Guys, What is going on in his head?

[Ayyoluv]

So this guy and really clicked and connected, we went on some dates and were intimate but no sex, text each other constantly and he has been super sweet all this time, So, I asked him one day what does he want from this and he said that because everything going on in his life he does not want a relationship, he cares for me and likes me but is not in the right headspace. I'm cool with that, but I have to protect my feelings and I told him, we can keep talking but I cannot accept nor give any affection. I told him just to cool down things until he knows what he wants. I set my boundaries and then he blocked me from social media, I was upset at his immaturity but he contacted me later that day and admitted he was wrong and wanted to talk. He said 5 times he didn't want a relationship, then 4 more times he didn't know what he wanted. I said that's fine, but if these are your boundaries, here is mine. I cannot accept your affection and the touching and kissing and good morning text and gifts. If you don't see me as a girlfriend do not expect me to treat you like a boyfriend. He then goes on to say "but I'm an affectionate man, I like touching and holding." "I want someone to be there for me and support me, and I support them," I told him I can support him as a friend but that's where I draw the line. I'm a bit confused with him. He kept saying he didn't want a relationship, and I said yeah I understand, but it sounds like he's trying to convince himself more than me and also he wants relationship benefits without the title or responsibilities. Is he just a narcissist?

[DaveJord]

Yeah this guy is not right. He sounds like he wants to be friends with benefits, or wants to be casual with you but can't morally do it in good faith, because he knows you want a real relationship. So honestly he sounds like he just wants sex, but could not do it because he doesn't want to hurt you.

So on one hand its respectable, on the other hand its seriously lame. You don't want a guy like that, and you don't want to be used. So I think you did the right thing, but I would cut it off all together with him.

Because to me it sounds like he already made it known that he's not interest in a relationship with you, but if you were okay with it he would totally have sex with you. So if you keep seeing him as "friends" he will eventually get courage or over come his moral objections and follow his guy instincts because he told you he's not interested in a relationship but hung around any way.

It odd because most guys would had sex with you and then just broke it off, so it is admirable he was somewhat honest about it without out really saying it.

And of course he might already be seeing someone else and your just his fall back or possible side chick.

[TommyMountainFigure]

He wants his cake and to eat it too.
Basically he is being selfish by wanting you whenever he... err wants you, and then not to be interested when he's done.
Sod that for a lark.. right?

[jbed24]

I want something similar to him. Best way I can describe it is friends, but more. It's close and supportive, but not with the extra responsibility dating would bring.

[spartan55]

Narcissist isn't the right term. He's just selfish, and wants it his way. You handled it very well in terms of what you want from a relationship.

[Albino010]

He wants to have sex but don't want anything more than this.

[Ayyoluv]

But haven't had sex, we made out and cuddle ( that what I meant by intimate).

[Albino010]

Yeah, which is why he wants intimacy (which have high chances of leading to sex) but don't want to date.

[Anonymous]

he's playing childish fucking games. find a real man not an insecure child

[LegendaryIcon]

dont know, dont care