I haven't dated since I broke up with my ex in college, any tips for getting back out there?

[Smacktabular]

I'm not asking for tips on how to hook up, I'm not interested in that. I just want to know what the best way to meet people is. Things have been pretty monotonous lately and honestly if I could just meet someone to have a nice conversation with every once in a while, that would be amazing, so any and all advice on that would be much appreciated, thanks.

[SueShe]

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be pro-active and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety if you have any.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[Iron_Man]

Try Christian Mingles it’s hard to pick up women in person at the mall saying excuse me ma’am I noticed something over here and then you got to talk to her and make your next game plan move real fast that’s kind of tough for example especially for shy people

[t-8900]

In person, at a casual place. Start engaging with people and just talking

[zagor]

Join some groups that have a lot of people your age.

[Anonymous]

Don’t. Women are not worth it anymore.

[Mushair_]

how long ago?

[Smacktabular]

Going on four years now