How would you feel if a woman ask you out on a date?

Question

I never considered actually asking a man out on a date, just express how I want to go out on a date I would like to dress up and put on make up and look nice instead of doing a solo date. I would like to have the opposite sex there

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

It depends on the guy. For some underdeveloped male personalities, they may immediately jump to the conclusion... "She's desperate". And assume they are gonna "get some". Try not to get involved with the man-babies.

For any normal well adjusted guy, he'd probably be really flattered and rattled by the "outside the box" behavior. He'd probably appreciate the refreshing change in behavior from a woman.

But here's something that happened to me recently where I flat out refused to date a woman who asked me out. I have a friend who had a girlfriend. Both mature adults. He broke up with her because he didn't want a long term commitment with a single mom with kids as he'd already been through the family phase of his life.

Anyway, I didn't even know her that well but she sent a male friend of hers to tell me she thought I was handsome and she wanted to know if I wanted to date her. I told the guy she's my friend's (recent) ex and dating her didn't feel comfortable for me. The truth is that, plus I'm not really attracted to her, plus she's a bit unstable and drinks way too much. She screwed up 2 ways.

1.) Uncool to try and date your ex's buddies right after a breakup.

2.) She didn't ask me herself. She sent a friend to ask like a high school kid would do. Very immature.

She moved on to another buddy of my friend with the same response. And finally she found a new guy somewhat down the social ladder within a few weeks. She just didn't want to be alone. My instincts proved to be correct.

My point here is that there can be valid reasons for a guy saying no. And some guys will say yes for the wrong reasons. But I think the majority of guys would get a big smile on their face and say yes. At least to a date. Just go for it.

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely love woman who ask me out on a date❤️🤗

For me that's the only way I know absolutely 100% sure that she really likes me for who I am instead of me being the best choice among all the guys that are available to choose from at that moment.

More woman should make the first move because it's annoying how much time I wasted investing in a woman who simultaneously were dating other dudes as well

Summeroflove · Answer

Absolutely! It’s perfectly normal and people who only sit around waiting on who approaches them limit their options because sometimes the kind of people approaching aren’t the ones you want.

It’s a risk you can be rejected and sometimes someone isn’t my type or if I’m taken. But I’m never a ass about it unless someone’s persistent and won’t leave me alone. Most people aren’t like that though. If you like someone just make a move before someone else does or someone else catches their eye.

MrOracle · Answer

Most guys would have no problem with this. Of course, not every guy is going to accept - you would be better off asking guys who have shown some interest in you prior, so, not strangers.

This isn't something that's going to change the dynamic of a relationship going forward, so don't worry about that.

Set whatever boundaries and expectations you are comfortable with up-front, but otherwise, it's perfectly fine.

DishLady · Answer

One did once. It was flattering, but unfortunately I don't roll that way.

Another female friend publicly indicated (very awkwardly) that she didn't want anyone else joining us if we met up for brunch or lunch or a walkabout. We all looked at her because it was a very odd thing to say. Again, I don't roll that way, so I made my excuses and left, never to see her again.

AviatorTom · Answer

I've been asked out by a woman several times. Perfectly normal.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well I wish you would hurry up damn I can only wait so long that I'm going to have to ask a girl LOL

Makeushiver · Answer

Anyone- even if they were in a relationship or were not interested- would still be flattered. There is really no downside aside from getting a "no thanks".. May I ask what type of date you had in mind? I ask because different ambience sets different expectations. Sexually if it's just for coffee very low. For lunch, that's the only tough one so play it by ear. Dinner, esp. a a luxe restaurant much higher than coffee, dinner in a restaurant in a hotel, wear lingerie. Dinner in a hotel restaurant where he currently has a room bring whatever you want to have on hand for a full and fun evening

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for every journey it starts with one small step & in life if you never try you will never know & if you like someone you shouldn’t be afraid to tell let them know.

As for dating if a woman asked me out I would be delighted & honored & I would go on a date with her if she asked me out.

Crazyced · Answer

'would like the opposite sex there' lol! I'm sure whoever you would be expressing this to would much rather have you like THEM there more specifically

KITEinStorm · Answer

Any man who won't be happy with this is not the one for you anyway. Of course girls ask guys out, and they should. I would be happy about that and would make an extra effort to get to know her better.

xkildy · Answer

Right now, I would have to turn her down. Being married and all but I would have LOVED it back then. I find it insanely attractive that she wants me to know she's interested in me. Just thinking about it sends good vibes

exitseven · Answer

If I was not married I would like that. I used to be really shy around girls and maybe would appreciate it

bowenw · Answer

I would love it if a woman did. It would make me think higher of her.

msc545 · Answer

If I were attracted to her I would welcome it and feel flattered and thank her. If I was not attracted to her I would still be flattered and would thank her and make a kind excuse.

Truthatanycost · Answer

I think women do this when they are out of options.

Shiprex · Answer

I would feel flattered and glad that she wanted to do something with me and that is what being in a relationship of equals is about. She WANTS to take the initiative.

AnonAndrew · Answer

I like it when women ask me out. :) I don't think it has any real effect on the dynamic of the relationship.

Still-alive · Answer

Please do. Takes a lot of the pressure off us to do it. Plus you girls don’t have to deal with girls not sure if you only want them for their bodies or are creeps or not. there's that extra hurdle guys gotta overcome when we approach

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

Wouldn't bother me at all. It'd actually be refreshing for a woman to make the first move and go after what she wants

Cormac995 · Answer

It would make my week maybe my month or possibly more depending on if things keep going well.

Spencer10 · Answer

I would be totally flattered and impressed with her confidence.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I always take it as a compliment, I’m more interested in men now that I’ve gotten older but the right women could persuade me otherwise.

MaxW1 · Answer

I like introverts. i like to think if she asks me out, she's not that much of an introvert

LiamJHayden · Answer

It happens occasionally and the only time I've declined was when I was already in a dating relationship.

Wiredone · Answer

I'd feel honored if a woman liked me enough to ask me on a date. Unfortunately, I'd have to turn it down since I'm married

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I don't know, considering the only women who've asked me were either weird, ugly or crazy

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I'd LOVE IT !!!(Were she a buxom chick, that is !!!)

nawtee_me · Answer

I am okay with it. At least if she ask you out then you know she is interested

krin_m · Answer

I have been asked out on a ate and I loved it.

Professor-college · Answer

I would feel very lucky and flattered and of course i would accept.

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

Flattered and confused

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Absolutely nothing wrong with that at all.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Both my exes 'asked' me out

anmari2001 · Answer

Amazing

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It'd be fine with me.

Fireguy17 · Answer

great! Where and when are we going?

Ironic_Method · Answer

Oh I love it when that happens.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Weird but I would offer to be her friend

MikeRJ · Answer

I would be flattered.

Rena90 · Answer

I’d enjoy going out on a date.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's my type of girl, I would say yes.

slatyb · Answer

Flattered.

Anonymous · Answer

Interesting Question

MicahRaine · Answer

It would feel nice

Pterodon · Answer

Flattered

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