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That's a great question. This happened to me about a year out of college. But first a bit of context. I grew up in the 70's and 80's and with fairly conservative views. My mom and dad were old fashioned. So I grew up viewing the way my father treated my mother and other women with respect and care. He would open doors for her, compliment her and served her. He did the same for neighbors, family and friends, both male and female. But he always had a special treatment of all women. I saw that. I learned that. I live that.
With that being said (or written), I had a habit of asking girls out on dates and without pre-arrangements or discussions, I always planned to cover all the costs of a date. My budgets were small. I planned simple dinner dates and location visits that promoted lots of talking between us. But I always initiated first dates. That is until...
One day a woman I became good friends with asked me on a first date. "Uhhhhhh?", I thought to myself. I didn't really know how to process the request. My hormones quickly responded with, "hell, yeah!" While my heart and mind continued buffering "uhhhhhh?
Then I immediately thought of my father and how we would respond to such a request. "Shit! I don't know how he would respond to this," I pondered. "Dad! Help?" I internalized.
I then decided to respectfully and humbly... say yes. But I followed with a condition. And with a puzzled look she replied, "what condition?" And with a big smile, I said, I'll go out with you only if you let me cover the cost." And with the wit of a determined woman, she too respectfully and humbly responded with, "oh! Then I guess we won't be going on a date then." And with her cunning look and smile that said, checkmate, I gleefully replied, "pick my up tonight at 7."
We're happily married 12 years later.
If a woman asks me out on the first date I will automatically say yes, regardless of if she is usually my type or not. To me a woman that can do so is very brave and confident and that alone deserves a reward. Also, perhaps she might really be a good match and I would have missed out because she would not have been approached by me normally.
OP it’s ok to ask the guy what I’m going to write below is my observation..
Usually when a girl asks a guy I have noticed the relationship doesn’t work. Somehow when a guy ask a girl chances are high for the relationship to work because the guy knew since the beginning he likes her… while when a girl asks first she kinda pushes him to say -yes.. it happens.
So it depends from the situation. Is the guy you like around you often? If yes and you give him sigs and he doesn’t reciprocate then it’s either because he isn’t interested or he is shy.
If you notice he is shy than you go ahead and initiate something maybe message him? And see from there.
It all depends from the situation you are in and the guy
The problem with it is that many guys on gag prefere traditional submissive passive feminine women in my experience but also want women to make the first step and pay the date etc which does not make sense to me. So you can't have all of them. I am shy but i am not passive, submissive, traditional etc. So i have no problem with asking guys on a date since i am modern. But a passive submissive girl can't do that because she is passive, submissive etc. Traditionally men approach women and so it does not make sense to expect from traditional women to do that.
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u I have never had that experience but I would be very flattered if that happened to me.
I wouldn't mind at all. It's actually kind of cool.
When I was in high school, I had a handful of girls ask me out. I didn't always accept, but I did a couple of times. None of those dates included doing anything fancy or spending any money. We were young and didn't have any, so they didn't take me to dinner or anything. It was more like to hang out or go to a park or something. They were hoping to be my girlfriend. And I did wind up getting into steady relationships a couple of times. It's how I got my first girlfriend in my first year of high school when I was 16 .
I don't recall any woman ever asking me on a date to a restaurant, even later in life.
I have one story, though. My first date with my future wife was at a restaurant. We had arranged the meeting though a pre-internet dating service. We really clicked.
Two days later she called me. I was surprised to hear from her. She said a friend had offered her two tickets to see the Rolling Stones and Red Hot Chili Peppers and wondered if I would be interested in going. She new I was a rocker. I knew she wasn't and realized that the offer was enticement to see her again. I didn't need enticing, but of course I wanted to see that concert.
We went and had a great time. I also thought it was sweet that, on the way inside from the parking lot, she slipped her little hand trustingly into mine.
Anyway, I had great admiration for her initiative and courage. She bravely put herself out there and risked rejection.
It's a little bit confusing to me. I prefer if a girl is interested in me that she flirts a lot and passes me her phone number (or these days). This way I can call her and arrange a date.
I'm pretty old school about courtship so I prefer to arrange the date and pick her up and decide where we go and pay for it. I'm the host and she's my guest, so to speak. So it feels a little bit strange to me if she's my host and I'm the guest and I wouldn't quite know what to do and if it's more her job to take care of me or still my job to take care of her.
I wouldn't necessarily turn her down though if I was single. I'd just be a little confused and outside my usual comfort zone.
Yeah, I feel like men really don't mind if a woman asks them out, I think the only people that judge women that do that are other women.
