What is the maximum age gap you would have with the person you are dating?

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I personally don't think I'll date someone younger than me. They have to be at least my age for me to date them. And 10 years older than me is the age limit for me. What about you all?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

When I was 23, I dated a woman who was 46 (+23).
When I was 52, I dated a girl who was 36 (-16).

At my age, my concern is a potential partner's health and activity level. I am 67 but very healthy, working full-time, and still active, and I want the same in a partner. My current girlfriend is 58.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

10 years either way, but its less likely to be 10 years older, as less women from that generation play difficult video games while also being artists.

ManOnFire · Answer

I won't date anyone under 28 and no one over 60.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I once, when I was in my late 20s, dated a woman in her mid-60s. So I guess that would be the range.

She was divorced and had two grown sons - both around my age at the time, or a bit older, give or take. The one son would kind of come and go and one time caught his mom and I having sex. That was a bit awkward, but other than that it was actually a pretty good relationship.

To me, I think I was just sort of taken with the idea that I was with this sophisticated older woman. For her, I think it was partly being flattered that a younger guy was interested in her, and partly that we just hit it off. She had not dated in years since her divorce and having a guy - even a young guy like me - around gave a little sparkle to her life. (I should add that we met through work.)

Plus, I admit, the sex was really good. She kept herself in good shape and had a sexy body. Plus the fact that we could have sex with no danger of pregnancy made it a bit more uninhibited for both of us.

Eventually, though, it kind of wound down. I knew that, in the long run, I wanted to have children. For her part, I think that while we had interests in common, after a while she just got bored with me. So it tapered off.

The age difference, in that sense, put a cap on what we could have. However, I would not take the time back. She was affectionate, she was classy, she was sexy and I really could not ask for more.

ohshee · Answer

It really does depend on the girl girls are 10 times more mature than guys I know some girls that are 18 19 year old and they own their own businesses they're smart they're confident they have beautiful hearts they like to go out and do things that women my age don't like to do anymore so it all just depends on the girl and how mature she is and what she's looking for in life we all know that with age there is a moment in time to where it doesn't matter how much you love somebody you have to leave that option open for them to walk away because I can't see myself 20 years older than somebody and them still having a very happy for death for life I don't know if that would be the case but I mean need that door always has to be open I would never want to hold anybody back

EnglishArtsteacher · Answer

It depends on whether we're talking about younger, or older. For the record, I'm a heterosexual man.
Since I'm a licensed English-Language Arts Teacher in the United States of America (USA), it is obviously unethical to be dating a high school student, even if the student is at least 18 years old. Here in the USA, the legal age to do many "adultlike" things is 21 years old. Due to these circumstances, I could not date anyone under 21 years old. Regarding older women, I can't see myself dating a woman over 49 years old. Women 50 years old, and older s are just too old for me, and even if some of them are still physically attractive. There is no way I could relate to anyone in that stage of their life.

So, to answer your question: My maximum age gap for dating someone younger than me is ten years, and for dating someone older than me, 18 years.

Miristheiss · Answer

I don't know.

I do know as I get older the gap gets bigger.

When I was a teen... let's say 17, I would have dated 15-18 year olds probably. I would have dated a 22 year old but that realistically was never going to happen. I was in high school. They were in college. We most likely wouldn't have met or run in the same circles and college girls of that age don't go back and date high school guys. It would have felt wrong to date 13-14 year olds... even though the age difference was only 3 years or so.

Now at 30... I am married but if I were single I probably would have been open to dating 21-22 year olds... so that is 8=9 years difference. I'm sure if I were single at 40 I'd go out with 26-28 year olds so that would be 10-14 years difference.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’ve dated someone 9 years older but he looked younger and I kept trying to not think about it. But i kept thinking about it and it turned me off. So i personally prefer a max of 3 years up/down. Once I’m like 40 then i may be able to do 5-10 years up/down

TransAm85 · Answer

I was 25 and my now husband was 33 when we met. I was a little weirded out at first b/c I was only 25, but the sex was awesome and I loved his '01 Denali XL! So I gave him a chance and got to know him a little more. Now I'm almost 37 and he's gonna be 45 next month.. age is nothing but a number! lol

SkyCastle90 · Answer

As long as the youngest person in the relationship is 18+ and there's no abuse of any kind, then the age gap isn't a problem; it's the health of the older partner that should be a big concern.

