Would you date an attractive and sweet guy with no money?

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes

No

[horsenrhinounicorn]

Trying to look at it as if I was in that position. It would depend on what got him in that situation in the first place. He needs to be able to independently take care of himself. None of her income should be required for his living expenses.


If it had to do with college, he would need to be responsible for his own college debt, achieve a living wage job or build a business.


In general I would think he should build a solid structure first that will put him in a responsible position to support a family.


There are some exceptions, such as having a home paid off, military disability, etc


I think that if wanting to have kids, he would not be a good fit for marriage till later when he takes a responsible position that would support them.


The other question I would have to find out on him, is he only a sweet guy when he lives off his parents, how does he behave when he has to take on the stress of a full time job?

[horsenrhinounicorn]

One scenario I came across many years back: a lady dated a guy that was just like what you were describing, they dated for a while and eventually they got engaged and he got her an engagement ring. Meanwhile as they continued dating, she began to find out a lot about him, eventually she found out the ring he got her was a kids ring that looked so real and he was a nice guy in all, but he did not want to work, he spent his whole life learning how to please people so he could get free food and a free place to stay, he would find the times that family and friends were having dinner, stop by uninvited and eat with them for free, she broke it off with him and started dating another man. This new man loved her a lot, he was working basically in what people might consider a sweat shop, everyday hard labor, minimum wage and 40 hours a week, they agreed to not go alone together in each persons home, would figure out how to spend quality time together or dine out, he loved her so much that he sold nearly everything he had to pawn shops, lived off of onion soup from the hotel he worked at and water and saved all he had for the engagement ring, he worked full time and went to school full time, and had kids. They were married enjoying life together around 45-50 years and still counting.

It really all comes down to the selfless love a man has for a woman. One may only pickup on their personal love language: gifts, physical touch, acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation. So when receiving your love language your heart melts because its like it gets you at the core, however it can deceive on true love based on situation, will he love you just as he loves himself and care for you when you are sick before he cares about himself.

[horsenrhinounicorn]

It becomes so much harder to identify a good man if your parents lifestyle doesn’t have a good definition of love. Both men and women alike have the challenges today and making sure the person they are to mary is not a gold digger.

[Mikejones2813308004]

As a guy with not much money I dated a girl that was making about 300k a year in the beginning we were super in love and she talked about moving me in with her. After our first argument she started making everything about money and that’s where it all went downhill because there was no way I could match her salary or even support her. from the beginning I told her I could offer her love and security and that’s really it. Good thing she left me early because if I was two years deep and dedicated to her life style I would have been left on the street like some garbage. Moral of the story make sure you can take care of yourself don’t let someone else take care of you because you’re going to get hurt like you never been before.

[WonderBell99]

I would date an attractive and sweet guy with no money if he is working towards his goal. Most guys around my age are under the responsibility of their parents or guardians, so they do not have any financial matters to worry about. However, if the guy was 30 with no money, it would arise some serious questions for me.

What did he do in his 20s? Even if he did not go to college, didn’t he even try to learn a trade? Or try to get a job? I admire hard work and passion. If he is an aimless slacker who has to depend on me for money (if he does not work and sleeps in all day), it would be a hard pass. However, if he is working towards his goals, I would go on a date with him.

I would like to start my own family someday. I don’t want to be the sole earner.. that too, with the inflation in prices, it’d manageable with a dual income household.

[garykingg]

Men open your eyes, women say it themselves. FACE MATTERS! LOOKS MATTER!

MEN, are you wondering why you are STILL SINGLE?
ITS CAUSE YOUR FACE MATTERS.

If you face is FUGLY, you are invisible to women.

MEN WAKE UP!
IGNORE WOMEN!

PEACE!

[WonderBell99]

@garykingg *sighs* I was not talking to you. If you are butthurt over my preferences, I’m sorry, but you need to touch some grass.

[garykingg]

I'm telling men to open their eyes by taking your opinion as proof.
I wasn't talking to you fyi.

[WonderBell99]

@garykingg Uh then why comment under my opinion? 😂

[WonderBell99]

@blackcupcake look at this lmfao

[garykingg]

Cause it refers to the point I was making kid.

[HoneyButterCup525]

Sure.

[garykingg]

Yup looks matter, confirmed.
Men really need to wake up and swallow the hard truth at this point

[HoneyButterCup525]

Met a guy who was good looking and rich and was a complete ass and a loser.

[DaveJord]

I said no, because I am a heterosexuals guy, so I would never date another guy. But I am currently dating a totally amazing women who is very sweet and attractive with no money. We hang out at my place and we go hiking and camping together and spend all types of quality time together. She never asks or expects me to spend money on her, even though I earn over 100K a year, and the best thing is that she doesn't believe in marriage. I think she's is the most beautiful women I have ever dated even though I have dated 9's and 10's in the looks department, but she is a true 10 to me, and that is hot and sexy to.