When I think about "making the first move" I don't think of them asking out but just simply showing interest is what really matters. Especially because we are in a time where you can't even approach a woman without being labeled a creep. So if a girl would simply show interest then the guy should be the one that makes the date happen, the problem nowadays is that so men are going out on dates with women when the women have zero intention of dating them.
Normal, or should I pass out, jump up run away yelling she's not normal she's crazy, or maybe I should become rigid as if Medusa her self turned me to stone, or just say it would be my pleasure and honor to go out with you yes or should I sky write it, or even better write her name on the moon with lasers so reach night all will see and know a woman ask a guy out on a date, how dare she why thighs could bring an end to women's lib, or open the door to normalcy, I don't remember seeing it anywhere written down that a female must never ask a guy out on a date, and I looked all over even across time
Of course everyone has different beliefs especially on stuff like this. I’m fine with a woman asking for the first date as long as she’s able to accept it if I turn her down just the same as a man should be able to accept rejection
I would feel fine. It's about damn time that women share part of the responsibility for relationships. See, the reason this is happeneing is because women are realizing that men are starting to be more selective of their women. Men that would normally be tripping head over heels for them are no longer paying attention to them. This is forcing women to do things that men normally would do. This is what happens when you let crazy people take over the feminist movement.
Go for ice cream.
Go to a bookstore and see what he's interested in.
Suggest going to the movies but he picks the movie.
Tell him you want to wash your car and would he help you.
That's a question with a lot of variables. If she was fat and ugly I would think "yeah sounds about par". If she was attractive I'd look around to see who she's talking to then once I figured out it was me I'd say yes. And spend the rest of the time between then and the date to try to figure out her angle. I mean is she part of some cult that is going to drug and abduct me? Did she lose a bet? Is she trying to get back at her boyfriend. I mean why would she ask me out. It doesn't add up there has to be some angle she's working.
as a shy male i feel that if a woman did ask me first i would be happy and i would like it and i guess all she would have to do it come talk to me and maybe give me a compliment and to just be nice about and i think for the first couple of dates i guess i would maybe we both pay for the date.
It is extremely refreshing to have a girl have the courage to ask. I'm also more inclined to be be interested in a girl that asks me out rather than me asking them out. It shows they can think for themselves and go against societal norms as well as put themselves out there. Now that being said, although it does increase the chance I'll ve interested in them, it doesn't guarantee my interest either. If I don't find them physically attractive, then it still doesn't matter that they asked me out.
Actually it's only happened to me once. It must've done something for me cause I've been married to her for 33 years. I was to shy and timid to ask her and I didn't wanna ruin our friendship. Apparently she liked me. We had known each other a few years as we were in the same friends group. My advice to either male or female, if you see someone you like, go for it. Unless their already taken. Chances not taken are opportunities missed.
It is much preferred. Guys don't trash girls when asked out. And even though it's only a very select few women who trash men for approaching them the way they do it will leave those memories scarred in my the rest of my life. Calling a crowd of girls around to point, laugh, mock me? Yeah that was fucking savage...
The bible never said women can't but the thing is if a woman asks a guy on a date, the guy's thoughts would run wild with questions like "is she in love with me?" "Does she want to bed me?".
It is will mad fun and she would hold all the keys especially if she paid for the date. She can wreck a weak man's mind if she date him and never call him again but the blow back could be black.
Most guys would like this. But a lot of girls are too shy or too passive to make the first move.
I would be honored to have that effort put onto me. Very flattering but ofc not necessarily as personal yet as I'd feel at the time. After all, we don't really know eachother yet.
Stoked for the most part. I'm sure you ladies are all to familiar with being asked out by someone you are not interested in. Every women who has asked me out I haven't been interested in and seeing her face as I reject her is never pleasant. So yes guys like being asked out just like women but asking is no guarantee that you will get a yes. Its not desperate and getting a no wasn't because you seemed desperate but because we simply were not interested in her that way.
I like it. It shows confidence and that she wants me. Usually when it comes to that question to meet at a restaurant or something I'm the one who has to ask every single detailed question planning it. It would be nice if the girl stepped in and said "We should go on a date this weekend". I'd love that and would work with her to plan the date.
I woul-- bruh I would have to be a fucking IDIOT to let her go after that. We would probably get married no joke.
You underestimate how much of a breath of fresh air it is for a guy to get a break from approaching girls over and over only to have a 50/50 chance of succeeding.
I would be totally fine with that.
Though, if I wasn't interested in her, I would just hang out with her to be polite, and I would let her know gently that I just wanted to be friends.
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