What would you say if someone of the same gender said they liked you or asked you out?

Question

In exact words, what would you say?

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

I have had it a couple of times.

i have a couple of lesbian / gay friends and invariably it means spending time in LGBT friendly pubs n clubs.

the reply will greatly depend on their approach, if it’s nice I am really nice in my reply about being straight and sorry but have they talked to my friend as he’s single and really packing.

If they are not so nice (some guys really are grabby) then I switch it up a bit and I am a tad more forceful with my response.

Admittedly one of my gays mates is really straight looking and looks like Hades, he has the other problem of girls hitting on him and telling him he’s not gay.

Had it one time where we were out for a meal (bunch of us, including my sister), for some reason our waiter was very attentive to our table, we had free extras all over the place. Near the end I asked a friend what was up with the waiter, it seems my sis had promised him my number and a nice tip.

when I paid the bill at the end it was like smacking a puppy dog, he looked really hurt when I said I was straight and no he could not have my number and no I would not treat him like a naughty boy.

Slartybartfast · Accepted Answer

I've had that happen a few times. I usually just say I'm flattered but I'm streight. I think the last time I said something like "I'm not into guys but thanks for the ego boost" and we both laughed. It takes courage to approach, probably even more so for a gay guy to approach another guy so I try to be as nice about it as I can.

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

I have got hit on a couple of times by women, but I’m only into men, so I politely rejected them.

“Thank you for the offer, I’m flattered, but I’m straight and not looking for a relationship at the moment. Sorry. I hope you find someone. We can still continue to be friends if you’d like.”

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

I'm flattered that you should ask me, however I must let you down gently by informing you that 1. I'm very happily married and 2. I'm totally 100% heterosexual... But thank you so much for the offer.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I would say, "I'm not sure why you think I would be receptive but I am 100% heterosexual and there is NO possibility of that ever changing. 'Nuff said?"

glennos89 · Answer

Tell him politely that I'm not gay and that I can't help him with his feelings without trying to hurt it's feelings or make fun of him. I also would thank him for the fact that he likes me, which I can see as a compliment to me. But I would ask him not to flirt with me anymore and make sure I let him know that there will be 0% chance for him getting more out of it then just friendship 🤷🏼‍♂️

TheLoneTerran · Answer

What I said was "I'm flattered but I'm sorry, I don't feel the same way about you."

Ahh, a buddy of mine was asked out by a guy, even though my friend has his engagement ring on, and when he politely declined the offer to go for coffee, the guy asked "What? Am I too much of a man for you?". "Yes, yes you are. Very much so.". The guy was built, obviously cared quite a bit about fitness.

Juxtapose · Answer

Are they a femboy? If they are a masculine dude then I would tell them I can't work with that appearance. Seriously, I fucking tried but masculine dudes will never do it for me.

strateguy632 · Answer

like is fine, but be lovers... i was in 9 ggradesnd friends with a gay couple, (probably not "fully gay") so a gay invited me to be lover. but i was too young to feel compliment. i actually said, "i don't believe that you sin".

MyaMermaid · Answer

I’m flattered, unfortunately, I’m not looking for a relationship at the moment, I’m sure you’re a lovely person, but would love to continue being friends with you. :)

aided_ · Answer

i probably wouldn't say anything and instead just blankly stare

TexasRed95 · Answer

This happened to me in highschool once. I just told him I'm not into guys. We remained friends because he didn't pry or try to push me to try being with him.

Apple1996 · Answer

I'd be flattered that they had a crush on me. Wouldn't go out on a real date since I'm married. Going out as friends tho would be fine.

Guardian45 · Answer

It happened to me twice. When I was young & less understanding, I punched tge guy in the stomach. When I was older, I simply slyly responded to a guys flirt with "be careful what you wish for, you might get more than you can handle." That surprised him and he backed off. Thankfully, since I'm hetero! 🤣👍

ohshee · Answer

I would say thanks bro for even thinking of me but I'm straight I think women are absolutely gorgeous beautiful smart, w i s e tough and badass

clampfan101 · Answer

“I’m straight.” Simple, to the point, and shouldn’t be considered offensive.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

I'm glad you told me outright what is on your mind. But I can't return the feelings, because I am actually straight.

Kreneman · Answer

I would say that I am sorry but I am only attracted to my opposite sex and that will not change. I love women, I want a wife, and kids plus that is my goal in life.

