay single
most make the choice of side chick

TenderFantasy · Answer

You can probably say they have self esteem issues or desparate and horny. Want a relationship that bad.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

People carry the damage from their childhood into their romantic relationships. So if you see a woman gravitating towards POS men, it's because that's the example that was set for her by her father.

boggboss · Answer

You act like guys don't do the same finding a relationship that works is hard because of the many factors that come into it

Avicenna · Answer

It’s very catechism meet the right person. Andxdoneobexwho may be right at one time in your life might not always be.

Jacadia · Answer

Most men dont show their true colors until much later up to 3 or more years!

Agape93 · Answer

We don't know what man is a piece of shit until he shows it.

Wild_princess · Answer

Believe me i am asking myself the same question as long as i can remember

JakeS00 · Answer

Sometimes they don’t always see the signs or red flags.

Neilbud · Answer

The lesson will continue to be taught until it is learned.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they do it on purpose. They're not the people you were raised to believe. They don't care about how nice and sweet you are. They care if you're a badass brute who's tall and good looking and does whatever without caring what anybody thinks.

peedy · Answer

Because they're stupid and they refuse to listen to a nice guy

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Unresolved childhood trauma. Same reason you're scared of women.

comrade007 · Answer

Because they genuinely believe what they see or hear, they do not analysis

LazerBean · Answer

The same reason guys do the exact same thing.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they pick those guys on purpose. Niceness doesn't mean anything if you're not attractive.

WhitneySnow · Answer

They’re hot and charming

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Because we're so fucking good

Kaiserslautern · Answer

Women date women. There, problem solved.

madetostroke · Answer

women only want a small amount of men

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