Personally, for me I never want to date younger, but at the same time I don't want to make a tiny human who is going to wear diapers with a man already in diapers.

Taliyaas · Answer

I would probably date a guy either my age or older. As for the maximum age gap maybe 5 years. I'm not too strict on age gaps but I do want to have stuff in common with him. If it's just for hookups or a friends with benefits relationship then age doesn't matter for me.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

When I am young, I prefer 4- 7 years older but when I am 30 I can date my same age and close to it (within a 4 year range, 2 below and 2 above) ... I tried dating someone a year younger than me..

Girls do mature faster... but once a guy is past his adolescence ( past age 25) then he can more freely match a wider range of women who are looking for the same seriousness.

Yes I speak for majority... not all..

Mantinziza · Answer

I could care less, lower or higher.

My only thing is whether or not you can have children, Cuase I want to have a family.

Ya I know that puts a ceiling on it, but I dont mind playin the field.

I dont believe in age gaps, and i have an extremely logical reason behind it.

i just dont go lower than 18, cause id go to jail at that point.

shaysh87 · Answer

I'm 26, my max age would be 35.
You can't grow old with someone who is already old. By the time I'm 45, I don't want to be married to a senior citizen bringing him to the doctor, or constantly reminding him to take his medication, or make sure he doesn't fall when he leaves the house. I want to be a wife, not a nurse.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

for me its no more than 2 years younger than me or 3 to 4 ( on exception) years older than me. Anything past those boundaries feels uncomfortable to me. I like the 30s is such a new ballpark so Im honestly scared to date anyone in that age range still even those I'm so close to it.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I used to be against age gap but I've change. I did notice that older man attended to be more loving and caring unlike guys my age all they care about is their stupid video games, prank calling. Every woman is different some might make a good match it either closer in age and some that make a good match with much older. But personal experience I am 29 my ex husband he is 30 and now were divorce. I don't know some people referred to me as being an old soul.

t-8900 · Answer

Youngest I would date is 23 BUT only with exception maturity
Oldest I would date is 15 years older than myself. Currently dating a chica 13 years my senior. It's the healthiest and happiest relationship I've ever been in in my whole life. I've never been so happy or made to feel so special.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

I'm open to what life throws at me, I don't think too much of my future and more on the present, I know I'm open to older women and younger as well, up to 18 of course, ain't no weird shit out here lol

SinceYouAsked · Answer

I'm married, so dating is really academic for me.
If that were not the case, though, I don't think I'd want someone my age (or older). I've already done that. As far as younger - only if she wasn't jail bait. And, at my age, I really don't care what people think.

KoolKidKv93 · Answer

Anywhere between 18 - 53 aslong as she look hot, I've seen hot 48yr olds before.. for example uhhhhhh. What's she called. Damn I forgot the name... Errrrrr... Fuck... Uhhh...

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Well she does a lot of porn playing the role of a mum

CubsterShura · Answer

I have no idea. I always dated older but currently I'm with someone younger and he's been way more mature and refreshing than any other guy I've encountered before.

menina · Answer

I wouldn't mind dating someone 5 years younger than me but my maximum is also 10 years older. Even though I think I don't have the experience and the maturity to date someone who is almost 40 years old...😬

Tiptoetamm · Answer

First off age is really just a number most of my exs except one were older by 10 plus years. I wouldn't go more than 5 years younger personally. I tend to gravitate towards older men. Always have clearly 😆😆

lilyanony1 · Answer

I would say no more than 10 years at 31 years of age... Men older than that are physically on the decline.
Although my libido isn't what it once was its also not finished so I want someone still able to get the blood circulating to all areas!

virtue2332 · Answer

I think you only put a number on something like that if you care what other people think. I've always been told I look younger than I am so for me it's more of how a woman caries herself and if we are compatible physically.

