Why do I like educated people if they are harder to get?

[jennifer_bloom]

Like when I went to churches or socialized with poor people, I sometimes got hit on 3 times in a day, at my elite undergrad school, only one guy was interested in me the entire time I studied there and I am not sure it was for romantic reasons, it could have been because I was such an elite student and he wanted a mentor. I got hit on as an 18 year old but once I returned to university in my late 20s, most guys were not interested in me cause I had so many gorgeous and smart 20 year olds in my classes who were getting all the guys. I’m also Chinese and most of the Asians I know make over $80,000 a year so that is another competitive factor in dating.

[RedStealthOperative]

I believe you need to seek God very strongly and deeply concerning the man that He is preparing for you. Based on your profile summary, it sounds like you've been allowing God to prepare you to be a good life partner as well. You don't want men, or any guy. You want the RIGHT guy, if I am correct, according to your beliefs. You might think, and people might say those men weren't attracted to you because they were distracted by the younger girls. However, maybe God didn't allow those other men to be drawn to you, because He knew that the men you've been attracted to in the past wouldn't have worked out down the road. Remember, He sees the end from the beginning. Trust Him!

Earnestly and consistently ask God for providence in this area, and ask God to open your eyes to His actions as to how He is moving in your life concerning your future partner.

Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you, and pay attention to impressions from Him.

It is only when you trust in God with all your heart, leaning not on your own understanding will you then be open to Him directing your path. Seek Him with all your heart and you will find Him, and everything you're asking for concerning your future spouse. You have been saving yourself for the right person, and God will honor that, but you must diligently seek Him.

I believe in time as you consistently, diligently seek God concerning this, He will reveal the person He has been preparing for you, and He will make a way for both of you to meet. Fast and pray if you have to. Or not. Up to you. I'll pray for you, Jennifer. :)

God is with you. May it all workout for your good.

[MrOracle]

Education is a common thing that women value in men - but that also means that he is more attractive to a lot of women because of it, which means you have lots of competition, and he has more options.

People need to be realistic about their own social market value, and pursue partners at their own level, because if they don't, they'll end up either being used or being alone.

It's not much different than wanting to buy a car. If you have $10,000, then not only is a new Mercedes out of your financial reach, but ALL brand new cars are out of your reach. That doesn't mean you can't get a quality, reliable car, but it's not going to be as fast or as fancy or as stylish as you want, nor is it going to be brand new. If you hold out for a $10,000 Mercedes, it's either going to be very old or completely unreliable without many thousands in repairs. If you hold out for a new car for $10,000, you'll spend a lot of years walking.

It's not impossible to get a well educated guy, but you may have to give up other, arguably more important things to get it. It's really important - for everyone - that they prioritize what's REALLY important, and if you get a bonus item or two, great, but holding out for everything you want is how you spend decades alone.

[Iwant2kno]

You’re always on point! 👏🏼

[JessicaEarl]

Because they work hard and have learned to achieve, and will likely be more successful later on

[Subarugirl]

Because educated people are more selective about the type of person they want to be with.

[Hulk30]

Its because ya don't understand that educated people as ya put it are easy to get if ya actually understand what actually sparks their romantic interest in you the real reason why most women lose in the datin game is because of gender feminist ideology teachin em 1 thing while simultaneously not havin a basic and detailed understandin of men its because gender feminist ideology teaches most women that they're queens on the chess board and don't actually gotta self improve in order to get the men they really want and based on this question I bet many women actually understand how it feels to get what ya want on the front end only to ultimately not get what and who ya want on the back end

[Gent207]

Good luck
I know you have a lot running against you including culture pressures, personal expectations and affluence.
I trust that a man or woman (no hate) exists out there that is right up to your standards.
Looks and riches may attract but it's personality, character and values that keeps them close.

[Kiran_Yagami]

80% of women are all after the top 20% of men. This has been known for years now. Nearly all women want the same elite tier of men, never mind that most women are not qualified for those men. You want these men because of hypergamy. Nothing more. Nothing less. Next question.

[Kiran_Yagami]

@shaysh87 No, that's 100% of men. The only difference is that men are willing to date down and women aren't. A woman expects to date a man both above her in income and looks. In order for that to work, the man would have to date down in both income and looks. The 80-20 rule. Constant as gravity. Prophetic as Nostradamus.

[superdonkey]

I think the issue is when you go to that level of schooling that's your priority dating is not even an issue when I went to graduate school there was a lot of work to be done

[whiskeyontherocks]

This sounds like a elitist thing. Most guys see right through it and Steer clear.
Also what are you actively doing to get the men that meets your approval.

[FilmGuy93]

I guess your mind processes that difficulty as signfiying a bigger achievement by dating the person.

[RingusUrDingus]

you're at the bottom of one pile, but the top of another.

[cth96190]

How does someone who is Chinese get a Jewish name?

[jennifer_bloom]

I did not know bloom was a Jewish name until I was told so, I was thinking of flowers when I came up with the name.

[Whatever2929292]

Your personal standards. Nothing wrong with that

[Paige_288]

Maybe bc you liek chasing then

[RuthlessAggression]

Yet you're one who goes by the bible

[jennifer_bloom]

One friend was obsessively religious and got the highest mark in his class of 500 people and I got the highest mark in my class of 200 people.

[RuthlessAggression]

I've gotten pretty high marks myself, and I'm not religious at all

[jennifer_bloom]

I’m not saying religious people are smarter, I’m saying they are no dumber than non religious people.

[RuthlessAggression]

hahahahaha

[Anonymous]

You sound like a shameless snob in so many ways.

[Wymersley]

My IQ is 155

[DonkeyDan]

You forgot the decimal point after the first 5 🤣