No, there very few couples I know that each pay their own way. The only exception I've seen (and experienced) is the first date, where each is feeling each other out and neither wants to make a full-blown commitment yet. After that, one or the other, whichever one arranged the date, pays for both.
No, if the guy is inviting the girl he should pay and vice versa. I had a long distance relationship. We lived 1500 miles apart and plane fare was expensive. The deal was that when the other person spent all that money on plane fare , that person did not have to pay for anything else for the whole week.
@msc545 I have been married for 26 years but before that it probably happened 8 or 9 times. I was even asked to the senior prom. I once had a girl track me down from my credit card slip and ask me out.
Difficult some people prefer to keep things separate, I always try to pay, but I have had relationships where they just pay before we sit down or if I have to pop to the loo..
Next time he says let’s go out for a meal, say you don’t have enough? would he offer to pay for the meal or just not go out?
Who ever initiates the date should pay for it. If you don't want to spend money it's easy enough to go on a hike, or to a museum, etc.. If I ask someone out I pay, if someone asks me out I expect them to pay unless we have had a discussion about going Dutch. If they pay I cover the tip just to be polite.
Yes, you should, unless its your birthday or some other thing celebrating you.
Think of it from his point of view.
When is the last time you ever heard of a woman paying for herself and her guy on a date? Pretty much never? Yeah, I thought so.
Why should women get free meals and service, but men shouldn't?
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Hahahahahaha
That’s called equality. This is what women marched for.
Unless you want to be a free loader and have someone else pay for your meals. You could always, gasp, be an adult and actually pay for him for a change, but since the thought of even paying your own way bothers you I doubt he’ll be so lucky.
If you put out, he should pay. Regardless, if a man is employed, almost always he will pay because most dates don't cost much compared to his income. However, at your age, likely neither of you have any income other than an allowance and maybe a part time job at near minimum wage. Therefore, perhaps sharing the cost is reasonable.
My view is that the guy should pay at least 60% of the time, and always have the ability to pay. The guy should also ALWAYS pay for the first date. If a girl is "traditional" and believes a guy should pay for everything, she should fully understand what other things came with the guy paying for everything. She can't hold a job, she is quite literally property, and she owns NOTHING.
For the first dates, yes. Because no one owes you anything as long as you're not official. And if you're smart, you don't want to owe anyone anything before you're official. Pay for your own stuff for the first 5 to 10 dates, then when it's clear that you get along and can do something together, you can think about paying stuff to each other.
A girl should never have to pay for herself on a date. If he doesn't have the money then he should not ask her out. but if she ask him out then she should pay for the date unless he offers some assistance.
That doesn't sound like a lot of fun. I don't like to keep accounts with my partner. If I'm earning significantly more, then I will mostly pay. If it's equal, then we can alternate paying and expect that it will work out.
Your boyfriend is just playing the wrong cards. It was his idea for y'all both going out that often. So he should try to be a Mann py for those dates but it cannot stop you to kill him off somedays n pay them bill y self that easy. A relationship which is sweet is where y'all both play like a team.
No. The one who had the idea should pay in the beginning. With my friends and my past guy, we always paid for each other and nobody counted or shit, but one day I paid for both, another day he did etc
No. She doesn't always have to pay. I'm in a relationship right now and he refuses to let me pay. He also doesn't accept any gifts from me as he prefers giving me gifts instead. xD
no. i think there should be an option generally for people to invite others to dinner and pay for them as a token of goodwill or whatever. but i think women should stop expecting to be paid for if they wanna be seen as "equal".
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No, there very few couples I know that each pay their own way. The only exception I've seen (and experienced) is the first date, where each is feeling each other out and neither wants to make a full-blown commitment yet. After that, one or the other, whichever one arranged the date, pays for both.
The guy shouldn't pay your way until you pay his way first. More guys now realize that many women just try to use them as a free meal ticket.
I learned my lessons long ago. Women that always want the guy to pay and she never pays for him are just greedy users.
Lol lol lol lol
No, if the guy is inviting the girl he should pay and vice versa. I had a long distance relationship. We lived 1500 miles apart and plane fare was expensive. The deal was that when the other person spent all that money on plane fare , that person did not have to pay for anything else for the whole week.
Women almost never invite men.
@msc545 Maybe not you but I used to get asked out sometimes.
