Why is there so many nice and successful girls who are still single?

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JasM0 · Accepted Answer

This is going to be a long one…

From an evolutionary standpoint, men are consumers of the feminine product (this is reciprocal regarding men’s masculinity). Generally, it’s a value proposition - what’s her added value. Most people who chase success are saddled with debt, significantly earlier in life. So, if a woman wants to have children and stay home, the finances change. We always weigh the worst case from a financial standpoint. At this point, he now has the plus your debts and his. From a provider standpoint this is stressful and most guys don’t want to deal with it.

Guys are ego-based creatures. Right or wrong, assertiveness from an evolutionary standpoint is seen as a masculine trait. Men don’t want to complete in the world for their families to come home and complete in their place of peace.

I’ve also noticed that in popular culture, women want men to use the same qualities that they seek in a mate. This goes back to my point of success. Yes, career success is great but how does that add value when you pivot and want to care for the kids full time? It’s a sincere question for most men and we need your help in understanding the case.

Regards!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because women tend to place a lot of value on money and when they have money themselves they expect equal or more from a potential partner but if a man is earning a significant amount of money he has his pick already and he doesn't care what you have, its doesn't matter to him and actually what he might want is someone who going to look after his house and his children and if you have a serious career then that isn't you.

So my best suggestion would be to remove money / status from your filter when viewing potential partners and look at the person inside.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

It could simply mean that those women are focused on securing a stable future.
It doesn't mean they don't like relationships at all or they're high maintenance.
Upon reaching certain individual goals, successful women begin to open up to the possibility of having a relationship and a family.
Timing is key.

hsshannah96 · Accepted Answer

Because after what guys keep putting me through they’re lucky I haven’t decked them in the face! I don’t want to date. that’s why

slatyb · Answer

One reason could be that there are more women with college degrees than men. A woman who wants to marry a man with a degree and a career find herself in a seller's market -- the men have more choice. Also a some college-educated men are happy a non-degreed woman, while degreed women are more reluctant to marry a non-college man.

But it's not the same all over. In the US there is a surplus of single professional women in Boston, New York, Washington, but a surplus of single professional men on the west coast, particular Seattle and Northern California.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It could be a standards thing. Like the women are shooting for something that just isn't available to them. Sometimes the women have neglected to learn how to do things that men find attractive in a romantic partner. It could also be a time commitment problem. Sometimes that kind of woman isn't as nice a person to men as she is to her friends; I've dated a few women like that.

I'm talking with a successful woman right now online for example, who has no idea how to cook. She's a gorgeous woman, successful as a power infrastructure engineer, smart and witty, fun to talk with, we even share some hobbies (like photography); but she describes herself as "useless in the kitchen."

Now... that's not necessarily a deal killer, but if I wasn't the kind of guy who knows how to cook for myself, the fact she doesn't know how to cook could be a problem for me.

zagor · Answer

Why are so many nice and successful guys still single? Maybe because those nice successful girls are looking for a guy who looks like a movie star with an income to match.

Or maybe they're just not meeting each other. I was watching a video a while back (it was in Japan, where shyness is more common) but there were four young guys in a casual restaurant sitting around talking about (according to the subtitles) not finding girls while there was a table of girls of similar age nearby talking about guys the same way. Each totally oblivious to the other table, and, apparently, irony.

jasco · Answer

Well a lot of these women are around their 30s by than most men/women are in relationships/married and have kids. So most women who are successful usually don't develop relationships that can lead to romantic feelings, instead they focus on their future which isn't wrong. Simply put a lot of men don't care if a lady is extremely successful or not. Yes we want someone who has a future and stuff but we don't care if you don't have the $million (s) house and stuff, we want something that's more mentally speaking. Some of these successful women could be considered by men anyway to be bitchy which is a turn off to both genders.

MCheetah · Answer

Because they're not actually nice, and men don't care about how "successful" women are in their job fields, since it's unlikely men will be getting any of that money like women do when they date successful men.

But yeah, if they were actually nice, they wouldn't be single, because single men VASTLY outnumber single women nowadays (and so many lesbians out there, offset the remaining women who aren't with men).

Qdbrown · Answer

Kevin Samuels says it best. If a woman has a career, get a pet and die alone.

In the past, guys would marry career women. They will date and do them, but not marry. Especially with the vast sea of red and black pill wisdom.

The only thing worse than a career woman and a single mom. There are so many horror stories that circulate.

If a man wants a happy family, find a woman who actually wants to be the woman. Seems to go without saying, but career women are more like guys.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because they've fallen through a lot of guy's radar.
Online most profiles look great so they got likes there but only from guys that tehy weren't attracted to.
Offline they never met the right guys.
Because of modern dating categories it's not easy to find the right person.

