Would any guys wait until engagement for sex?

[Anonymous]

I'm 30 years old and don't really want to have any more boyfriends. I haven't been in a relationship/had sex for the past 5 years so I have good self control. But I would really like my future husband to wait until engagement day to have sex. My plan is to date a lot of different men, only go on short dinner dates together, and see who sticks around.
In my past experience guys push me for sex on the first date and when I don't give in, they are rude to me and disappear.
I wouldn't tell the guy on the first date that I'm looking for engagement, I was just hoping that by witholding sex he might see me as a higher value woman and therefore will be more likely to commit.

[Anonymous]

You are ‘’ high value woman’’ already. You are not defined by other peoples opinions. Your value doesn’t change by having sex. But if it makes you uncomfortable of course you can set boundaries to the people that you date. It is your life and your boundaries, if they don’t want to wait it is their decision. You should learn setting boundaries first. If you have sex because guys push you to have sex then it means that you can not set boundaries. People come and go but it is your life don’t change yourself everytime for validation.

[Anonymous]

The problem is, lots of women already have a high body count, so guys can't take them seriously. It's good to what and see if the guy cares about you first, but if you have a high body count, be honest with him about it and see how he feels about that. Lots of guys don't want to marry someone like that.

[Asker]

I only had sex five times with my ex fiancee before he cheated on me (he wanted to wait for nearly a year before having sex). That happened at 24/25, he was my first, now I'm 30 and been celibate since then. Is my body count too high? Am I not marriage material because I had sex with a man who proposed to me? Should I had said no to my ex fiancee and remained a virgin at 30 to increase my chances?

[Opinion Owner]

No your body count isn't high. I didn't say you aren't marriage material. It happens to a lot of people. You are faithful and they cheat, it's not your fault. But a lot of women start having sex when they are teenagers and have a high body count by the time they are your age, they are the ones that no one will marry.

[Sam_The_Savage]

I have counter question.
(1) why guy would wait engagement for sex? Do you have something different to offer than other girls in relationship?

[Asker]

Yes, by waiting longer than the average woman does he might see me as different!

[Sam_The_Savage]

But why guy wait?
What you have special to offer?

[Asker]

I don't know, I have a good body and once I'm in a relationship, I'm a nympho, ready to try anything and endless please him?

[Sam_The_Savage]

Well dear it's easy to get girls with good body for quick sex. Than why would guy wait for you? Any special to offer?

[dustybiker]

Nope. But I waited until I was ready.

[dudeinohio]

I'd never go. along with that

[alance99]

I can wait for sure