Why does the guy I’m dating always mention me going out with friends? Why is he so insecure about it? I don’t even go out every weekend?

[Anonymous]

This topic has been brought up more frequently in the past few weeks and he’s started to text me “where you at” more often too. Mind you were just dating and nothing is official.

[Helotome]

He seem to have poor communication skills or clingy as f*ck. He may be insecure. But how is he with you face to face? But still if he only ask where are u without telling you what you should do then that is fine. But what else is there? That question shouldn't bother you I believe there's more things you noticed also.

[Asker]

We’re just dating and nothing is official but I think he is insecure. He’s told me had a cheating partner before. Face to face, he tells me he doesn’t believe when I say he is the only guy I’m dating. I just feel like he doesn’t trust me already.

[Helotome]

He have a trust issue and basically you find yourself explaining yourself like telling him your friends that you are with. That isn't an healthy relationship and you get sick of his shits sooner. You are wasting your time girl. I advice you to move on. You deserve someone who can trust you because you are so sweet. If I was so you i would end the shit a long time ago!

[Asker]

Thanks. You’re right I shouldn’t have to explain myself. Especially if I’m doing nothing wrong.

[Anonymous]

Just imagine how bad he'd be if you were official. Often the first signs of a very controlling and jealous guy. Could be a huge red flag! Does he ever get upset about it? Another sign. Keep an eye on this and don't ignore it.

[Iron_Man]

He just doesn’t like it what will you do?

[Asker]

I mean but why does he not like it? If I go out with a friend to grab drinks or whatever what’s the real issue?

[Iron_Man]

Men don’t like the girlfriends going out to the bars anything can happen The drink has nothing to do with it it’s the other men around the bars

[Iron_Man]

Unless you and the boyfriend go together alone

[Asker]

Men at bars are gross 🤢 he has nothing to worry about lol

[Iron_Man]

But you have to remember the guy probably wants peace of mind and he doesn’t trust guys hitting on you

[Asker]

I understand it. Well I guess whatever guy I’m dating better enjoy going out to bars

[Iron_Man]

That’s not the problem you and him going out in person to the bar the problem is you going alone with your girlfriends is the problem for the guy. I’m exactly the same way myself if you haven’t figured it out already LOL

[Iron_Man]

Thanks for most helpful Award

[Anonymous]

He does not trust you. And since dating is for you to discover if you are compatible, the question is, why are you still dating an 'insecure' guy... as you said.

[OddBeMe]

He’s trying to control you. Keep you dependent on him.

[Avicenna]

Only he could possibly know. The two of you should communicate better.

[Anonymous]

I don't know ask him