Why do desperate single girls who claim they have high standards not realise that the real reason they are single is because?

[Anonymous]

... the men they find desirable as a mate have standards of their own that they simply do not meet?
That these guy can literally pick and choose and dump a girl if she doesn't make the grade. These high calibre guys are greatly in demand and are looking for certain qualities in a woman such as looks, intelligence, age, earning power, fertility, humour, financial assests, financial responsibility, ability and willingness to have kids, can cook, will clean and will look after the kids while he's at work. We High Calibre guys will not settle nor negotiate when looking for a high quality woman. Why should we? After all its a buyers market and you can TRY before you BUY.

Delusions of grandeur

Denial not just a river in Egypt

can't handle the truth

can't measure up to the standards of the men the desire

[Anonymous]

As highly educated guy with a great job, my own home and decent savings account I agree with you completely. Before I got married I was able to sleep with as many women as I wanted because what I brought to any potential relationship was that desirable. I've all kinds of crazy chicks such as an ex fiancee who wanted to keep her maiden name-dumped or this one ex girlfriend who didn't want to make me a sandwich-dumped or the ex who thought I spent to much time with my friends-dumped. People shouldn't have to settle, I didn't. I dated around until I met a girl who matched my high standards and lets me be a man and accepts my dominance in the relationship and that I am head of the household.

[Asker]

I hate chicks refuse to make me a sandwich lol. Yeah I find that too about being able to sleep with loads of girls because of what I might bring into a relationship which is strange because at school snd the first few years of college they treated me like a dud but now that im successful they treat me like a stud with a solid gold penis lol

[Opinion Owner]

Lmao
*filler

[NerdInDenial]

A lot of these "desirable" men want one really important thing: she's got to be hot!

[Asker]

Finally somebody gets it

[StarsInTheEyes]

Hahaha... I have a boyfriend, but I just want to comment that it's impossible to have strong financial assets but watch after kids when the man is at work. Having a well-paid job means that the woman will be at work as well, because a housewife does not earn money staying with the kids at home. I'm in healthcare and I love my job. I'm not going to give up on my career for kids, although my man and I will work it out when it comes the time when both of us want a child and are ready for one.

Just saying.

[JHAYES317]

@StarsInTheEyes I do think the whole financial independence thing is less important if you decide to have kids and become a housewife, it’s before you have kids where the whole housewife thing feels more one sided…

[Sweetheart64]

I agree with everything you have said. But what about the women who seem more dominate? I am also highly educated, make decent money, have my own house and car and all of that, but because of that I come off as too independent to any "quality" guy. I make my own way in life, I am looking for an equal not someone who I serve, I don't mind making sandwiches but he better make me one once in a while😂

[JHAYES317]

@Sweetheart64 believe it or not, plenty of guys are cool with that, assuming you have similar long term goals as far as family, kids, etc. If anything I have more of an issue with girls expecting me to spoil them without them doing anything in return besides having sex with me which frankly shouldn’t be a transactional thing in the first place…

[Anonymous]

Im desperate and single, but I have never conplained about guys having hight standars nor do I think im amazing or anything, if guys dont want to date me it doesn't surprise me at all..

But I work out and eat healthy, ho to uni, work and Im working on my personality/ self esstem so that I can be everything I want in a guy basically. . Dont want to be hypocrotica l; )

[Explore2016]

Well I dont see why men and women can't equally have high standards when it comes to being in a relationship. Unfortunately there will be a lot of losers left on their own.

[JHAYES317]

@explore2016 ultimately I think you need to only have standards that you can match yourself…

[israelisevil]

When i 15 i using this uggo danielle a few years older for money cause she buy pizza i didn't feel bad cause how high her standards were she also drank all the time wich i find gross and judged me doing shrooms once a month to break habbits for ocd. I left her after week or 2 she also got really mad she expected me to pay for dates 100 percent cause this i dont feel bad girls with high standards get manipulated unless they earned righ have high standards. im 18 now my current girl is perfect the abortion meme relatable i had take her get one few weeks ago, but my current girl perfect we been together almost 2 years now and a lot of it cause of how excepting she is and undemanding, she also hotter and kinder.

[Anonymous]

Why are you so bitter about women having standards? Why do you care?

