I feel like this guy is giving me mixed signals and I’m confused. Is he interested?

[Anonymous]

I’ve read all these things about how mixed signals are usually a no, but I’m an anxious person so I don’t exactly trust my judgement on how this is going very much, so I’d appreciate some help interpreting it!

I started talking to this guy on Bumble. He asked me out the first time, paid, drove me home, everything. Then I asked him out the next time to which he replied to with ‘I really enjoyed our time together, and yes, we have to meet again soon’

We went out a second time. He was interested in my dating history, and asked me questions about myself. He texted me ten minutes after dropping me off to say that he really enjoyed the day. He also texted me the day after to ask me how my day’s going, and has replied to my Instagram stories a couple of times.

Although, here comes the problem. He’s not very attentive on text, conversations lack depth, and he hasn’t asked me out for a third time. Even though he initiates, he occasionally gives off dry replies like ‘Yea’ and ‘Cool cool’. On the other hand, he usually leads the conversation when we meet and asks most of the questions.

Also, one thing that stands out to me is when he told me that he caught a cold and I told that it’s a bummer because I wanted to ask him what his weekend plans are, which he ignored and proceeded to tell me how his day is going and that he has a lot of work and studying to do.

I think I’m putting in equal effort. I asked him out the second time, and while he’s the one that initiates the text conversations, I ho him keep them going and I also initiated today’s. Also, I don’t think he’s dating other women because he deleted his Bumble account recently.

Is he interested, and I’m just reading too much into it, or is he just not that interested?

[Anonymous]

I’m also an anxious person so I get the overthinking, but over the years I’ve come to realize that if a man is very interested he won’t give you a chance to question or move on. It will be very clear. If he isn’t making you feel wanted and secure you can take control of the situation and decide it’s not for you. Sometimes I’ll straight up ask people what they want or are feeling because I get my answer and don’t have to spend anymore mental energy on it.

[In_Trance]

You're reading too much into it