How you feel when a man open very easily and maybe quickly for you his feelings?

[yoryosli]

I have been many times in the position that I express the feelings I have for a girl too easily and too open from the beginning. I feel these feelings. But most of them, are they like or not interested or have boyfriend or they don't see me like a boyfriend erotically or they say let's wait for a little bit to see where is it going.

For me, when I express my feelings I am sure that I like her. I like many womens. I just want to have fun with a girl and have a good time with both of us and express ourselves and our goals about the future and our lives. I am really like straight-forward most of the times. What's your opinion? How would you feel if a man express his feelings early?

[random_girl95]

@ yoryosli It's good from one perspective that you express your feelings early, as you being clear from the begging. However if it's a guy I am not interested in then yes I would probably reject him in a polite way. I remember telling to a guy that I felt comfortable with him, don't remember if he replied to that lol, and it was quite early I said it and I thought that he took it in a romantic way, whereas I just honestly felt comfortable talking to him.

[yoryosli]

So you meant it erotically or just in a human way, like a friend, a person no matter what?

[random_girl95]

When I said to him "I feel comfortable with you" I meant it in a friendly way but probably he took it romantically.

[yoryosli]

oh okay

[yoryosli]

Propably he liked you before.

[random_girl95]

Honestly I remember asking his friend if he was seeing me as a friend or a partner, but he said he saw me as a friend so I don't know.

[yoryosli]

Don't know either. It's depends and by your way of telling it, but for what you say to me, yeah I don't know.

[random_girl95]

We were like 4 friends and he was sitting next to me and we were having discussions about various topics.

[yoryosli]

🤷 don't know

[random_girl95]

@yoryosli Funny thing you posted your question and we went on to discuss my experience lol.

[yoryosli]

Yeah I was complete from your answer

[random_girl95]

Regarding your situation maybe you should just be more careful what you say to girls you just meet.

[yoryosli]

You believe if I restrain my straightforward feelings, I will have more chances to be likable to the girl I like to the future?

[random_girl95]

Yes, I do. You still can be straightforward with girls, but with the girl whom you will attracted to you will do it differently.

[yoryosli]

Hmm, with the girls that I am attracted I am straightforward.

[random_girl95]

Be a different kind of straightforward if I am not confusing you.

[yoryosli]

How? I mean straightforward is... straightforward. Right? I mean, if I don't tell her that I like her, I will try to touch her, I will be next to her, I try to hug her, to look at her eyes. How much less straightforward? To not show her?

[random_girl95]

We took the wrong turn, that's not what I meant lol. You know, the best thing you can do is just wanting to get to know a girl better before proceeding to show her any emotion.

[yoryosli]

But I do know her enough to feel the feelings for her. I mean, I like her way of talking, her appearance, the words that she says, that's not a starte point to show her just a little interest that I want to know here better? And if I know her better, and we talk about your past, and your view about relationships and so on, and I feel connected to her, it's not the right time to show her my feelings or kiss her. I mean it's just a kiss, we will not committed.

[random_girl95]

Ok. So with you being straightforward she reacts in a positive or negative way?

[yoryosli]

A girl in a negative way telling me it's early for her in her own way. After some rendezvous, she told me that she see me friendly. One another girl, appreciate that I was straightforward to her but it's a complicated case because he has a husband but she doesn't love her and she is with her only for money, and they have a baby with him, and yeah a bit complicated. I didn't know it before tell her. But that's not a problem with me. A girl that I have conversation with her in Instagram, he wants the same. Everyone talk to her about her appearance and how beautiful she is, and no one about her feelings. And appreciate that I speak into her heart. But most of them, either they don't answer, either they don't give attention (as much as I give to them) when i am interested in a person.

[yoryosli]

The girl that she see me in a friendly way is a bit of closed as a person and don't speak too much, like me

[random_girl95]

Seems to me you haven't found the right person yet.

[yoryosli]

Yeah, propably yes. (If you see this, call me 😛)

[random_girl95]

The parenthesis is meant for your girls lol?

[yoryosli]

Yeah, if anyone girl see this thread 😛 hahahahah

[yoryosli]

It was a joke

[yoryosli]

But yeah, send me

[random_girl95]

It would be interesting if they could reply here.

[yoryosli]

Yeah, in front of all of us

[yoryosli]

If 15 years later, we possible get married, you are invited all of you! Hahahahahah

[random_girl95]

Wait and see for yourself.

[yoryosli]

👌yeah

[RavenBloodswiin]

I feel like the issue here with a lot of girls are that she isn't sure yet & doesn't want any expectations placed on her? We dont want to mess with guys feelings but we also aren't sure yet so its difficult. At the same time, its scary when someone opens up to you cause thats vulnerability. So if im sure that i like you then yes, please validate my feeligs are infact valid & we take it from there. But if im not sure, then it gets a little scary & a little complicated.

[yoryosli]

Hmmm okay. So you fear that I will be too expressive and direct to you, and maybe you see something from the start that you don't like it?

[yoryosli]

I mean of course I don't tell her that I like her in the first rendervous. Bot when I am sure that I like her, yeah, I tell her. Or maybe I show it to them too early. But, that true, because I feel it too early. How this come, I don't know. Maybe I have a lot of time to have a relationship, so that how happened.

[yoryosli]

But really, why do you girls fear vulnerability or direct feelings?

[yoryosli]

The opposite almost never happen.

[RavenBloodswiin]

Yeah. its complicated tbh. I myself am a very open & straight forward person cause i dont like being left in the dark? So like, for example, i told my boyfriend that i Loved him like 3 weeks into knowing him? & I dont ever just throw that word around. I dated a guy for over a year that i never even said that to. So i feel like it really just depends from person to person ig? Some people will get freaked out (& those are probably the people scared of getting hurt or dont want expectations of them attached to the relationship as of yet) & some people will really appreciate the honestly & will then match that by telling you if they need more time, see you going somewhere, or would like to just stay friends.

[yoryosli]

Okay, so just to find a open person that's not afraid to attached, as me.

[yoryosli]

Most people in our today society are afraid to attached

[RavenBloodswiin]

Not afraid off getting attached, afraid of being hurt.

[yoryosli]

But how can you attach to someone, if you are not ready of being hurt?

[RavenBloodswiin]

Honestly, You can't. But thats something everyone figures out for themselves. Like yeah you have to make yourself vulnerable. But you can't force it on someone. People will open up to the person they feel its right with. Its as simple as that really.

At the same time tho getting attached to someone can alsi be dangerous.. but thats a convo for another day. lol

[yoryosli]

Yeah people will open up to the person they feel it's right with. That's true. End of story 😛 the whole meaning into the sentence

[Avicenna]

I guess it depends on how much she likes you and her communication style

[yoryosli]

Yeah, my communication is full of feelings, and of course logic and all of them. But I am not afraid to be open (sometimes very open for the most humans around me) and straightforward for how I see you and what want from you

[In_Trance]

You need to get your timing right

[yoryosli]

The right timing for me or for her? Sometimes it's different

[yoryosli]

Identically the same for both. But that's rare I see

[Guy13]

Too needy

[yoryosli]

I am not enough for your standards? 😛