If you were a waiter at a restaurant, or a nearby customer, and overhead a guy ordering for his girlfriend, how would you feel about it?

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N192K001 · Accepted Answer

That depends on their observed interactions henceforth. They could have coordinated before they arrived, before I got within observation-range, and/or before they entered my attention. I wouldn't know without sufficient responses from her to reasonably confirm that. Hence,  with insufficient knowledge, I'd have to withhold any conclusions on their situation, and not be concerned with their shared meal. But if she starts acting-up,  then I would probably have enough information for  some amusement  at the guy's reckless act,  some sympathy  for the girl whose actual order was neglected, and (if applicable)  some sense of loss  for any actually-unwanted food wasted due to the mistake.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

Fuck all wrong with it.

it’s a damn site one person ordering.

There is this thing couples do before you get to restaurant, is discuss stuff.

Also if it’s a restaurant I go to but is new for them, I will order something I know they like.

i went out a month or so back for a meal with my ex wife and sister, I ordered all 3 meals without asking them.

i know what they would chose and a simple look was enough for them both to acknowledge my order.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

If he seems abusive and controlling his girlfriend’s choice of food, and sense danger and the girlfriend is showing signs of distress, I’d call 911. Times now, you can’t ever be sure. I know it’s none of my business but if you can save a life or help someone in need, why not?
But if he’s nice about it and she asked him to do it for her, I’d even suggest other things on our menu. I like engaging friendly waiters. And sometimes I tell my man/friends to order for me. Every scenario is different. But if nothing out of the ordinary, I won’t care

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

I don’t care unless it’s the guys tone of voice or if he seems to have interrupted the girl and decides what she wants, instead of her making her own choice… That would disturb me a bit.

Otherwise, if she happily lets him order for her, I have no issue with it and I even do the same. I let my boyfriend say my order or order for me. I don’t care much.

SandandWaves · Answer

It depends on his tone, how it's said. I have seen some guys do this in movies, and they are bossy and or even just ordering the girl what she doesn't even want.
I sometimes had this done for me.. either out of nervousness, being too shy, etc. It had nothing to do with control, or anything bad, I just told him what I wanted and he said what I wanted.

SaartjieJane · Answer

Depends. I wouldn’t know their situation. I suppose by the way he’s talking and how she looks, I’d know if it’s good or not.
Some places I go to I order the exact same thing every time so I’d I was dating, my partner would pick up on that fast so if he were to say my order I’d be perfectly fine with that.
Again, it would depend on how the guy speaks and how the girl looks or vice versa

RolandCuthbert · Answer

I order for my lady frequently. Just like I used to order for my ex. Sometimes, she doesn't know what she wants. And I know her tastes and I am a bit adventurous. So when we go to a new place, I usually order something more familiar for her and something different for myself.

TrueConfection · Answer

What I would think would depend on her body language and facial expression.

It can be fun and romantic to order for eachother. My husband and I do it all the time.

I she looked like she was unhappy or she averting her eyes, I might wonder what kind of relationship they have.

Either way, it would just be a 5 second assessment and ultimately not my business. I wouldn't feel one way or another about it other than a brief moment of curiosity.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

That's something I really enjoy being done for me. I don't know why. So I'd probably be happy. Buuuuut if she's someone who really hates that, I'll still be happy - they get dinner, I get a show.

Lucy68 · Answer

I wouldn't mind it at all, plus I'm the kind of girl that likes it when the guy orders for me. As long as it something yummy I'm okay with it.

hotwife98 · Answer

They might have discussed it beforehand that she wants him to order for her... you probably shouldn't get involved in other people's business unless you're sure or you have good evidence.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I fear for her. She's going to marry him and he's going to take over every piece of her life and control her and take away her identity. It makes me very sad.

If she's ever able to leave him, she will be a mess, and it will take a while for her to pick up the pieces and put her life back together and find herself again.

soulbabe · Answer

I wouldn't think anything of it I tell my fiance what I want and have him order it for me because I'm reather shy and I'm uncomfortable ordering my food if I want something changed about it

LazerBean · Answer

I don't care, I let my husband do that for me all the time, especially when we are sharing something.

Redhead999 · Answer

I wouldn't react just get them their order. She's a big girl. They could have already discussed what they are ordering or could be playing some sort of game. She might actually like that.

