Whats going on in his head?

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My boyfriend of a year has been trying to message other girls from his work.. 2 weren't interested , 1 was.. he's 36 there all early 20s.. while this was happening he got my name tattooed on his chest. He's also made a fake Facebook and messaging girls of there , saying he's single.. there sexy etc... Tbf these girls are not even good looking. Some are of Asian decent.. I don't know what's going on.. he can't even stand other men looking at me. When we're together he's all over me and tells me sweet lies obviously.. he even tells his family that I'm the 1 , and he doesn't wanna sleep with anyone else.. if that's the case what's going through his head messaging other girls... I'm 34 by the way. His actions are confusing me. Why get my name tattooed but message other girls wanting to meet? He tells lies about stupid things aswell.. I say he's a pathological liar.. he does also have ADHD, and an emotional and mood instability disorder

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I think he developed a habit of needing other people´s attention when he was single. He says you´re the only one and maybe also means it because for him sleeping with a woman is a rather shallow thing. (I mean shallow in that context as an opposite of intimate).
Therefore chatting with and thinking about other women don´t seem like a big deal to him.
by the way I think you already gave the answer in your describtion because he has an emotional and mood instability disorder he probably need validation from other women.
Therefore now it´s something you have to decide either stafe with him and life with that or break off with him because if he really has a mood instability disorder he will need validation from as many people as possible.
If you can´t live with that you should consider leaving him because you can´t change him especially as long as he doesn´t want to change.
It might harsh but at the end of the decision you have to make.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

He's a sociopath. He's going to say and do whatever he feels will be most advantageous for him at the moment, regardless of the effect it may have on others. He got tattooed because he figured that would make it harder for you to leave him. Surprise him and do it anyway.

spartan55 · Answer

So, you don't care if cheats, you just need to 'understand it'? Are you kidding me?

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like he has a few issues, do you really want to build a life with him? I'd really think about that and if he's really who you want to be with and have as a partner. This isn't "normal" behavior, so a very serious talk with him, or decide if you really want that relationship. Because this doesn't sound like something that will just go away. I suspect your entire relationship with this man will be like this. Do you want to continue to put yourself through that?

Paul09 · Answer

It's not a about looks, and you are finding the hard way. She's a control freak. Leave him before you get hurt real bad. And what's wrong with Asian women excalty. If you even know what that world means..

sensible27 · Answer

Maybe he's insecure? Have you tried talking to him about it

Avicenna · Answer

Sounds like he needs affirmation and is thrill-seeking

megabamse · Answer

Dump him, he might have lost interest in you. Or he's simply a idiot.

Iron_Man · Answer

He’s a dirty cheater hiding it Get rid of him

Contra1166 · Answer

He's cheating on you in my opinion.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

He isn't smartest tool in the box dump him

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