If a guy you've been talking with doesn't make a move in 6 years is it safe to say he isn't interested?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Six years? Anon, after a few months, I can usually tell if a guy likes me or not. If it's been six years, I'm sorry to tell you, but you're definitely in the friendzone, lol.

If you really want to be sure, just ask him! Sounds obvious, but it's better than wasting your time on a guy that, well I'll be blunt, if he was interested, you would have known by now. Also, you said he tells you about other girls he's interested in: that's a blaring red flag a guy is not into you. Trust me, as someone with guy friends, a sign of trust/girl buddy zone is when they confide in you all their crushes and girls of interest- because they want your feedback on said girl.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Yes!!! He could be afraid. But let's play the odds on this one. And they're probably something like 85:15 that he's not interested.

There's only one caveat, generally, and that's if the two people are already very close, clearly both like each other very much, and the one person doesn't say anything about them being in love, or having intense feelings for the other, because they know that it could potentially end the friendship. But, again, after 6 years, this is unlikely, and shouldn't be the go-to assumption.

You need to watch this movie:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/wU-aI4oKJno

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Six years? Wow. That is an obscenely long time. He's not going to make a move. Six years is time enough to earn two college degrees, pay off a car, have two different careers, etc. I'm sorry, but he isn't interested. That ship not only sailed but completed its career and was scrapped.

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

Depends on the exact context, but if he has been available but still hasn’t made a move in 6 years, he probably isn’t interested.

quaranta · Answer

Very safe to say.
Unless the guy is an extreme introvert who is even scared to put a foot outside his house, definitely he would let you know he is interested, in clear ways. And definitely within a month or two, not 6 years.
He is just a friend, being nice, friendly etc. I ultra-confirm with an overload of life experiences that a male and a female can be friends without interests in between.
Maybe what is strange is that he kept staying single for 6 years and that creates a bias where maybe there is nothing to read there.
However, someone might ask him at some point, to clear the doubts...

UmbrusNightshade · Answer

No guy I have ever known or even heard of would be interested in a woman if it's been 6 years and he hasn't made any kind of move. This is guaranteed if he is saying he thinks of her like a sister. The girl is 100% friend-zoned.

Lynnfriend · Answer

Probably has he ever showed a romantic interest or does he talk about other he is interested in with you some people are just meant to be friends.

TrueConfection · Answer

Sheesh! I think a better question is, "Why would a girl be interested in a guy she's been talking to when he hasn't made a move in 6 years?"

serious · Answer

That is a long time for a guy not to make a move at all. He must be a very shy person. It is also possible he only thinks of you as a very good friend. Tough to say

EmmaMary · Answer

Just why have you wasted six years of your life?

Luciferstar · Answer

More or less, Yes. He's either not interested or too scared to take it a step further, In both case i think communication is the best way to know

jshm2 · Answer

Depends what you're talking about. Also, some guys just talk for the sake of talking, and expect the girl to make a move.

CA4444 · Answer

I don’t know, maybe wait another 6 years just to be sure?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not necessarily. Has he been involved with anyone in the 6 years?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, you need to give it a few more years before you can safely make that assumption.

Summeroflove · Answer

Maybe you should make a move and see. I don’t know.

SweetTwistedSatanist · Answer

If after 6 YEARS you don't know if he likes you, he probably doesn't. As subtle as guys try to be about it, you'll know. They're not that secretive about it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yeah, it only takes about 3 years to be sure if you like someone or not that way.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Either that or he's too much of a chicken. Both of which are uncool.

Staximus · Answer

Either that or he thinks you're not interested

Lavée · Answer

Maybe you should ask him directly unless you've turned into friends and the friendship means so much to you. Then maybe it isn't worth losing said friendship.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Fucking hell, use that coconut you call a head and answer your own question.

GrantArmstrong · Answer

Six  years? It's safe to say you need to learn to make the first move.

Sparkie460 · Answer

It sounds like he's only interested in being friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Six years? I would have bailed long before that.

nawtee_me · Answer

If you waited six years then you must not have been either?

Oddi_211 · Answer

Not enough time to decide. Might wanna wait like 10-15 years to really know if someone wants you

Anonymous · Answer

Have you asked him out? You'll never know for sure otherwise. Closed mouths don't get fed.

Anonymous · Answer

im surprised you even think of him as an option after 1 year.

spartan55 · Answer

Na, he is just waiting for the right time...😂 😂

SphynxUK · Answer

Isn’t interested or bats for the other team.

AviatorTom · Answer

That would be my assessment

Fireguy17 · Answer

I would say 6 weeks is more than enough time.

MountAverage · Answer

This must be a joke.

BrightBubblyKat · Answer

Yes it is

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Might just be shy

CarolineW · Answer

Yeah

jimmy2 · Answer

Lol well I think you might want to say yes

Anonymous · Answer

Move as in what way?

Tracker1958 · Answer

Yes,

Pterodon · Answer

Safe to say

In_Trance · Answer

6 Years? wtf

Anonymous · Answer

6 years?

Anonymous · Answer

100%

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