Anonymous · Answer

I have absolutely no idea what I’d say if a girl asked me out either, even if she was one I liked

integrale77 · Answer

I appreciate your honesty but I'm very happy with my girlfriend.

melanieeeB · Answer

"Oh I'm sorry, I'm not interested and not into women."

Adam1978 · Answer

I would turn them down and say I am not gay or bisexual.

Laila12 · Answer

I’m not 100% but like 95% sure I’m a lesbian so I would be super happy

Fireguy17 · Answer

I would tell them sorry, my wife prefers that I don't date.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Hey look I appreciate that you find I'm desirable to you but I'm so sorry I'm only into girls. Sorry to disappoint you. Hope you understand. Cheers!

JoyGirl · Answer

This has happened before, and she already knew what my answer was going to be, so I didn’t say much. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Apulu_Imback · Answer

I'm straight. Sorry. Hope you will find someone better. We can be friends though if you want.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I’m flattered you see that much value in me bro. Unfortunately I am only sexually attracted to girls but we can obv keep hanging out as friends. Took guts to admit that tho, keep trying with others.

Anpu23 · Answer

Im flattered but Im with someone. Same thing that I tell women.

ImNoOne111 · Answer

"I'm sorry but I'm straight". I usually tend to be this clear and direct. If he is a good guy, I would offer him friendship

theunicornjp · Answer

Sorry man, I'm as straight as they come. It's very flattering, but it's not gonna happen. I'm sure you understand.

sheikalana · Answer

I'd say I'm not interested in women like that we can still go out but solely as friends.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'm not that kind of girl! I've actually had a few guys hit on me! The first one was when I was 14!!

Vegasrunner · Answer

This has happened to me an unusual amount of times. I simply say TY but I'm not gay.

TallAnon · Answer

Exact words depends on the person, but something similar to "No thanks, I'm straight"

Bubbles16 · Answer

I'd tell them I was flattered but I'm not attracted to girls

Berethor · Answer

I am not a girl, so I am not going to like hearing that.

abc--123 · Answer

I would say thanks for asking but I'm straight and have a girlfriend

Cleopatra1980 · Answer

I married my wife. So I’d say no. But if I was single I’d probably.

Ringstretch · Answer

I'd probably be shocked, not really sure how I would react

Msputiton · Answer

It would depend if i liked them back.

Anonymous · Answer

The same thing I’d say if an unattractive person asked me out. I am flattered but not interested.

GingerGuy · Answer

"Thanks for asking but I'm sorry I'm not interested."

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve only dated men but I’ve been with a few women because my boyfriend at the time wanted a threesome or to see me with another girl. I really liked it every time but I’ve only been with five women. I would say yes and be flattered.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"Sorry, bro. I'm not gay."

Ilovecbt · Answer

Depended on what he looked like, could not be flaming. I would have to get a certain vibe that has happened maybe a dozen times

Anonymous · Answer

I've had it happen several times. I just politely decline and let them know I'm straight. I've also been asked to be a bull on two occasions, which I also politely declined

SolitarySolace · Answer

I'd tell them that I'm not interested in men and that I'm barely interested in women.

PortraitOfTerd · Answer

"what are you? some kind of fagg?" Then he will get the idea and leave me alone

Pete671 · Answer

I'd go out with them and see how things went, not into kissing guys but if they just wanted a BJ I'd be cool with that,,,

cosmodusty · Answer

“sure, i’d love to. i like your boldness; usually i have to ask girls out.”

Pink2000 · Answer

This has happened before…

exitseven · Answer

I would just tell him I am not into guys.

zagor · Answer

Barkin' up the wrong tree, dude.

Cubus · Answer

they liked me - thank you they wanted to ask me out - get lost

damaster · Answer

I'd tell him no because I'm straight and like girls.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

In exact words. "Get the hell away from me, you faggot!"

slatyb · Answer

Thanks but I'm straight.

Deserter · Answer

Make them wet... with the spray bottle I spray them with for being horny. No horny, horny bad!

Emilyis · Answer

Oh I would be absolutely honored.

BillyBalls · Answer

I would respond" "Blow me Bitch!!!"

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Ok, what do you have in mind. Where would you like to go?

boggboss · Answer

No thanks I'm not gay mate

EnderToa · Answer

I would pass out. I would vomit right there and then honeslty... But then I'll politely decline and go away (preferrably immediately)

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