Do guys my age acting like this these days?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend was a liar I found out he lied about his age. I told him how I’m not fine with him following Instagram models wearing skimpy clothing, he didn’t understand how I felt then I told him. ‘So I assume you will be fine if I follow hot guys too’ He told me I couldn’t do that, I told him he better unfollow those women or I will end the relationship. I asked him for his Instagram account he said he’s going to delete Instagram. One week later, I found out he still didn’t delete his Instagram and the people he followed were mostly Instagram models. What a liar. I told my cousin what actually happened with tears in my eyes, she told me most men my age are selfish when it comes to lust. Next time if I want to get another partner I will tell him how him following Instagram models hurts my feelings if he still didn’t care I will say I will be following hot guys if that’s ok with you. He will definitely be insecure af. If he wants to follow Instagram models but is against me following hotter guys than him then he’s selfish just like my ex.

Yes they’re very selfish unfortunately

No you’re wrong

[Anonymous]

Male visual fantasy is no different than female mental fantasy.
Women fantasize mentally and about romance, love, emotions, and sex... your input is chick flicks and novels, as well as the very common daydream eyes closed fantasy about being force fucked by a stranger (70% of women)

Males are visually stimulated and our fantasies are sex driven.
Looking at whores online or in public exposing themselves, is our natural fantasy and expecting a guy to stop it would be like someone forcing you to stop your mental fantasy.
It’s not only impossible, it’s controlling and abusive.

Your lack of self esteem is not his problem.
Your demands and expectations would be seen as unrealistic of done to you based on your fantasies.

Using visual against visual isn’t the same.
You have to use what is natural for one vs what is natural against the other.

Just like if he said “you are not allowed to wear skimpy skirts” and said “what if I wore skimpy skirts”... it just doesn’t work. Because it isn’t how males work so the comparison isn’t valid.