Alright so, PHYSICAL attraction is no problem, as long as they don't look ''ugly" to you, & ill tell you why in a bit. What you DO need though in this scenario (or pretty much any time, regardless) is attraction to the guy's personality. So you might like funny guys, or sweet guys, or confident guys, etc. As long as you like and are attracted to his personality, you should give him a chance. Why? Not because of the sappy moral thing people will give you, but because physical attraction develops when you're interested in someone.
When you like someone, and your attachment to them grows, your standard of beauty also changes for them alone. He/She will grow to become cuter to you. Because beauty is made up in your mind and is highly influence-able.
That's why when you break up with an ex or something after a bad fight, years later you look back and you go "ugh i can't believe i was into that" - it's cause their own self was put in a bad light and thus their beauty and physical attraction goes down. Get it?
I'm in the same boat.
None of the guys I like ever feel the same way about me and the guys that do like me I find revolting.
Therefore, I am 30, single, and never had a boyfriend. I refuse to date anyone that I don't like or feel any attraction to. And I won't settle for someone, just in order to say I have something that I want (a boyfriend).
I wouldn't date a guy I have absolutely no attraction too whatsoever, but I did date a guy for almost two years that I wasn't physically attracted to until later in the relationship, I was initially attracted to his personality when I got to know him, and grew to love his looks later for some reason
Be happy with yourself, your life and being single and keep looking. You must have some attraction or you're not going to be 100% happy. Sure, you've got a relationship now, yay, but are you going to be happier? Not likely, probably more unhappy. You'll end up breaking up with him anyway at some point and you've gone and hurt someone else in the process. Now you've got 2 unhappy people! Attraction is important, along with personality etc. Now, having said that, I would give some guys a change that maybe aren't "perfect". Like, if you have some attraction, but maybe not totally, yes give them a try. That attraction can definitely develop and grow as you get to know them more.
That's rough.
Honestly you should date people you like, that's your decision and leading someone on will waste both of your time.
A blanket statement i have for anyone with dating problems is focus and work on yourself. Find a hobby you can be passionate about, do something social like dance, get in and be physically fit, smell nice, figure out what hair style works best with your facial shape. Get a well tailored suit. Even on women they look great.
That's usually for guys though.
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Why you/re every man's dream- a girl who 'settles" for him. Sex will forever be a contract with him starving for it during times he fails or falls short of whatever you think important at the time! Men dream of this type of relationship all their lives!! Don;t worry-your "pretty" will last FOREVER and your "market value" won't slip a bit!!
Yes I think you should give him a chance, dating him does not mean you have to kiss him.
The worst that can happen is you wasted 1 hour of your life if you realise you don't like his way of being at all (and you can just friend zone him if there are advantages). At best, you might be surprised to see how easy it will be to overcome the physical appearance if he is a really cool and interesting guy.
Some day your taste will change and you will be attracted to those guys you're not right now.. It's what always happens to me, it takes years but it happens. So yeah date them..
Without reading anything other than the question, the answer is no. No you do not date someone you're not attracted to. Sooner or later you'll regret it if you do.
No. Sexual chemistry - of which attractiveness is critical - is absolutely necessary in the early years of a relationship.
If ur not attracted to the guy and not sure that u will be able to love him back i think u should not date him as this will give him false hope and break his heart. U can't just use him for ur entertainment. U should wait for the right guy.
No, keep searching for someone to whom you'll be mutually attracted, there are a lot of such guys for sure, you just need to search more effectively...
Yeah. Why don't you go ahead and become the thing you are complaining about in this post... maybe that will make you feel better.
Would you want a guy to do the same? if so, then go ahead...
Maybe you're not attracted to men who are attracted to you?
I don't know, do whatever you want, just don't play the guy
Honestly, if you're not attracted to him, it's dishonest to pretend you do. I'd be hurt if someone did that to me.
OH HELLL NAHHHH THAT WOULD JUST HURT HIM MORE
No... Unless you are a whore.
If you are not attracted, why force it.
Omg same here girl!!!
Yes if he loves you madly else NO
Sounds like your standards are too high, so yes.
Lol. Story of my single life
You could use it as practice
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