Should I date him?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy and he's really sweet and we talk a lot and we have so much in common. But before me he use to sleep around a lot with like a lot of people. One of his one night stands we actually ran into when we were out together and she came over to say hi but he's a totally different person and hasn't been sleeping around a couple years. I like him , we talk we haven't slept together and he understands I'm not ready to sleep with anyone yet but should I got ahead and accept being his girlfriend or not. I don't care about his past relationships or whoever he slept with before but I would like to avoid another incident like that. He's too nice for his own good sometimes. He doesn't mind that I have guy friends as long as I'm being careful his does this whole having having reassure him thing however don't go into his private life truth is we haven't met any of each others friends are family. He's older and j guess a part of me is scared he'll stop liking me and I'm looking for a reason to end things before that happens I don't know.

[ShadowMonarch]

It's ok to be sacred, everyone has been scared like that in their life at some point,
You just dont want to be end up alone after what he gets and he leaves you,

The thing is, in this matter the answer is yours to give, ask yourself, what do you want? Is really that good,?, does he deserve to be your boyfriend,

In any relationship if you keep a good communication, you'll be good, what's in the past, it's in the past,

[Asker]

Thank you

[TheBootyChest]

If you have doubts, trust them. He doesn't seem to care about meeting your friends and family that is a red flag.

And are you sure he is not sleeping with other people?

[Asker]

We do spend hours on phone talking until morning so I guess not.

[TheBootyChest]

That's fair.

What is your heart telling you?

[Asker]

That I shouldn't think like that and just trust him, however logic kicks in.

[TheBootyChest]

It's a tough battle, your mind and your heart. You need to listen to both of them.

Do you think you are fighting for him, or for the feeling you get when you are with him?

[Asker]

Not really he does give me his undivided attention when we're talking. I can tell he's listening to me when we're talking. Tho his eyes sorta wonder to other parts of my body when we're talking, he does pay attention to the conversation with a lot of eye contact. That's what's got me second guessing about the whole thing.

[TheBootyChest]

How do you feel when you see his eyes wondering to different parts of your body?

[Asker]

I'm happy he's attracted to me but it makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes, like if I didn't look the way I did would he still like me or spend time with me

[TheBootyChest]

Yeah, that is a tough mindset to have.

But in a relationship, it should feel like it is equal parts physical and emotional attraction to each other. Once you feel like the physical attraction outweighs the emotional, it's time to rethink what's going on.

[Hoomin]

Maybe give it a short and try not to get involved so much that incase if something goes wrong you won't end up getting hurt. Just don't have expectations and see where it goes.

[chicosuave]

thats you're own judgement. you can't have other choose for you. thats a problem with women now in days. they care so much what others think. its you're decision.

[Smallboobsgotohell]

Date him don't be scared he seems a nice guy to me!☺️

[Asker]

thanks

[Smallboobsgotohell]

Ur welcome honey

[love_conquers_lust]

I wouldn’t. He’s a dog. He’s literally and figuratively fucked other girls.

[Asker]

It was before we started talking so I shouldn't care or be mad about it.

[love_conquers_lust]

I would care. I’d be wondering why he undervalues himself thinking he’s not good enough for one girl. Why does he have to sleep around? This is where girls need to wise the fuck up.