Why does my crush act this way when I'm around other guys?

[Anonymous]

I've started to notice sort of a pattern with this guy pal that I have a crush on. I think he knows that I like him, but I know he's interested in other girl(s).

Anyway, I've just always noticed for a while now that anytime it seems like another guy is interested in me, or flirting with me, my crush will either:

-get kind of moody

-act somewhat quiet

-or try to interject somehow (he does this the most)

Just recently at a party I was talking to the friend of my crush, and all of a sudden my crush walks up to the two of us and just basically jumps in our conversation. He wasn't mad or anything, but I just noticed that all night if I was talking to a bunch of guys, my crush would always find a way to come up and see what we were talking about!

It's the weirdest thing! Why would a guy act like this? Why does he do that if he doesn't like me?

[Stacygrecko]

He gets jealous when he sees that other guys are doing better than him by making good conversation with you. So he comes over, and tries to compete to win your attention...Who said he doesn't like you? Hasn't his behavior told you anything? He probably doesn't know what else to do when he sees you talking to guys because he doesn't want to come off as a jealous freak so he tries to talk and interrupt, to mess it up in a "friendly" or "unintentional" way...So the question is, if he can't stand these other guys talking to u, why won't he make his move already so he doesn't have to compete anymore?

[Asker]

Hmmm...good points.

Yeah, I notice he always seems to try to bring my attention somehow back to him whenever another GUY is giving me attention. Either that or he'll just come up to us and try to strike up a convo/or ask me a question. I don't ever do that when he's chatting up some girl though!

I guess I never really thought that he liked me back because our relationship has always been kinda awkward. Plus, I KNOW he's interested in another girl, so I don't think he likes me. But...

[Asker]

...him getting jealous and always feeling the need to "interject" somehow is kind of suspect... lol*

Idk....I've never ever called him on it before (it's not a big deal really), but you think maybe one day I should? I don't want to put him on the spot or anything, but I really would like to know if he feels (or has ever felt) the same way!

[Stacygrecko]

Well, if he's interested in another girl, maybe he still wants to have his cake and eat it too.He probably gets nervous when he sees you talking to other guys because he wants you too keep liking him only.He likes the attention you give him, and he doesn't wanna lose that for his own selfish reasons..It's not fair for you to have to play these games though..I don't think you should call him out for it, it will make him mad and hurt his pride. Unless it gets to the point where its annoyin, then you shud.

[Stacygrecko]

If you want to know if he likes/liked u, you have to be ready for the answer though because you said he likes someone else....its up to you if you want to take that chance of him saying "no", I wouldn't ask him that though..if I were u, I'd just move on because even if he did think ur attractive, what good is it because there is also someone else in the picture...it would be like a love triangle and I doubt you want that mess....

[Joe223]

Cos there's his easy excuse to talk to you without having to feel akward at all. Your already talking to guys, so he can kinda just join in. Then he can talk to you without talking one on one. And yea, it sounds like he does like you.

[Asker]

Yeah, I guess it would probably be easier for him to talk to me with others around, but it's not like we DON'T know each other. He comes up to say hi to me when other guys aren't around, and I go up to him (at times) to strike up conversations, so I don't know why he feels the need to interject when I'm talking to other guys.

Would a guy act this way around a girl that he's NOT interested in....simply because he knows that she likes him?

[Joe223]

No they probably wouldnt. But yea, this is something I catch my self doing with the girl I like. Were friends, but it still helps with the confidence when you can talk to her in a group.