Cubus · Answer

Because most men:
1. care about looks. If the girl looks below average she has it hard, even if she is very nice and friendly
2. only want women for sex and not for an actual relationship
3. are irresponsible
4. are rude jerks

And many women ( excluding these who are too rude to find a guy) care for career first and only after that start searching for a guy. Where usually the older you are, the harder it is.

notwoke · Answer

because men place zero value on a woman's career. It's actually a negative. men want a woman who is interested in raising kids to be successful and taking care of the home front so he can go to work and not have to do it also. The men who want a "career woman" are the kind of men that career women see as weak losers without enough drive or money.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they wait to be approached likely, and it's not usually the "good guys" that do the approaching. And/or they've been hurt so much they "give up". I always suggest that women do some approaching, especially if they are interested in someone. Don't wait for him to. He may not. And it has nothing to do with how much he likes you or not.

Miristheiss · Answer

What does "successful" have to do with anything?
Guys aren't attracted to a woman's career. The fact you even mentioned that shows you may not understand what attracts men and what men really do not care about.

Berethor · Answer

Maybe she choose career over man.

TheAfrikan · Answer

⚫1. Because some men cannot put up to there kind of of standards.

2. Some women who are nice and successful seem to make fake bad choices in choosing their partners.
3. They might be too busy in there world of earning n hence giving no man some time. Those are a few situations which can lead to that.

Anonymous · Answer

"Successful"
Well for starters, the idea that they focus on being "successful" might be a problem. No one cares about a woman's success, so if she's emphasizing this then it's often a waste of time when it comes to romance. If she wants a partner then things that actually make her attractive would be more worthwhile.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Because men don't give a flying sh*t how much a woman makes.  It actually turns men off. It's not the same for women, they want a man who makes good money and has a successful career.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, the truly nice ones aren’t single, but in a word, it’s hypergamy which explains what you’re seeing.

chilldude33 · Answer

women are not valued for success
"wow dude your girlfriend is so successful, you're so lucky" said no guy ever
"my boyfriend follows a lot of businesswomen on linkedin, should i be worried?" said no girl ever

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of "nice and successful" women purposely disregard most of the male gender just because he's making less money despite the fact that he probably busts his ass for every penny he makes on a daily basis but he's still considered a bum because he makes less than you.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Because they aren't dating same as the successful guys, too busy building and running empires to waste time on love and romance

Citizenkirk · Answer

Maybe being single is part of why thier successful.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Because most aren't nice and women don't date down, so they are left with a very small selection. Women don't approach either, but wait, so only "low quality" men come.

Surely · Answer

They are successful because they are single! No need to adjust their lifestyle and work habits because of someone else in the picture.

donnny2367764 · Answer

Successful or nice on whose terms?  Some of those so called nice girls tend to be real stuck up or simply a tease...

awkward_author · Answer

Maybe they don't put enough effort into dating and/or they're perfectly happy being single.

Anonymous · Answer

Career driven women are unattractive to a lot of guys because their priorities are not consistent with being a good mother and partner.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

You see, the nice part is where there’s a problem because nice is fake kindness

Shy_Steve · Answer

It can be a number of reasons, Guys don't find them attractive, Guys think they are taken, Guys who like them are too Shy.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because men dont find successful girls useful or attractive or valuable for a serious relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess that they stayed focus on what they wanted and didn't really care about what relationships

clampfan101 · Answer

One reason is some guys like me are too scared to ask out girls that feel out of our league.

ManHater · Answer

Because these women put too much emphasis on their success.

SHREYASH007 · Answer

Because there is communication or point of contact issue.

2021biguy · Answer

Some women are very picky and pick careers over relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

That's easy. Most of them girls really aren't nice. They just think they are. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of times, successful girls choose to be single due to careers.

Flower7 · Answer

Not all guys are into that.

_Just_A_girl_ · Answer

You ever watch Kevin Samuels?

Realbanger87 · Answer

Because they choose to be single

Anonymous · Answer

I really have no idea. May be coz of Biden who knows!

HeartBreaker007 · Answer

No idea why but it is my case as well

rabbitzzz · Answer

I guess they choose to be single.

UsernameXLTX · Answer

Speaking about yourself?

Waldoe · Answer

carreer before relationship?

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

They have ongoing bitch fevers

Anonymous · Answer

Because most women are looking for the wrong guys.

Slim57 · Answer

Because they're probably picky

Fuentes · Answer

Blame society

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Ask them

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Good question

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