[shoujogal]

No! It's nice if you both have money and it's practical. It always good if guys still court girls.
Then after necessary time for friendship, to get to know eachother then you go to relationship, then you'll both earn for your future.
It's nicer not an attractive and sweet guy with no money but can be if he used the description of him, his looks and charm and charisma to earn like in modeling in decent or conservative magazines or commercial or in acting. Maybe he got a sweet handsome and macho voice or voice like an angel or he earn money in beauty contests or and pageants. :)

[Anonymous]

Yes and no.
There’s other factors that contribute.
For instance it depends on how he responds to coping in his life and how he responds to dealing with stress or his own self-respect and if he is actively pursuing things that will allow him to be independent

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Brutal honesty, but no - I would not date an attractive and sweet guy with no money. And neither an attractive and sweet girl with no money for that matter. I've learned the lesson.

[guy10394]

share with us, please. I see no problem in that. What am I missing?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

@guy10394 simply put, I know from experience that I would not only have to pay for her, but most likely for her family as well.
I'm not a walking ATM, I got treated as one and have no intention of letting that happen ever again.

[guy10394]

oh, I see. Thanks for the reply.

[wa1t1ngFuture]

If i am a woman then yes. I'm not gay or bisex.

And for women I prefer women who have a unique physique than beautiful ones.

And finally i got a girl like that, she is my boyfriend now (to be honest she has teeth a little bit forward but it's so cute maybe like bunny teeth lol. i love it).

[sheikalana]

One of the things I love in a man is when he has a good heart. It's okay if you don't have any money but is not okay if you don't want to change that and don't want to do anything about it.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Yes but I want him to get back on his feet again. Attractive or not. I don't want him to just give up.

[garykingg]

Yup looks matter, confirmed.
Men really need to wake up and swallow the hard truth at this point

[Ms_Facesitter]

@garykingg Sure they do, but they also gotta be sweet.

[garykingg]

I'm glad one of y'all confirmed the truth.
I can die in peace now. Thanks

[Ms_Facesitter]

@garykingg And only 24, such a peaceful long life ahead of you.

[ColHathi]

That's a bit of a fairytale, I think ^^ Though I'd love to be proven wrong.

[Subarugirl]

look at all the couples living in poverty...

[yofuknutz]

They may have not been that financial position where they first met that's one elephant in the room.

[Subarugirl]

@yofuknutz Statistically though... most were.

[ColHathi]

@Subarugirl Sure, and I would be happy to be with a girl like that too, but as you can see in a lot of the comments, a lot of people would only hypothetically be interested in such a person, if that person was just down on their luck, and/or they were trying to get back on their feet and out of poverty.

I think when people look at this question, a lot of people are thinking "Aladdin", or Will Smith in "The Pursuit of Happyness", or maybe a handsome volunteer healthcare worker. Not something more realistic.

[Subarugirl]

It's not hypothetical, women date broke men all of the time.

[ColHathi]

@Subarugirl I didn't say that they don't.

[ColHathi]

@Subarugirl @Subarugirl Look, can you at least acknowledge that there are people that would not date a person that's poor, especially if they think said poor person doesn't have their shit together, and might never get their shit together?

I personally think that that's most people. Especially the people voting on this question here. I'm not disputing the possibility of poor couples like that existing.

[Subarugirl]

Oh of course there are I never said there wasn't but you did say that you wanted to be proven wrong

[Chthou95]

People will say yes until they're actually put in the situation.

[Subarugirl]

I married mine

[Chthou95]

Good for you. Want a cookie?

[Subarugirl]

nope, just prove that there are a lot of people mean it when they say yes.

[Subarugirl]

Just look at all the people living in poverty

[Chthou95]

Older people. But you using yourself an exception isn't a good argument

[Subarugirl]

There are tons of young couples living in poverty too... My husband didn't even have a job when we got married. My parents were so broke when they got married that they had to live with his parents for the first year. All I am saying is that is there are plenty of people who do.

[Chthou95]

My so and so do this. I see so and so with this person. I see so and so doing this all the time. These defeat my arguments. Bravo 👌

[Subarugirl]

I am also living it... so people do say yes when faced with that situation. I think that a lot of people like to use money as an excuse because its easier to use money to attract people than it is to have an attractive personality.

[Chthou95]

Exceptions, exceptions. People using themselves as a the exception is piss poor. And men don't just need money. They need other things to attract women but that definitely helps. Attraction isn't sunshine and rainbows. Men need to create their value and having a good personality alone isn't enough

[Subarugirl]

It is for some people.

[Chthou95]

For women, sure. They can live in a Disney fairytale where there's a happily ever after. But for most men we have to live on reality. Attraction isn't sunshine and rainbows. It can be brutal for men but men have two options. 1. Adapt to how things really work or 2. Don't play the game at all and focus on other things in life

[TommyMountainFigure]

No, but I have dated attractive and sweet women that didn't have two brass farthings to rub together (It's an English term for not a lot of money)

[Anonymous]

If he isn’t going to school to get a diploma at least then no.

[Anonymous]

I would date an attractive lady with no money, if she is kind and open minded

[Nads111]

Depends on the reason why he has no money.

[dolemite89]

no i expect to be treated like a princess 😝

[collie22]

you mean not a rich guy or homeless

[Jltakk]

I would date a great girl with no money.

[thedaffodils]

money is not everything!

[Xtendable]

I voted B - not my thing

[Subarugirl]

I married one

[Creampiekarl420]

🧢😑

[Subarugirl]

@Creampiekarl420 what is your problem now?

[alina107]

Yes.