Tomcat68 · Answer

I have done it many times. If she shares what she wants I’ll just order for her but give her a chance to confirm. I see it as a gesture of kindness. I think it’s fine if he doing it to be nice. If he’s doing it in a controlling manner… it’s wrong.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I’m a server and people order for others all the time. Sometimes it’s because of a language barrier or some people are just socially anxious and aren’t comfortable ordering for themselves.
I don’t really question it

Faith18letsgo · Answer

I would roll my eyes and think it was fed up. But at the same time if I knew the couple and liked them and had context for this behavior I would think it was sweet.

oneHuman · Answer

I think either way it is okay. For me it is common that one person does the order/ leads the process so to make it easier for the waiter. However, since we live in 2022, I d like it when the girl orders for herself. It shows she can take initiative for herself. of course If the guy makes an awkward or bossy impression while taking the initiative that d be a red flag of some sort for me.

TheLoneTerran · Answer

I've ordered for friends before. But they were attending therapy to get over crippling shyness and/or social anxiety and just couldn't do it at the time.

RavVid · Answer

Well it is no skin off my nose but I will be interested in her reaction. Could be a first date (not a girlfriend) and it would be funny if he orders a steak and she is a vegan.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

Ordering for each other is fun. It can be adventurous and romantic. If I overheard it I’d think, “Oh yeah, it’s nice to have a girlfriend, isn’t it?”

RACSKC0B · Answer

Seems a bit old fashioned, but maybe he's been there before and knows there's something she'll really enjoy.

NamerOfStars · Answer

I probably wouldn't give it much thought. I'd figure she was shy, or didn't know the language well, or had a very quiet voice in a loud place.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'd think he knows food and what she likes. My SO sometimes orders for me at a restaurant, especially when we're sharing an appetizer.

slatyb · Answer

I wouldn’t feel if he did it without consulting her, I would wonder if they had some sort of D/S relationship.

KatherineJ · Answer

Honestly, if it’s a really formal restaurant, my husband orders for me. Obviously, he doesn’t decide what I get to eat, but that’s how we do it.

VanillaSalt · Answer

None of your god damn business wth… stay out of it!

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Not my business and therefore I don't really care... Why does it matter?

Jamesshinobi · Answer

My wife has social anxiety amd before we met she never went to resteraunts. she also can never remember what she's tried amd liked. i order for her mostly.

humanearth · Answer

I would feel like that's none of my business and keep my nose where it belongs

Freyke · Answer

I wouldn't care. If that's what he wants to do. Maybe she told him what she wanted and he just confirmed her order for her.

TheoPfeifle · Answer

Nothing wrong with that, as long as he's ordering what she told him she wants. I usually just let everyone order before me, though.

DiamondsReal · Answer

There is nothing wrong with that because some guy's like to show kindness, and that's OK. And if the girl wanted to order for herself she should speech up.

exitseven · Answer

If he was ordering her a kids meal I would be a little concerned.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

As long as he doesn't order her the plain salad and himself the steak I don't really care.

Iron_Man · Answer

I could care less most of the time the man already knows what she wants before anyway he just putting the orders together

driven159 · Answer

Some women like that and some get tongue tied when ordering things so no big deal more important thing to be concerned with

clampfan101 · Answer

Assume she’s already told him what she wants, and that’s what he chose.

BubbaTech · Answer

OK, if they talked about it and that's what she wants. Not everyone is bold in public.

Pete671 · Answer

None of my business, my BFF orders for me when we eat out,

Paul09 · Answer

I mean if he's paying , why not. But if isn't, very weird , and sounds controlling.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Women " awww she's getting free food wish I was her"...

Alex8736 · Answer

I'd feel as people should be able to make their own decisions

In_Trance · Answer

I wouldn't give a shit. Order ur fkn food so we can all get on with our lives.  Svc with a smile

Aliorf25 · Answer

Knowing that she ask me if I'm want to order for her I'm wouldn't really denying that

Anonymous · Answer

Why does everyone think it's controlling? I think it's kinda romantic when one partner orders for the other...

1GoldTwins · Answer

I would feel nothing. Just another day at the job!

Sour-rose · Answer

None of my business, she could be deaf

Phoenix98 · Answer

I honestly wouldn’t care.

cth96190 · Answer

It would not be my business.

ImJustSomeGuyLol · Answer

Not an issue, my ex used to order for me too.

helva · Answer

I would not have any emotions about.

sheikalana · Answer

Doesn't make me feel anything honestly.

worldscolide · Answer

It's none of my business.

Anonymous · Answer

None of anyone's business.

zagor · Answer

Wouldn't pay much mind.

sethtav · Answer

Maybe he knows what she likes best.

anton_dee · Answer

Depends as there are many factors.

Anonymous · Answer

Pissed. Sneeze muffins are on the way!

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

It doesn't matter.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Indifferent.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women can't make up their own minds

lawhawk · Answer

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