Guys Is that a dealbreaker I don’t wanna have sex until I’m engaged? I just don’t wanna end up hurt?

[Anonymous]

[ohshee]

Knock knock
Who's there
Engagement ring
Engagement ring who
Engagement ring that goes on your finger and you give up sex for it and just because you're wearing it doesn't mean that you still can't be hurt that's who that's kind of like a manipulation you should have a better reason I take that back it could be looked at as if it's a manipulation I do understand your reasoning behind it but you have to understand that engagement ring wedding ring it doesn't mean anything anymore do something or don't do something based on all the facts I understand your reasoning behind that ring and it's a good deal it's a good reason but that ring doesn't mean forever or lifetime it's almost like putting a down payment on a home or a car you get it but that doesn't mean it's not going to break down or not go to a natural disaster I hate telling you this but you already know it down deep and be honest about it don't want to do it because you're not ready because when you want to do it it's because you will be ready and you won't have your parents on your back because you're not engaged and you don't want to be looked at like a naughty girl and to be honest it's only your business and his business and I she probably delete my answer I'm not going to because somewhere in there there's a message

[Sixgunsound]

Well, you need to define sex, as even the most understanding man is going to need a little something if not intercourse for the years involved in dating and engagement if you expect exclusivity, and I find it highly unlikely that you do not. You can have a lot of fun outside of that. I respect your decision and understand the motivation, so you need to figure out where your boundary is and how much wiggle room you have until you hit it. Most people who have this approach wait till marriage not just engagement, because engagement really doesn’t mean much in practical terms. I broke off an engagement when I found out she was cheating on me during deployment.

[Sixgunsound]

Thanks for MHO

[England4eva]

You do whatever makes you feel comfortable. You are not leading anyone on, cause you make your boundaries known, so no guy can complain as they are free to leave if they don't want the commitment. If anything, you are just weeding through the list of potentials in a smart way that protects yourself and gives them the 'option out.'

Always stay true to you. Less chance of regrets later in life then.

[TonyMetal___86]

Good advice 😊👍🏻

[England4eva]

@TonyMetal___86 I do try!

[Anonymous]

Just engaged? (ie some people get engaged and never make it to the wedding day sadly lol). Well it's right and important for you so that's what's important. If I'm dating you, I can respect that. Personally I don't think it's a good idea. Sexual compatibility is very important and real, and something I don't think people take seriously enough, and it's not something you want to wait until marriage to find out about. But that's my view. And like I say, you could get hurt regardless (always that risk), sex or no sex.

[Effably]

There are plenty of people who would see this as a good thing.

I am not one of them and to me it would be a dealbreaker. I find that sexual chemistry is very important and near impossible to truly on before you are in that situation together.

[Kaamraj]

Is it fair that you will have to pay half of every date, give equal value of gifts, make equal effort to keep the relationship going upto engagement and then pay half of the lawyer fees to draft up and sign a pre-nuptial agreement.

[TonyMetal___86]

Tbh that's easy, a man shouldn't expect sex from his girl until marriage because that's the right thing to do, if you truly love the girl than marry her and have sex as much as you want with her cause at this point she will be yours...

[CountryWanderer]

Wait for a guy that has that same boundary. Something that personal to you should be valued by your partner.

[HighValue]

Do you offer them a prenuptial agreement then? If not, then even asking for marriage is a deal breaker.

[Truthatanycost]

Most guys are only looking for sex so you might not have much luck with that...

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nope. There are guys out there who feel the same. I doubt that many, but I'm sure there are some.

[OddBeMe]

You’re looking at sex as the objective. It’s incidental to having a great relationship. Focus on finding a guy. and dont value “pureness”. That’s religious bullshit.

[chulo1992]

MAJOR deal breaker!!! As a man that has always been anti-marriage and always will be, if I find out a woman is on that path... I AM OUTTA THERE!!!

[Hellraiser1984]

It just fine I'm the same way. You don't have to advertise your virginity to anyone it's your business.

[sirderpsalot123]

I'm sure some guys would be fine with that. It would be a dealbreaker for me, though. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with wanting to wait.

[notwoke]

dealbreaker. This is a sure sign she'll be denying you sex after your married for any number of bullshit reasons

[Dchrls78104]

No, not a dealbreaker for me. I wouldn't want sex until after I got married.

[Guardian45]

Good for you! DON'T cave in to guys. Find one who respects your values!

[bamesjond0069]

Thats a great idea... if you are a virgin. Otherwise its a terrible idea.

[slatyb]

Do you imagine that engagements can't be broken?

[TheLastRhodesian]

Yes, because I'm never going to commit.

[Nahid1707]

That is understandable

[Anonymous]

Nope, but then I am waiting for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it would be for me.

[TheMajesticKing777]

It makes sense

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope it's fine.

[In_Trance]

deal breaker