I need to finish this once and for all! Why does a guy even act this way?

[dontaskwhy]

Theirs this guy in my school who's a grade younger then me. Around the middle of my high school year I found him physically attractive, so I started to get his attention by staring at him. I noticed that he started looking back at me at times and my friends eventually found out that he was checking me out when he was right beside my friends and I when we were alone and he turned around and looked directly at me when I wasn't looking to see if I was looking back at him.

My friends and I realized that this guy is shy around girls that he doesn't know that well..I wanted to get to know him, but I sadly am also a bit shy around him and I get intimidated by his friends being around him. He has the average teenage boy ego where he's polite with someone when he's alone...then he acts like a total jerk and show off when he's with his buddies.

He knew that I liked him because I'd stare at him and Id try to get his attention, plus I added him on Facebook and told him he was cute. He responded back to my msgs a few times but he didn't sound interested because he didn't write much.

He told my friends that he liked another girl in his grade but he wanted to be friends with me and talk, it never happened. What I don't get about guys like him is...why does a guy act that way?

I still catch small glances of him staring at me when he thinks I'm not looking (friends tell me plus I use the side of my eye) and when I'm around and his friends are with him he'll wrestle them or show off then turn back to see if I was looking at him.

I don't know what to do, I developed a big crush on him and I know that it would take me a LONG time to get over him because he's exactly what I look for in a guy.

I don't know what to do..i want to try and flirt but he shows signs that he's not interested and I feel like I should back off or else id annoy him...yet he stares and shows signs of some interest.

Help me out, I'm tired of this roller coaster of emotions.

A friend of mine told me that he's apparently a great guy when he's alone...I'm just so confused I don't know what to do.. I really want to date him and I feel the hope, but I don't know where to go.

People told me he's on the football team so they said I should help manage the football team with other students so I could get to know him and see him.

PLEASE help me, why is he doing this?

[Louise123]

Any guy who is interested in a lady will find a way to get close to her.
He knows you like him - you've tried pursuing him by Facebook - and told you that he liked another girl. He likes the attention he gets from girls - who wouldn't? You say he acts like he isn't interested? You need to pay attention to signs, Sweetie. He doesn't want to hurt your feelings but views you as a friend. Is that so bad? The only reason you are on a roller coaster of emotions is because you allow it. He hasn't led you on - Just because he's staring doesn't mean he's dying to date you. If he's a great guy when he's alone, he can pick up a phone and call you. Don't let your imagination run wild - don't believe there is something there when there isn't from his end - Yes, definitely back off or you WILL annoy him. If he notices the distance and misses your attention, he may begin wondering what happened. Guys like a little mystery, Honey. Never chase a guy. NEVER. They have to be the hunters - they want to win the lady they love - if you make it easy for them, they won't have much respect for you or value what you offer. Let him WIN YOU... if you can sit tight... If you have heard nothing in a couple weeks of "silence"... I'd say move on. Sometimes we don't get the one we dream about. There are many guys who would adore being with you -would be chasing YOU... REMEMBER: YOU ARE SPECIAL AND BEAUTIFUL. Let the guy discover YOU and let him chase YOU. OK?
It's always better that way. Kind of like when a guy calls you? Isn't it better conversation than when YOU call them?

[drpinky]

Ok first off don't go manage the football team to get to know this guy. Be a manager for the team ONLY if you want to. It's a crapton of work and it's not the place to really get to know the players, remember they're doing their own thing and you should be too as a manager.

He could just be shy like you said and is trying in his own awkward way to "show" off for you. Guys at that age really are pretty stupid, I know because I was like that too. My suggestion to him is just go up to him one day ask if he has a moment and talk to him alone away from others your friends and his.

Then just be up front and ask him if he wants to hang out together, or go to the mall with you or the school (insert sport here) game. He'll be alone so it should make him and you less nervous and if he says sure then cool if he says no way or acts immature about it just shrug it off.

Trust me on this I'm old, anything you do in high school that you might think is the end of the world or soooo embaressing you won't even remember in a few years. On the flip side things you don't do because you're a little scared or worried, those are the things you sometimes think back about and wonder... what if.

So I hope it works out for you but just woman up, grow a pair and do your thing. It might seem a little scary but once you do it you'll get a nice little rush.

[dontaskwhy]

Lol, apparently from what I've heard it's easy because there's about 5 people who manage. Our team isn't that big so people still interact, its my only hope because I barely see him.

I'm gonna give it a shot once summer ends and I see him back at school in the fall.

Thanks :)

[TimePhantom]

Maybe because he is shy he is just telling people that he likes someone else. Because he knows that if he told people he liked you then they might try to get you two together which not only puts pressure on him, but could put you both in an awkward or embarrassing situation. If you are tired of these games, and seems like he is not going to go after you, then you should go after him. If you really like him then you should just ask him out, or just be very direct and tell him you like him. It sounds like you both are interested in each other, but neither one wants to step up and actually tell the other how they feel.

[dontaskwhy]

Yea that's true, It's weird because I feel that exact same thing that your telling me, but I feel that distance and almost annoyance if you want to call it. I'm not sure if its only me.

Thanks for answering :)

Hopefully the next school year might turn out to be a bit better when I see him.

[thealpha]

i don't think he's interested...
though I agree with lousie123 a little bit of mystery for the guy should work...
good luuuuccckkk!