My long term boyfriend thinks I'm older than I am bc when we met it was close to my birthday so I said I was already that age when I was just turning?

[Anonymous]

Pls tell me if I should tell him and when and how?

[Ευδεμονια]

I think sincerely you’re exaggerating a bit. It’s not such a big issue, you can speak with him and tell him the truth, I don’t think he will take it bad. Age is only a number, and a shift of only few weeks it’s not a big lie.

[Asker]

5 years younger he thought 4 years younger and I was turning that age in a few days... so how would I actually tell him

[Ευδεμονια]

I won’t change my answer, few days aren’t such big issue. I think you can tell him maybe by making a little confession, so he can understand you take this matter seriously.

[Asker]

Okie thanks but I'm nervous how I would tell him snd if I wait he will be more hurt

[Ευδεμονια]

I think you should tell him in brief time so things don’t became a bigger issue. You can give him a little present and you can tell him you’ve a thing to have forgiven, and explain the thing.

[Asker]

Me and him are long distance...

[Ευδεμονια]

So you never met? Long distance relationship has to have a solid trust base, so you can tell him by calling him or on video chat. I suggest you not to overthink it

[Asker]

Okie thank you so much we video call eveynight and we sleep on call every night no matter what we never go to hed angry with each other but I asked him yesterday of he would Date someone younger as in my real age and he said no to young

[Ευδεμονια]

So you can tell him through that way. But I think if he has chosen to date you he has accepted you, both having 5 years or 4 years and 11 months of difference from you! Do you think 1 month or few days can make a difference? I don’t think so.

[Asker]

Nope 🙅I'm just afraid that he will feel like I've been lying snd keeping things from him

[Ευδεμονια]

No no I don’t think so. If he beliefs at least a little bit in your relationship, I think he will make no fuss and he won’t think so about you!

[Asker]

When should I tell him... bc I've been waiting to tell him when in out of thr age he said he couldn't date and I was planing on telling him when I'm the year he thought I was in like 6 months from now

[Ευδεμονια]

I think you should tell him as soon as possible. I know it’s not such big issue but the more you wait, the more you feel bad for hiding things. I think this will not a big issue for him, if he’s ok with you, having you a bit younger than what you said will not harm your relationship, on contrary your proof of honesty can reinforce it.

[Asker]

We been taking steps farther in our relationship and he's just now getting comfortable and confident about himself and everything and being more open I don't want him to close back in again

[Ευδεμονια]

Sure, I can comprehend your worries. But I think you can explain him there was no harming or deceit intention in your words, you told him a different age because you felt insecure if he had accepted you.

[Asker]

I told him the age I was turning in a few days and when it's my birthday he thought I was turning a year older thab what I said but I was actually Turing the age I said I am

[OlderAndWiser]

The altrnative would be to never tell him and live a lie for the rest of your life. Does that sound like a good option?

[Asker]

Thats bad but I don't know how to tell him like he's eventually going to find out but I'm younger and he's older than me so I don't know and I feel like he is going to find someone knew

[OlderAndWiser]

That may happen anyway.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[SeekingVirginWife]

Tell him you are too old for him, and should go with old grandpas like me.

[Asker]

I'm younger than what he thinks

[PatriceONeal]

First time a woman's ever lied about her age by adding years

[rachel776]

not that big of a deal

[Asker]

How should I tell him?

[rachel776]

you don't need to. if it was 5 or 10 years apart then yes

[Asker]

It's 5 years apart

[rachel776]

oh i thought you said it was just turning the age you said. if it's 5 years apart then yes you'll need to tell him. i don't know how he couldn't know you're that much younger than you said. you can write a letter if it's too difficult in person and just be ready if he doesn't want to stay with you, but he probably will

[Asker]

He knew it was a age difference but he thought it was 4 years and technically I didn't lie I just rounded up the year I was turning bc my birthday was in a few days so he knows it's a age differenc but there is 5 year age difference so I'm he thinks I'm older than I am

[rachel776]

then again i would say, no big deal. just a small difference from what he thought. celebrate the birthday and let him ask about it if he wants. you didn't lie, it was an oversight

[Asker]

So how should I tell him should I apologize? And me and him have open communication and trust and love each other just this has been in my head forever just one year different than what he thought but still 5 years different from what he thought was 4

[rachel776]

send me a message so we can talk about it but tomorrow would be better

[Asker]

How can I send you s messages I'm new to this app?

[Asker]

My bage thing my leval isn't high enough to send private messages do you have socials?