I think your feelings are perfectly reasonable, after all as you said if she wanted you why did she reject you before? I would say that you should not go through with this but tell her why, point out why this doesn't feel right and you wouldn't trust her because again, she could have had you before but rejected you and now you feel like she just wants to use you (she will probably deny it at first but maybe later down the line she will be more honest about it). My friend knows a guy who made this mistake, he had a crush on this girl for so long then she went off got a bit fat after going with all of these other guys and got older. She then started talking to him and he thought finally she was seeing his worth. Currently he is busting his ass to support her and she sits around at home doing nothing and they have a sexless marriage because she really didn't want him, she just wanted security. Not saying this is what she is doing but its highly suspicious and without a really good explanation for her change in her feelings, I would not persue this. Either way good luck.
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I wouldn’t because I would be expecting her to gain another 70. But maybe she’s had a hard time and is in a better place, wants to dump the weight, and sees you differently. If you like her personality then try it and see. You aren’t marrying her. If she’s not talking about losing weight without you prompting her, and you aren’t attracted to her new size, then let it go quickly.
No, you shouldn't date her. It's not fair to you that she used you only as a backup plan and now wants to go out with you since she's too out of shape to get anyone else. You deserve to have someone who's attractive and takes care of their appearance. And you shouldn't give her the satisfaction of having you now. She should have dated you when you first approached her if she was truly interested. It seems like she's only wanting you because she has run out of options. And who's to say she won't gain another 70 pounds? This could be just the beginning.
First , as already commented on, she is still very beautiful. Also, beauty is skin deep.
And she might of had a valid reason for not dating in the past, maybe she was afraid to lose a friend if it didn't work out and now she's a little older and willing to take that chance.
Don't let weight alone affect your decision. Weight put on can come back off.
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Did you post these pics before. I've seen these pics before. She's pretty. Don't date her if you can't give your all to her.
Dude... Why asking us? It's YOUR choice. Food for thought though, would you like to be treated like someone's backup? Like she literally rejected you earlier now she's the one asking you out, are you truly okay with it? Do you think she will be a good partner? You have to think about it by yourself, only you know what you want and only you know her as a person so ultimately it's up to you.
Honestly she looks better with the weight man. She looked like she would crumble like a crouton under some pushing in the before picture. But you asked a question only you can answer, can you get over being rejected before? Do you want to go out with her and maybe hit that? Let go of the memories man, she isn't the person she was yesterday and neither are you. That's good, live in the present.
Not because if her size because she is beautiful either way but because of the fact of "why now?". Noone should be a consolation prize. 70lbs gained or loss your worth more than just possibility and if you're already afraid she's gonna dip out if she loses the weight then she's not the one bro. Real shit there's billions of people on this earth 1 loss won't make a difference know your worth and respect that worth.
She looks pretty overweight but i understand where your
coming from you don't know what to do or what to say
just tell her you need a lot to think over cause it's true
she could go lose weight and end things with you might
self i would be afraid cause some people do them things
i would suggest to tell her you much rather remain friends
sure this might upset her but you want to put your mind to
ease.Of course she wants to date you. Now she's desperate. This is what they do!!! The ride the cock-carousel, trying to snag a fukboyz, all the while spurning many perfectly good guys, 'till they realize if they don't get serious they'll never find a partner. So they go back through their history to see who they can re-up. It's disgusting.
And she's an alcoholic. So you'll get to deal with all that nightmare as well.She might have changed her mind about you and decided not to let you get away. I'd say go for it, but if you're gonna continue worrying about if she loses the weight, you'll lose her, then there is no real point putting yourself through it. If you spend your whole life worrying about stuff you can't change, you're gonna miss out on a lot of stuff.
in one of these photos she is wearing a ring on her wedding finger so she is not available for you any way which is good for she is to good to want you any way ! looser ! thanks
You know, even after gaining all that weight, she's still pretty attractive. I say it's a risk worth taking, especially since she wants to lose weight. One doesn't enjoy life by defensively worrying about what could go wrong all the time.
My philosophy is if she didn't want me then, why now? I don't want to be her second choice and will not be a fallback now.
Looks like she gave her best to a bunch of other guys, and wants to offer you the leftovers now that her standards had to be lowered.
You're a decent looking 35yo. You could land hot younger women with no problem. Don't settle for leftoversIf your heart wants her then date her. If it doesn’t feel right then don’t
Would u like it if she based your weight or something down stairs that not be up to size. Beacuse of her weight. Yes if her personality is awesome and you click. Who cares I think she still GORGEOUS
she's hot... fuck the must me skinny crap.. she's beautiful looking and I like curves on girls
She'd be far better off without someone as shallow as you.
Tbh, she still looks pretty hot. I don't think she chose you because she can't find another guy. So I don't think a change in weight made her think she can't find someone else.
You should date her if you like her qualities but not feel forced that you need to do it. It is best to make sure you want to and are ready.
I would date her in a heart beat. That's messed up you don't want to date her.
Fatsos are undateable. Disgusting!!!
Block her and find someone new because she lost her chance and also fat now so..
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