If you were a waiter at a restaurant, or a nearby customer, and overhead a guy ordering for his girlfriend, how would you feel about it?

[crmoore]

[N192K001]

That depends on their observed interactions henceforth.

They could have coordinated before they arrived, before I got within observation-range, and/or before they entered my attention. I wouldn't know without sufficient responses from her to reasonably confirm that. Hence, with insufficient knowledge, I'd have to withhold any conclusions on their situation, and not be concerned with their shared meal.

But if she starts acting-up, then I would probably have enough information for some amusement at the guy's reckless act, some sympathy for the girl whose actual order was neglected, and (if applicable) some sense of loss for any actually-unwanted food wasted due to the mistake.

[ChrisMaster69]

Fuck all wrong with it.

it’s a damn site one person ordering.

There is this thing couples do before you get to restaurant, is discuss stuff.

Also if it’s a restaurant I go to but is new for them, I will order something I know they like.

i went out a month or so back for a meal with my ex wife and sister, I ordered all 3 meals without asking them.

i know what they would chose and a simple look was enough for them both to acknowledge my order.

[Pinay_ako]

If he seems abusive and controlling his girlfriend’s choice of food, and sense danger and the girlfriend is showing signs of distress, I’d call 911. Times now, you can’t ever be sure. I know it’s none of my business but if you can save a life or help someone in need, why not?
But if he’s nice about it and she asked him to do it for her, I’d even suggest other things on our menu. I like engaging friendly waiters. And sometimes I tell my man/friends to order for me. Every scenario is different. But if nothing out of the ordinary, I won’t care

[aliiiek]

You crazy

[Pinay_ako]

@aliiiek 🤣 ok 👌

[Vegasrunner]

@Pinay_ako in my opinion you should be charged w/ making a false report to police. The fact that you even think you have the right to interject yourelf into a situation like that is beyond disturbing.

[Pinay_ako]

@Vegasrunner beyond disturbing? I guess you don’t read the news or heard of people being saved by strangers because of their instinct to help and by seeing the signs. Anyways, I’m not here to argue with you and for you to put me down.

[Vegasrunner]

@Pinay_ako Saved from having their meal ordered for them? You think this warrants you calling the police?

[Pinay_ako]

@Vegasrunner 🤣 if you read clearly my opinion. It varies with the situation … relax! And please don’t talk anymore. ✋

[Vegasrunner]

@Pinay_ako Again not sure why you believe your opinion is relevant in a situation that would be none of your business. in my opinion people who behave like you in that situation should face criminal charges. Are you saying your allowed to have an opinion but I'm not?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I don’t care unless it’s the guys tone of voice or if he seems to have interrupted the girl and decides what she wants, instead of her making her own choice… That would disturb me a bit.


Otherwise, if she happily lets him order for her, I have no issue with it and I even do the same. I let my boyfriend say my order or order for me. I don’t care much.

[SandandWaves]

It depends on his tone, how it's said. I have seen some guys do this in movies, and they are bossy and or even just ordering the girl what she doesn't even want.
I sometimes had this done for me.. either out of nervousness, being too shy, etc. It had nothing to do with control, or anything bad, I just told him what I wanted and he said what I wanted.

[SaartjieJane]

Depends. I wouldn’t know their situation. I suppose by the way he’s talking and how she looks, I’d know if it’s good or not.
Some places I go to I order the exact same thing every time so I’d I was dating, my partner would pick up on that fast so if he were to say my order I’d be perfectly fine with that.
Again, it would depend on how the guy speaks and how the girl looks or vice versa

[RolandCuthbert]

I order for my lady frequently. Just like I used to order for my ex. Sometimes, she doesn't know what she wants. And I know her tastes and I am a bit adventurous. So when we go to a new place, I usually order something more familiar for her and something different for myself.

[TrueConfection]

What I would think would depend on her body language and facial expression.

It can be fun and romantic to order for eachother. My husband and I do it all the time.

I she looked like she was unhappy or she averting her eyes, I might wonder what kind of relationship they have.

Either way, it would just be a 5 second assessment and ultimately not my business. I wouldn't feel one way or another about it other than a brief moment of curiosity.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

That's something I really enjoy being done for me. I don't know why.

So I'd probably be happy.

Buuuuut if she's someone who really hates that, I'll still be happy - they get dinner, I get a show.

[Lucy68]

I wouldn't mind it at all, plus I'm the kind of girl that likes it when the guy orders for me. As long as it something yummy I'm okay with it.

[hotwife98]

They might have discussed it beforehand that she wants him to order for her... you probably shouldn't get involved in other people's business unless you're sure or you have good evidence.

[Jamie05rhs]

I fear for her. She's going to marry him and he's going to take over every piece of her life and control her and take away her identity. It makes me very sad.

If she's ever able to leave him, she will be a mess, and it will take a while for her to pick up the pieces and put her life back together and find herself again.

[soulbabe]

I wouldn't think anything of it I tell my fiance what I want and have him order it for me because I'm reather shy and I'm uncomfortable ordering my food if I want something changed about it

[LazerBean]

I don't care, I let my husband do that for me all the time, especially when we are sharing something.

[Redhead999]

I wouldn't react just get them their order. She's a big girl. They could have already discussed what they are ordering or could be playing some sort of game. She might actually like that.

[Tomcat68]

I have done it many times. If she shares what she wants I’ll just order for her but give her a chance to confirm. I see it as a gesture of kindness. I think it’s fine if he doing it to be nice. If he’s doing it in a controlling manner… it’s wrong.

[JustinTheGreat]

I’m a server and people order for others all the time. Sometimes it’s because of a language barrier or some people are just socially anxious and aren’t comfortable ordering for themselves.
I don’t really question it

[Faith18letsgo]

I would roll my eyes and think it was fed up. But at the same time if I knew the couple and liked them and had context for this behavior I would think it was sweet.

[oneHuman]

I think either way it is okay. For me it is common that one person does the order/ leads the process so to make it easier for the waiter. However, since we live in 2022, I d like it when the girl orders for herself. It shows she can take initiative for herself. of course If the guy makes an awkward or bossy impression while taking the initiative that d be a red flag of some sort for me.

[TheLoneTerran]

I've ordered for friends before. But they were attending therapy to get over crippling shyness and/or social anxiety and just couldn't do it at the time.

[RavVid]

Well it is no skin off my nose but I will be interested in her reaction. Could be a first date (not a girlfriend) and it would be funny if he orders a steak and she is a vegan.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Ordering for each other is fun. It can be adventurous and romantic. If I overheard it I’d think, “Oh yeah, it’s nice to have a girlfriend, isn’t it?”

[RACSKC0B]

Seems a bit old fashioned, but maybe he's been there before and knows there's something she'll really enjoy.

[slatyb]

I wouldn’t feel if he did it without consulting her, I would wonder if they had some sort of D/S relationship.