Should I listen my friends?

[Anonymous]

So I have my first boyfriend. I am running into issues with communication. The guy is willing to work on it tho. Then we were planning on seeing each other yesterday but I had another event to attend. So we couldn’t. My friend says to just throw in the towel with him. But I like the guy and I feel like we could be something. I overthink a lot and I confide in my friends but I guess I never tell them any of the good parts. He says maybe that’s a sign that I should leave him alone. I don't know they right?

Updates

+1 y

by the way we’ve only been officially dating since the end of march a little early for problems right?

[GingerGuy]

He's willing to work on it, and you aren't ready to "give up", so don't. And it's your life, you run it the way you want. Don't let your friends influence you into doing something you don't want to or aren't ready for. They can have an opinion, and as your friends, you can listen to their opinions (if you feel valid), but ultimately your choice. They aren't "invested" like you are either, so that makes a huge difference sometimes. It's easy for them to say "just leave".

But if I was the guy, and I was willing to work on the issues and wanted to work on the relationship, and I knew she wanted that also, but instead listened to her friends and left me... I'd be pretty upset.

[GingerGuy]

On update, maybe, maybe not. Everyone and every relationship is different and depends how severe these issues are also. And are they "fixable"? Or are you two just very different people (maybe incompatible)?

[OlderAndWiser]

What is the communication problem?

[Asker]

He takes a long time to text back but I’m he works construction so I try to be understanding but I instead feel like he is trying to stop talking to me or something but he insists that he is my boyfriend

[OlderAndWiser]

Are you looking for a long term partner or just casual dating? If you are look for a LTR, judging potential partners by how long they take to reply to a text is a horrible way of judging them.

[Asker]

I guess long-term but how can we get to know each other if we don’t talk

[OlderAndWiser]

Textng is a horrible way to try to get to know each other better. Why is your generation so resistant to actually talking on the phone instead of texting?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

So, you say you guys are having trouble, and he wanted to hang out, but you chose instead to go to a different event.

How can you expect to work on communication with him if you choose not to spend time with him?

Was the event something you could have missed?

When you date someone, sometimes you have to out them - and your relationship - ahead of other things.

[Asker]

So i shouldn’t break up with him? I don’t think he really takes it as serious as me but I don't know this week we have really spoken and it’s concerning to me

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You're the one not taking it seriously. He wants to spend time with you, but you're avoiding him.

You can't expect him to put in a one-sided effort.