Кураж · Answer

I'd say 18~50 is the maximum range for me.
In practice it's more like 23~28, because I usually won't approach anyone younger or older than that.
But I wouldn't reject the outliers if we happen to click for real.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Above 18, and up to age 30, I’d say 3 to 4yrs MAX. After 30, I’d say 5 to 7 years! After 40, hell you made it that long, date as older of a person as you want!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I would not date anyone young enough to be my kid, or old enough to be my mother.. Other than that.. age doesn't bother me

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 15 years older than my husband. I never would have guessed I'd ever have an age gap that big, so I suppose that's my limit. Haha

FunkyMonkee · Answer

She'd have to be at least 18. No older than early 50's but that might even be too late. As long as she's legal and her baby factory still works. If I already had kids, that wouldn't be much of an issue, anymore.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I haven't completely decided, and I don't have a hard rule. All I can tell you is how I feel, and I don't think I would feel comfortable dating someone under 23.

Mary087 · Answer

The legal age 18-25 or 26. Won’t date a guy that’s too much older and of course won’t date a minor. I’m into younger guys tho so I go more for them, whether it’s casual or serious.

PJH359 · Answer

In the last five years, Twenty years younger than myself has seemed to work fine so far. Dated one person my own age and so far no one older.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If I were single and casually dating I would go down to 18, so 22 years. Not sure bout an upper limit, I'm sure there are some hot 60 year olds. For a relationship I think down to 30 and up to 45.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m 20 and the oldest I’ll go for dating it 25-26. I can’t imagine myself in a relationship with someone older. I feel like I want to be with someone who has the same “mental age” as me, if that makes sense.

MTC29 · Answer

A year or two older or ten years younger: essentially, the same level of life experience. My SO is 8 years younger, and it works fine.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

12 years, but I would be open to a larger age gap with the right person, not sure about younger either but that could change as I get older.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

My only real set limits on someone I would consider is they have to be old enough to buy me a drink. My present woman in my world is 17 years younger than me.

TrueConfection · Answer

Every timeI see this question, I think of Anna Nicole Smith.

JuanVeIasco · Answer

I don't like women older than me, I don't find them attractive, maybe I would just be attracted to something casual, but nothing serious.

20yearsolder · Answer

I've experienced 30-year age difference and it was amazing

AydenHazor · Answer

I don't personally sweet a limit if we're mutually interested in each other, as long as they are of legal age. I've dated from 12 years younger to 20 years older

Avicenna · Answer

10 years older if she’s in good shape and 30 years younger

DermalPunch · Answer

I was open to marrying someone 14 years younger so we'll say 14 years.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Under 5 preferably. In unique situations, 10 years max.

thatkendy · Answer

10 but it really depends like right now i wouldn't date someone who's 10 years younger than me😅

TyLeeAndPink · Answer

The oldest I’ll go for now is 21 at the very most. Youngest is 15.

anastasianowak84 · Answer

I'm 18 (turned 18 in jan), so the max for me is someone turning 25 for me this year. So like 5, maybe 6 and 7 years. 6 and 7 years difference is a bit much but I'll accept it. Anything higher I'll reject.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I’m not sure… I’d say it depends but they have to be older for sure

Anonymous · Answer

When I was 16 I dated a 60 year old man. 10 years on he's 70, sad as his health is deteriorating. He was a real man's man

Ekiewlen · Answer

I’m a guy. Age doesn’t matter if you’re attractive to me 😂

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I can’t do anymore than 6 years younger. And no older than 5

Preeti161101 · Answer

Knife 🔪 can cut all sizes of cucumber 🥒 so age does not matter if you wanna satisfy physical needs 😂😉

EnglishEuropean · Answer

10 years... and I'm not sexually attracted to anyone over 40 so I'm boned. Not in the biblical sense, obviously.

SignedAutographs · Answer

They need to be at least 18, and I'd say at least 21, to make sure that everything I'm doing with them, is legal

Anonymous · Answer

Somewhere between 25-28 years older. I strongly prefer much older guys, but there's a limit.

johnseggs · Answer

I dated someone a year younger than me and I felt like they were as mature as I was a year prior. I’d probably not date someone unless they’re my age up to a couple years older.

ms_and_ms · Answer

I have a date tomorrow with a woman who is ten years older than me

Guardian45 · Answer

As long as both are consensual adults, then age is a number that is NO ONE'S business, but your own!

InvoluntaryCelibate9 · Answer

Anywhere between 18 - 60. I don't really have standards. I'd be greatful to have any girl

SpitSpan · Answer

From legal age to mine, basically, if she could give birth/is not already a mother.

HaveNoName · Answer

I never dated but in my opinion, age gaps stop making sense as you grow older.

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