Should I go on a date with this guy?

[nocturnalbaby]

So about 3 weeks ago, I was walking around alone at the mall & a random guy came up to me & said ‘excuse me’. Once I realised he was talking to me, I responded & he told me that he just wanted to tell me I looked beautiful. I thought it was sweet so I just let him continue talking to me. He then just started walking around with me & chatting to me. He kept mentioning how I’m his type & that he finds me very attractive, & I was just trying to be quiet about that topic, because I didn’t find him attractive at all. I found him to just be a nice friendly guy that was good to talk to. I politely continued the conversation with him since I wasn’t in a hurry, & it was nice to have someone to talk to since I was alone at the mall. He then told me after about 40 minutes that he had to go, so he gave me his number & told me to message him sometime. I took about 2 weeks to decide whether I should or shouldn’t. For a while, I was thinking not to, because I was worried it would make him think I wanted something more with him since that’s what he seemed to want. However, I finally decided to just message him, because he was a nice guy & I felt bad knowing that he would probably never get to see or talk to me again if I didn’t message him, so I thought even though I’m not into him, I’ll just message him, & if he flirts with me or tries to initiate anything, I can Just explain to him that I only see him as a friend. He really wants to take me out on an ice skating date as well as out to eat, & I’m now thinking whether I should go or not. I’m worried that he wants more, but I just see him as a friend. I’ve moved back to my hometown after about 8 years of not living here, so I don’t have any friends here anymore & kinda feel like it wouldn’t hurt to go with him because I like ice skating, haven’t been in a long time, & could use some company. Would it be a good idea for me to go? Or should I ask him what his intentions are first & make it clear that I only wanna go out as friends?

[ohshee]

Guys who always want more if they find you attractive if they like you and they're your friend they always want more so you have to stablish that from the very good go you're only into this for friendship

You have to set up your boundaries
And then you have to understand that he's going to try to test your boundaries if you allow him to go past those boundaries then he's going to keep going past those boundaries so everything has to be established right from the very beginning so there's no heartache or miscommunication
And I also suggest that you always let somebody know where you're going through you're going with and never go up with this person not unless you know them very very well always be where there's other people

[Honesttguy]

Oh his intentions are clear as day he wants to have sexual relationship with you and not just nice friendly guy. He failed in his first approach complimemting you too much, 1 complimemt was plenty after that he became too much of friendly nice guy and not enough masculine challanging your ego type to spike sexual tension. Sad sad, now you will not tell him and he will never receive any feedback for his approach and where he failed and he will waste money and time and maybe years later learn what he did wrong or maybe eill give up and end up alone.

[Screenwriter]

This guy is attracted to you and wants to date you. You know what his intentions are, but you're willing to be taken out because you're lonely, despite not being interested in him as a boyfriend.

I'm sure he'll say you can be just friends, hoping that something else will develop. This isn't exactly fair to this guy. And it's unfair of you. Go to some "Meetup" site if you're only looking for friends. Don't be lazy and take advantage of this guy.

It ain't right.

[Anonymous]

No you’re just wasting his time and hurting him. He’s clearly attracted and interested in more than friendship. He does not want to be your friend. Find other people to befriend. Guys who wants more is not the way to go when looking for friends, you only hurt and frustrate them by putting them in the friendzone. You should never have messaged him.

[OlderAndWiser]

If he is going to be nothing more than "just a friend," why would you let hm take you out on a date?

[Truthatanycost]

'I thought even though I’m not into him, I’ll just message him, & if he flirts with me or tries to initiate anything, I can Just explain to him that I only see him as a friend.'

You are inviting problems into your life by making decisions that lack wisdom. It makes me wonder if you do the same in other areas of your life bringing yourself problems. Maybe you are afraid of a peaceful life, or bored.

Men do not randomly approach women in the mall to make a new friend, and he clearly showed romantic interest. Use your head!

[LaNc3L0TT]

DON'T, because he knows what he wants with you, unfortunately you want different things. You will waste your time and his and specially you will end up hurting him and by your text I can tell he is nice guy who doesn't deserve that. I can understand that you want someone to talk and he is perfect for that but again he will end up being hurt and broken. Yet again I feel you will regret not giving him a chance for love. :D
But your life your decisions... GL

[GingerGuy]

Well he's not even a "friend" yet, just a nice guy (it seems), but you aren't into him, and that's the bottom line, so it's fine to talk to him (should even), but let him know that you're flattered and glad he approached, but you're not interested in dating. And it's that simple. Nothing more needs to be said. Honest, direct and polite still.

[RealMarek]

He already signaled his intentions. He finds you beautiful and you are his type. If you want a platonic relationship with him you need to be clear about this up front and say you don’t want a romantic relationship with him. Don’t let him waste time thinking he has a chance of making you his girlfriend.

[Waldoe]

..." I ask him what his intentions are first & make it clear that I only wanna go out as friends?"... you KNOW the right thing to do, do NOT "lead him on" that is a 'bitch' move, be honest with him about you feelings, He is being Honest with you...

[MrPickles13]

I'd say ask about his intentions and that first and make it clear what you are looking for. As otherwise it could hurt both of you more. As misunderstandings and what not you know. So I'd say be open and honest.

[Surely]

I would be hesitant to go out alone with him. Since you don’t know him from a human trafficker.
Keep your guard up and tell someone where you are going.

[jammcm]

You will never make friends if you don't socialize. Go on the date. Tell him that you are just into being a frirnd right now.

[one1wild00]

I'd let him know up front, but also be prepared to go dutch on it He may be old school enough to still cover you, but be ready just in case.

[CubaPirate]

Go for it what have you gotto lose Just tell someone close where you're going to who with and what time you'll be back. Then call them to let them know you're safe when you get back

[zagor]

Ted Bundy is dead so you're likely OK.

[In_Trance]

sure, why not