If you’ve been dating for a year and he said he’s content and can’t offer anymore commitment, is that a sign you should leave?

[Anonymous]

Why or why not? I’d be extra grateful for wiser answers from those who’ve lived long enough to offer some proper good advice, thanks in advance 😊

[Anonymous]

Depends. Are you expecting more from him? Did he tell you that he’s content “for now” or forever? What kind of additional commitment are you looking for?

Seeing as you’ve been dating only for a year I think it’s pretty reasonable to not start thinking about the next step just yet.

[LazerBean]

If you're wanting more then absolutely.

[jahaims]

Depends on what you want

[Asker]

Obviously something long term…

[jahaims]

So you are asking if you should stay with someone who wants the opposite of what you want. The answer is obvious

[Asker]

No the answer (in your mind) is that he doesn’t want something serious. That’s what I’m interested in hearing from people.

[jahaims]

Him telling you he doesn't want commitment is the same thing

[Asker]

What if he said he doesn’t want any more commitment right now, but we’re both exclusive and he’s said he doesn’t want to look for anyone else..

[jahaims]

So he is wanting to further the relationship in the future? Depends if you are okay with waiting and okay with his reasoning for waiting

[Asker]

I don’t know what his reasons are as he doesn’t like to talk about it, hence my concern

[jahaims]

Well he has poor communication skills and doesn't want commitment. That isn't a good spouse for a long-term relationship

[Asker]

Why are you sure he won’t want something more in the future?

[jahaims]

It doesn't matter if he wants that in the future if he can't even communicate. Also you are older so it's a waste of time

[Asker]

Well if he says it’s not just sex how does that make sense? He’s very confusing and I need to be sure I’m making the right decision.

[Asker]

I have plenty of options so I’m not too worried.

[jahaims]

He won't communicate. That is enough of a reason to end it

[Asker]

No, people don’t come in perfect packages and some things can be worked on. I’m a long term kinda girl, not a fair weather one that only sticks around when it’s all good.

[jahaims]

Alright have fun wasting time trying to "fix" someone

[Asker]

Have fun being single with unrealistic expectations.

[jahaims]

Been married for 7 years and in the relationship for 11

[Asker]

If that is actually true, (can’t help but question it) I can’t imagine it’s a happy one.