Why is it not socially acceptable for a guy to live with his mom but women do it all the time 🤔🤔🤔?

[poneglyphs]

What if he has a great relationship with her or she's sick? Are you just jealous that he will listen to another woman that's not you?

[CurlyGirl42]

it is fine if he is helping his mother because she is sick or so (I once dated a man who lived by his parents because his dad was deathlly sick, only made sense to me), but if it is so he can have an adult to help him cook, clean and in general take care of the home then it is very immature and unattractive for many women. I'd assume it would be the same if a woman were still heavily supported by her parents, but maybe men just care less about having someone independent.
Also if you want to have sex now and then, most adults don't want to do that with parents around xD

[sparklytoxin]

mmmmm thats not how everyone thinks. it has more to do with how society has contructed ridiculous norms and how deep they're engraved in some people's minds.

like, men are "supposed to be" financially stable, independent, strong, blah blah, and unless they explicitly state that "they have a great relationship with their mom or she's sick",, people are gonna think he's either too broke to buy his own house, or a "wimp who's too scared to live on his own".

women on the other hand are "supposed to be" caretakers and nurturers, and living with their moms just... sketches that image? they're most likely taking care of their mom, helping them out, yk stuff like that.

[Ευδεμονια]

There’s a lot of stigma because of boomers conceptions that want the man to be independent, especially from his mother.
I can add another reason to live with mom (or parents): your wage. I live with my mother because my parents are divorced and my wage is way too low to make a living for myself and to pay a rent. Only from this year I can manage to afford to pay a rent and live for myself.

[Slartybartfast]

Guys, if you want any chance at all you have to get your act together young.

Guys with average jobs are doomed to a lifetime of being ignored and treated like crap.

Work on yourselves, you must work hard to compete for attention. New car nice house , expensive clothes without these most women won't even know you exist.

[poneglyphs]

When, is it too late? Am I still young?

[Slartybartfast]

I had all this by 26, I quit trying to date at 30 as I felt it was more effort and risk than it was worth.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well I'm 27 and just have clothes no car or apartment yet

[HighValue]

Society expects men to live on their own by the time they are 20, have their own house, car, job, bachelor's degree (5 years of college even though he has only been out of high school for 2 years), etc. but a woman can be 25 to 30 and still live with and be fully supported by her parents and call herself "strong and independent." lol

[In_Trance]

There's two parts to this.
If there's a specific circumstance where in this case your Mom is ill or unable to care for herself, that's perfectly acceptable.
If you're doing it because you refuse to move out on your own or simply out of comfort, that's a sign of immaturity and a huge red flag.
You can definitely have a great relationship with your mom and still not live with her.
Women want grown ass men who have their shit together. If you've had someone else doing it for you your entire life, they want no part of that.

[poneglyphs]

Hmm interesting 🤔

[RobT312]

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. That being said, there’s nothing right about it either. At some point an adult needs to grow and learn how to live on their own.
for example I grew up the most when I went away for college.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well I never went away to college I just commuted to school and back.

[NathanDavis]

the problem is not who you live with...

the problem is when you are a man child

most women would prefer A MAN... and not a 30 year old CHILD

[poneglyphs]

So, how do you know that you're a child 🤔

[NathanDavis]

when you are 30 years old... and you are not responsible for yourself

your mom still is

[Fuentes]

Well for one you can't haVe a girlfriend move in with you at your moms house with you thats bum energy, also if you got married you can't take care of a women at your moms house bro lol most women like men who eventually leave the nest not stay there, and yes you demasculate yourself as a momma's boy.

[AssholeNumberOne]

Whoever thinks it ain't acceptable is stupid. Simple

[poneglyphs]

Thanks

[TheSpaceGnome]

Accurate, also many people live with generations, parents, grandparants, kids, grandkids, etc, and there are prople who take care of their parents or grandparents etc., or simply people smart enough to know its financially more clever to not not move out, especially if you want to start a business.

[Sixgunsound]

Because of socioeconomic expectations for men that don’t apply to women. As a society we make lots of excuses for adult women that we wouldn’t make for older teenage men.

[Anonymous]

Only men from younger generation. Okay if the dudes mom is sick that's understandable. But just because he only wants momma. We don't want monster in law to stick her nose where it doesn't belong. Woman had bought house on their own. You mean men you're age still live with mommy this is why I only date older mature men u mean over age 40 because their mature, responsible and they were raised very well.

[Avicenna]

It’s a negative if a woman your age still lives with her parents. It’s a sign of immaturity and/or financial weakness. .

[hostboy__fastestlaps]

That's not true at all. My mom met my dad when they were living with each other's parents. My mom also met my stepdad when he was living with his mom and his brother.

[KrakenAttackin]

A very interesting question. I guess because society expects men to lead the way in everything.

[007kingifrit]

it's not great to live at home no matter what, but men have the role of provider so it's tougher on them

[TheSpaceGnome]

Either is socially acceptable, anyone saying otherwise is dumb.

[Anonymous]

I guess men are looked at as being more independent than women

[RuthlessAggression]

Says who?