Girls, Why do I feel afraid that if I have standards, I will stay single for a long time and I don’t feel that my standards don’t matter?

[Anonymous]

I do have boundaries and standards but sometimes I feel like I don’t deserved to get what would make me happy. I feel And the only type of guy who would meet my standards is someone I may not be attracted to at all what so ever. I afraid that I will lose a guy that I really like if I set standards and he’s not going to meet. How do I get out of this mindset.

[SecretsofKB]

Everyone has standards. Everyone had then and anyone who says otherwise is lying.

A lot of people have higher standards than they should. But a lot of people also have lower standards than they should.

You have set these standards for a reason. When you meet someone, you'll start to see if they meet these standards. They may meet some but maybe not all. If this happens, you'll figure out pretty quick if those standards they aren't meeting are even that important to you. If you like this person enough to ignore the fact they don't meet those standards, then they weren't that important.

If you can't ignore them, then they are important and that person is not the poison person for you!

[Asker]

Thank you! I like your answer !

[SecretsofKB]

No problem! Let me know if you need anything else!