Should I date this guy?

[Haha456]

I dont feel any chemistry with him and he can't make me laugh or give me an amazing time but he sacrified himself to do something for me that was so nice. I admire his kindness so much. And i have such an appreciation towards him. I care about him deeply. But i can't tell if my feelings are romantic. Probably not. But I know i love him deeply. I want to hug and kiss him passionately. But at the same time i am confused because even though i love him, im not sure if it is exactly romantic.

I dont get excited to see him. But i know i admire and care so deeply about him for all that he's done for me.

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe you should give him a chance and see if those feelings develop after spending more time together.

[Haha456]

I know it won't. What do you say?

[OlderAndWiser]

How can you know what might happen?

[slatyb]

Go ahead. Your feelings will change one way or the other.

[Haha456]

change in a good way or bad way?

[NathanDavis]

this is not love...

[Haha456]

I love him. Not sure romantically but i do love him

[NathanDavis]

it is not love... you say you love him, but that's how not love goes

nothing you feel about him is special to you...

love is supposed to many great thing as one

but for you he's just there like a wall or a chair

[Haha456]

I would fo absolutely anything for him if he needs help
I told him that i wanted to be his friend for the rest of my life

[Haha456]

I definitely feel something for him. I want to care for him forever

I dont get excited to see him but i do care for him very much

[NathanDavis]

if you want to be friends with him... they should definitely NOT date him at all

besides that... does HE want to be your friend? or something else more than that

if he wants to be more than friends, then the best thing you can do for him is to just cut ties with him, because chances are that he will never be happy with just being friends with you

[Haha456]

Many relationships or romances start off as friends or good acquaintances. You can't date someone if you can't even be friends with them

[NathanDavis]

that is true for some, yes...

and that was true in my case too, twice...

difference is... that you already pointed the many ways in which you just do not feel in any special way about him, and you do not have any "natural" element or ingredient for the possibility of developing further feelings

you would only be in a position of forcing and pretending, and that... never works out well

[Haha456]

Im really not forcing about the fact that i admire him

[Haha456]

Im not forcing that i care about him so much either

[Haha456]

There is nothing false about what I've said.

[Haha456]

Its all completely natural. Nothing I've said was a lie

[NathanDavis]

you can admire your father and your mother... but that is no reason to date them

you can care so much for your children, your pets and your neighbors too... but that is not reason enough to date them either, it would be wrong...

and I am not saying you are false or a liar... I am just saying that you do not see or feel anything special for someone that you see ONLY and merely a friend
so you should NOT date someone under this situation because you might just be leading them on and onto a situation in which they will get very hurt at the end

and if you really care for them, then do not risk hurting them

[Haha456]

Why would i risk hurting them? I do feel very attracted to him. I can marry such a man with such amazing heart and character. Love comes in many forms. I will never leave him for someone else. I can't ever repay him enough for what he's done for me. He just warms my heart

[Haha456]

I want to serve him and wake up early to cook breakfast for him before he wakes up for the rest of his life. Thats love

[Haha456]

He doesn't give me an amazing time. But i just admire his heart and soul so much. I am very attracted to him due to this. Despite it not necessarily being romantic attraction

[NathanDavis]

then go ahead... if you're okay with such a vapid view of marriage and if he agrees to it as well

best luck and wishes to the two of you... lol

[Haha456]

Did you know arrainged marriages have a 4% divorce rate while romance marriages have a 40% divorce rate?

Romance is clearly not the answer to a long term marriage.

[NathanDavis]

there would be a lot to discuss about those claims you just made

however, you do seem to be one that is set straight forward with this thinking, so again...

best of luck with it

[Haha456]

Romance is not key to a forever marriage. Your own data shows that.