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I don't know about any other guys better I have started maybe five or six dating apps I get about a quarter of the way through it and I'm bored already and I never finish it I never even go back on there for me I think it's just weird meeting somebody on a dating site
I guess that's wrong for me to say because I've never ever follow through with it the.
For me I think I would rather meet somebody in person I don't know maybe I will try again someday
last time I check both Bumble and Tinder are actually HOOKUP apps. therefore if you are looking for a date on these apps then I'm sorry to say this but you're one big naive fool with her hopes too damn high. but at least you're not alone cause a lot of women who use these apps are on denial and swear is not a hookup app when the functionality says it all.
till then why not try OKCupid, Match. com, eHarmony and the other ones that real dating apps
Men typically realise something. Since girls got a much higher pool of guys to pick from online, standards get unrealistic. Guys that a woman is interested in, in real left, might get a left swipe online. And a lot of girls want matches for validation and have no intention to date or even reply.
Right. Not to mention MySpace angle/photoshop/makeup... lots of BS. Even if a guy saw something he likes it's probably fake.
Cause 1 out of every 70 women on these things is actually a real person. The rests are bots, scammers, or catfish. With those odds what's the point.
I tried for years in all the apps and had no luck whatsoever. I put as much effort in as I could. But again, if there's no real people on the other end then what's the point.
You forgot.. not all of them are bots/scammers or catfish. Some are actual contract employees of the dating site who are also street hookers. I mean, yeah they're scammers but they probably get W2 so it's a tiny, tiny bit legit. ha ha
Because it's a numbers game for a lot of them. Ask enough people for a dollar and eventually someone will give you one. A lot don't actually want to date, they don't actually want to put the effort it takes to building a relationship and want the benefits of on with out doing the work. Most of them just want sex, it's easy enough to tell which ones. If he cares enough, he will put effort into his profile.
I used to think about the dollar Theory before joining this website after a year on this website I can honestly tell you take that Dollar and stick it up your ass you're better off it used to be numbers game not anymore.
They do.
You're just a prude, and old fashioned. Hence have failed to keep up with the dating game.
These days the "look" is all about appearing "WFH" and looking like you rolled out of bed, but have places to be.
The bio's are about coming across working class, and out to party.
But you seem insufferable though, and you're not getting a date because of your judgmental ugly attitude. Your "looks" mean nothing,
She said she's not super picky but 80% of the guys are unattractive. Why should someone make an effort if most women on an app will just leave them on read or not even try at all. Are you even engaging in conversations or just being short?
Maybe you're not putting in any effort or maybe you're super picky?
I don't know, I don't use dating apps and sites. But by reading what you wrote, I don't think you're worthy of a date or relationship just yet.
Well i be myself on a dating app, and still don't get a match. I get a lot of matches on fake profile where i am not myself. So what should i interpret from this, that girls fall for someone whos fake. I am the same on a dating profile as in real life but women they arr totally different when i meet in real. at least i don't use makeup and fitlers to display mu true self and why should i be ashamed of it. A decent girl would always match my profile.
Dating app are a waste of time. I mean if you are bored or want an ego boost go for it. But they are too easy to use and too many options are out there. If a guy looks good and has a good personality he can ask his friends to set him up or meet people irl. Lots of guys (and girls) will be sexual because it’s like a game with no penalties
Same reason why you don't see men paying $35-$80 for meat at a fast food joint. You chose to put yourself in a marketplace full of shallow/low value women and you'r shocked if dudes don't go in there treating you like you're made of gold.
The fact that you believe someone has to have a bangin’ profile on a dating app with captivating pics is quite the endorsement for men to try on-line dating.
It’s sad that this is how some people try to find relationships. Especially when people have somehow managed to meet someone and fuck for thousands of years without the aid of a smartphone.
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There is a difference between perfection and actually putting in a little effort...
@Subarugirl is that why I see young women taking 15 selfies at a coffee shop and having their friends take posed photos of them by the beach?
If that’s the kind of effort I’m supposed to put in, no thank you.
don't be intentionally dense... it's not a good look. That's generally something teenagers primarily do... not adults. Though its really not that difficult to have a nice photo taken.
Why would we? Girls don't care, they go for the highest earning, hottest guys and disregard the rest.
Any average guy doesn't have any chance on those apps, girls there think they deserve the perfect prince charming and won't go for anything else than a greek god.
Also, we don't care about look as much as you girls. We post normal pics, that represent us in our everyday lives, while you try to look like the models you're not.
Well it cost to much money and correct me if I'm wrong but women get on for free and there is a lot of bullshit on those apps, example I live in a very rural area and one of those apps or sites was tell me that there was 100s of drop dead gorgeous women in all these very very small towns around the area, when I know for a fact that the town has a population of 20 people that are mostly elderly citizens so those apps/sites are a bunch of lies
You tell me. Maybe you are super picky. I try do many different profiles. I don't excalty have a lot of pictures of myself either Fun profiles. I liked tons, rarely ever get a like back . I hate dating apps. Oh and men usually have to make the first moves.
My profile is interesting but nobody fking reads it. 80% of guys unattractive? Yup that’s what most women say. Just goes to show how goddamn picky they are about dumb superficial shit. I gotta waste money on nice clothes to impress women? Who cares about clothes they get wrecked in a couple of years, I spend on tech stuff
I had good luck on OK Cupid, but it also probably depends on where you live. There were definitely a lot of men that were in the city, and I live about 1.5 hours from the city. Either way, I liked the way the app encouraged people to answer personality questions, etc. that made it easier to get to know someone. I met my boyfriend on OKC a little over 2 years ago, and we've been joined at the hip ever since.
I have a similar experience, though not a such high percentage, but surely more good looking men in real life.. I guess most men on online dating apps/sites are some who don't have much of a social life (at least not with women), and spend a lot at time inside in front of a screen. Not really the type of men I personally find the most attractive.
Likely some truth in that, that doesn’t mean that we’re bad people though. I do suffer with social anxiety so being able to chat to someone online before meeting them takes away some of that awkwardness that would otherwise happen when I meet someone new.
If anything the social recluses like myself are probably more likely to treat a girl better as we’re not out there chasing anything with a pulse like some of the pretty boys you’d find in the local bars or on the beach.
@CarlosLentoni I did not mean to say it's bad people, and I don't want to judge everone like that either, just a trend I see.. I would also not go to the bar to find a partner :D, then I prefer online a lot more
Most dating sites the women are ugly but on bumble they’re really hot I’m trying hard on my bumble profile and I socialize and work out your advice would be appreciated.
Maybe you learned something about men... I am one... we are not very "Verbal" grunt grunt... We do not like to talk for hours about shoes... We don't care, if Susie lied to Fred about the cost of her visit to the beauty parlor... In fact, I don't care... Men do not know how to attract a women with words... grunt grunt... we are much better face to face... hubba-hubba
Really cuz most times I match with and then message a girl on there they don’t even reply and most women have no bio either and their pictures are often all selfies of them at home. Just saying I’m sure a lot of men don’t try on these apps but there is absolutely no way the women on there are trying harder.
You have to realize everyone on dating apps is damaged. There's a reason they aren't finding luck elsewhere. Granted it might not have been the case at the height of COVID-19. Now you need to realize that there is a reason those people are seeking dates on apps instead of real life.
For example: my damage/reason for being on an app right now would be due to the fact that I have CVID which translates into a death sentence if I get COVID-19. I can't go out and meet people even if I wanted to. I don't need to because I have a girlfriend, but if I didn't...