Why does my crush act really shy at school but then isn’t shy to have a casual hook up with this douche?

[Anonymous]

I was surprised she would do that especially with this guy who is known to be a player and douche bag like the complete opposite of the type of guy I thought she’d be into

She is not shy

She is a shy person

[Cranberrylakes]

Maybe she’s not shy and just doesn’t want to talk to you or doesn’t talk in certain classes you have.


I’m extremely extroverted but I wouldn’t talk to certain people I thought were annoying, boring or assholes. I also was quiet in math because I didn’t like my teacher and had a math disability. I remember someone saying I was quiet because we had math together and when I was like “what are you talking about?”. When they actually hung around me they found out I’m a chatter box and can talk to just about anyone without any anxiety.


It’s not all about you. Just because you perceive someone a certain way doesn’t mean that’s who they are in real life. by the way maybe she has more in common with the dude you label as a douche. Maybe you’re boring and nerdy and he’s not. Maybe he’s not a douche at all, and you’re just jealous because he has certain attributes you desire secretly. Maybe it’s because you lack any social skills to talk to her and he doesn’t. Stop blaming other people for their prerogatives and judgement when you can’t even find the guts to talk to the girl yourself. You sound very shy, actually. So shy you couldn’t get the courage to freaking talk to someone who is “the least threatening” person. Like for fuck sakes.

[Guy13]

He decided to lead her and then dominate. those who wait and watch lose out.