How many times has that happened over say... the last 15 years of your life?
@msc545 I have been married for 26 years but before that it probably happened 8 or 9 times. I was even asked to the senior prom. I once had a girl track me down from my credit card slip and ask me out.
How many times do you think that you took women to dinner and paid for it during that same period of time?
@msc545 maybe 20-30 I guess.
So basically, you just lost money. Like we all did or still do.
There is really no way to come out ahead financially with women, Exit.
@msc545 I have to agree with you on that. However, money isn't everything.
I agree that money isn't everything however not having money turns out to be really nothing - that is it's a horrible problem.
@msc545 yes, some money is nice. See Maslows's heirarchy of needs.
I studied that about 100 years ago it seems.
@msc545 with me it is longer.
LOL!
Difficult some people prefer to keep things separate, I always try to pay, but I have had relationships where they just pay before we sit down or if I have to pop to the loo..
Next time he says let’s go out for a meal, say you don’t have enough? would he offer to pay for the meal or just not go out?
Who ever initiates the date should pay for it. If you don't want to spend money it's easy enough to go on a hike, or to a museum, etc.. If I ask someone out I pay, if someone asks me out I expect them to pay unless we have had a discussion about going Dutch. If they pay I cover the tip just to be polite.
Yes, you should, unless its your birthday or some other thing celebrating you.
Think of it from his point of view.
When is the last time you ever heard of a woman paying for herself and her guy on a date? Pretty much never? Yeah, I thought so.
Why should women get free meals and service, but men shouldn't?
Hahahahahaha
That’s called equality. This is what women marched for.
Unless you want to be a free loader and have someone else pay for your meals. You could always, gasp, be an adult and actually pay for him for a change, but since the thought of even paying your own way bothers you I doubt he’ll be so lucky.
Oh brother, that's not quality it's called etiquette, you wouldn't invite someone over for dinner and expect them to cook their own meal...
If you put out, he should pay. Regardless, if a man is employed, almost always he will pay because most dates don't cost much compared to his income. However, at your age, likely neither of you have any income other than an allowance and maybe a part time job at near minimum wage. Therefore, perhaps sharing the cost is reasonable.
My view is that the guy should pay at least 60% of the time, and always have the ability to pay. The guy should also ALWAYS pay for the first date. If a girl is "traditional" and believes a guy should pay for everything, she should fully understand what other things came with the guy paying for everything. She can't hold a job, she is quite literally property, and she owns NOTHING.
I believe in paying for the girl when we go on a date, I could not live with myself knowing I made a girl pay for her own date just how I feel.
For the first dates, yes. Because no one owes you anything as long as you're not official.
And if you're smart, you don't want to owe anyone anything before you're official.
Pay for your own stuff for the first 5 to 10 dates, then when it's clear that you get along and can do something together, you can think about paying stuff to each other.
A girl should never have to pay for herself on a date. If he doesn't have the money then he should not ask her out. but if she ask him out then she should pay for the date unless he offers some assistance.
Your math is so way off.
That doesn't sound like a lot of fun. I don't like to keep accounts with my partner. If I'm earning significantly more, then I will mostly pay. If it's equal, then we can alternate paying and expect that it will work out.
Yes she should. It's not always the boyfriend who should pay for her. She should be independent in financial life.
Your boyfriend is just playing the wrong cards. It was his idea for y'all both going out that often. So he should try to be a Mann py for those dates but it cannot stop you to kill him off somedays n pay them bill y self that easy. A relationship which is sweet is where y'all both play like a team.
I think she should always assume to pay for herself.
Unless the guy invites her out, or he has much more money and takes her to a more expensive place.
No. The one who had the idea should pay in the beginning. With my friends and my past guy, we always paid for each other and nobody counted or shit, but one day I paid for both, another day he did etc
No. She doesn't always have to pay. I'm in a relationship right now and he refuses to let me pay. He also doesn't accept any gifts from me as he prefers giving me gifts instead. xD
It depends.
Personally, I like going dutch most of the time - on occasion, it'll be my treat or viceversa.
I'd say it's normal for modern couples to split the bill on a regular basis.
no. i think there should be an option generally for people to invite others to dinner and pay for them as a token of goodwill or whatever. but i think women should stop expecting to be paid for if they wanna be seen as "equal".