Why do people look down on dating single mothers?

[Okcoolthen13]

I’m dating a single mother. She has two kids both by different guys. She seems cool but my friends keep telling me to get out of the situation. Is it really that bad?

[Avicenna]

Especially in a situation like that (multiple kids by multiple men), the new guy is walking into a dysfunctional situation where he is being used, both financially and emotionally. That's why- you don't need that chaos and drama. At your age, you can easily find a woman with no kids.

[IsoUser]

I could certainly understand why they think that considering she has two kids with two different guy's, I would definitely warn you as well before you become the third guy she has a kid with. I don't mind being with a girl who has kids but not with multiple fathers it's just showing she's not mature enough mentally.

[Andro36]

That's just pure sexism She is not less of a woman. Mu husband has a kid and I've seen men with three or four kids dating without any problems. Maybe financially you might give it a thought. But for the rest I don't see a problem. Fuck your friends. It's your decision.

[MCheetah]

What makes you think any man is obligated to have to raise someone else's kids and financially pay for a woman's personal mistakes in life? A widow is one thing, but most of the time, single mothers are women who made bad life choices and chose the wrong kind of men; men who aren't father or family material. Now you think it's a man's job to clean up her mess and if he doesn't sacrifice his time and money kissing her kids' asses and trying to please two or more people, instead of just the woman as he would with a childless girl, he's a "sexist?" FUCK. THAT!

I'm so sick of hearing some women cry everything as "sexism" that many of us couldn't give any less of a fuck, at this point. It usually just means the person saying it isn't worth taking seriously. Sexism this, sexism that, blah, blah, blah... No one gives a shit.

[Andro36]

@MCheetah Why do you make it a money situation? If she works and she and he father of the kids are responsible for them I don't see the problem. Oh let me guess 3,2, 1 before you start screaming that you hate people of this generation cause you think you are different and special. Mind your own business and let people do as they please.

[Avicenna]

That is almost never the situation when a single mom has kids with two different men

[Andro36]

@Avicenna thanks for MHO

[Okcoolthen13]

She doesn’t work lol

[Andro36]

Well that's a whole different story

[MCheetah]

Because only a sucker or a man who really wants kids, would raise another man's kids and put in all the extra work and money for children you can't even control or discipline. This woman is using you, just like many single mothers do. But if you're fine with that, then whatever.

[Andro36]

So. if a woman dates a man who has kids is he using her too?

[MCheetah]

@Andro36
Yes.

[Avicenna]

@Andro36: Those men rarely have the kids living with them and they aren't expected to be a mother figure or provide financial support. If they are, then and only then, are these women being used by single fathers.

[Anonymous]

Either listen to your friends and learn the easy way, or listen to Andro36 and learn the hard way. When there are completely single women out there, it makes no sense to date a single Mom. It's not about looking down, or sexism, it's about making good choices, just as women do each time they7 assert their preferences.

[Dchrls78104]

In my country, dating a single mother can be dangerous. Recently a soldier was murdered when he intervened in a dispute between his girlfriend and the father of her child, who happened to be a known criminal.

[Anonymous]

you wanna see the reality
risking your life like an idiot

Isaiah 55:11

So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it

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[Opinion Owner]

don;t have kids with her or else you are stuck and now you will have to fight lol

[Anonymous]

Because more than likely she had them out of wedlock or wasn’t able to make a marriage work. She’s won’t admit it, but she’s looking for a sucker to take care of her and her kids. You will always come last in that relationship.

[Berethor]

Too much baggage, also two kids both by different guys? sounds slutty.

[scott04sa22]

I don’t date single mothers over lots of Reason and most of them still have feelings with her kids biological fathers or she’s in friends with benefits with them

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You should follow your heart and ignore what people tell you

[padreflint]

I have no idea, I dated a single mom before. It can have its challenges. One problem some guys have is that they are not the priority in her life. Which says so much more about them than it does her.

[Twalli]

I think the concern is that she's not that good of a person, because she obviously doesn't mind having sex without proper protection with people she's not completely serious about.

[Anonymous]

They're just looking out for you man. She's already got 2 strikes against her. Let's hope she's learned from the past 2 guys... assuming there's only BEEN 2 guys.
Good luck!

[bamesjond0069]

People who already failed at relationships that come with serious baggage. Hmm lets think about this for 5 seconds... RUN!

[Anonymous]

Dude, she has made two prior mistakes.
Her track record shows her ability to make good decisions is poor.
You don’t want to be the kick around for some other guys children.

[dudeinohio]

Been there. It's okay. We did break up, but it had nothing to do with being a single parent.

[Anonymous]

Its not bad to date them for sex but not for a relationship

[RedpRms]

You're participating in your own cuckoldry with a woman that makes bad decisions, you tell me.

[Creampiekarl420]

Yes it is because those women are poor judge of character and bad morals

[Andro36]

Why? Because they divorced?

[Creampiekarl420]

@Andro36 because they gave themselves to a low value man

[Anonymous]

It's too hard to go on trips or have spontaneous love and fun when young and not prepared to be a parent. Never again

[jimmy2]

If you can accept her kids as your own then yes get out

[exitseven]

Just make sure you use condoms.