[Asker]

Just to be clear this not an attack on women anymore than a similar question about why women should have high standards is an attack on men. No Butthurt was intended its merely a question.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not about being butthurt, I certainly am not. I just wonder why you and other men keep complaining about the fact that women have standards too. If some women have standards that you think are too high then just let them have them. Why do you care? Why is this even a question? I see these sorts of stuff here every day. Women have standards just like men have standards. Some women refuse to lower their standards because they would rather be single than to be with a guy they don't want and that's it.

[Asker]

All I asked was why women with high standards dont realise that the guys they desire have standards too. How many women be complaining that they can find no good men.

[Opinion Owner]

They probably understand that. And just because they are complaining about not finding a guy they want doesn't mean they want to settle for someone they don't want just to not be single.

[Asker]

Well as guy in demand im enjoying it.

[witherwing]

Because people hate to feel unwanted and make excuses so they don't feel so bad about themselves. It's a defense mechanism. No one wants to realize they don't measure up.

[JHAYES317]

@witherwing good points

[DianaWest]

i think most people are average. i very rarely see guys that i consider very hot.

[JHAYES317]

@DianaWest and that’s the problem…women are going after like 3% of men lol

[adoriakim]

There should be another option willing to wait or want to die alone

[JHAYES317]

@adoriakim people say that then they hit 35 and suddenly they settle for bargain bin…

[9mfeo]

Having impossibly high standards despite having nothing to offer is not an exclusively female problem, darling.

*yawn*

[Asker]

Nobody said ot was sugar plums.

*yawn*

[DianaWest]

yup. most guys are 40 pounds overweight and balding, and yet consider themselves "high calibre."

[JHAYES317]

@DianaWest guys can’t control balding…so it so unfair to make that a marker of high value…

[Anonymous]

I see that mytake called it's ok to high have high standards made you butt hurt.

[Asker]

Not really as I meet those standards lol

[Poppykate]

Having trouble getting a date?

[Asker]

My date card is actually full. Im not looking for a relationship at the moment just casual sex as I recently dumped my fiancee as she wasn't meeting my relationship needs. My question is inspired by an aunt of mine whos 30 and has such high standards for the kind of guys she dates.

[Poppykate]

You dumped your fiancée? Do you say that she has high standards because she is 30, and you think that she should grab onto the first lifeboat she can get her hands on? Or is it because she goes through a lot of men?

[Asker]

Just to clarify my fiancee was not my aunt lol. No not the first life boat but she should take an honest objectified look at who she is and what she brings to a potential relationship because she has been through an awful lot of men and many of them were serious about her but they weren't good enough because of her high standards, a few of her exs are now very successful guys that actually met her standards. she's actually 35 her looks are fading and she's starting to get a bit chubby and the great guys that used to be interested in her no longer are. She has a history of being woth older men with loads of money but they just want some fun as they have already been married and had kids and want nothing more. She really should lower the barr as she is just an average girl that should really have settled down with sn average guy as settling down is all she has talked about for thd last fifthteen years.

[Poppykate]

Well as a 30 something's girl who haven't been married. I would say that maybe she just hasn't met the right guy yet.

[Asker]

She has met the right guy when she was 26 who she loved but he didn't make the cut because he was a only a builder and she was at university. Ten years later he's a millionaire and prominent local business man, wife a lovely wife and four kids. Foreign holidays every year and they have a nice big home that funningly enough overlooks my grand parents house where my aunt lives. Obviously she regrets that big time.

[Poppykate]

I don't know. I think that she needs to find someone that she loves. Maybe she wanted someone who was more intelligent. Although I am not saying that a builder is not intelligent. But if she has a degree, maybe she would also like to meet someone with a degree so they can discuss... Whatever. I don't know. I had been dating a guy who worked in a factory. I have 2 masters degrees. He didn't want to commit. But it worked for a long time ( almost 10 years)

[Asker]

The guy has an engineering degree but yes that is one of the reasons. My aunt has a masters in social work from Queens and even that my Dad who never went to university wrote 75% of it for her and the rest she got off the internet, like a lot of people she should never have been given a college placement to study a non subject thar she will scrape through all so she could work as a cashier.

[Asker]

Sorry to hear about your guy.

[Goldie757]

If a woman is "desperate" then they don't have high standards.

[Asker]

There are desperate when they are complain about there isn't enough "high quality" men out there and that they dont want to settle.

[Goldie757]

Then they are clearly not desperate. Desperate women settle.

[Asker]

They usually settle when the reach their 30's or get cats.

[dwiller943]

Because standards= SELF RESPECT.

[JHAYES317]

@dwiller943 only if you live up to the standards you set for others