Can you love a disabled person?

[Chikky]

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Romantically

[Espresso-Grande]

It's so easy for people to say yes, if they're not in that situation.

Personally, if I was already in a relationship and I loved him, i would stand by his side if he became disabled. I'd be his carer if I had to.

However, if he was disabled when I first met him, it would depend on the severity of his disability.

If I liked him as a person, I'd date him as long as he looked on me as a potential partner, not his carer.

Christopher Reeves' wife is a great example of loyalty and love. She stood by him when he became severely disabled, but would she have dated him if he was like that when they first met? Who knows. Maybe, maybe not. But I'd assume the latter.

[glassdunes]

If they can make their own legal decisions. Disabilities do not inherently mean stupidity. It may mean a particular set of challenges but think about it; would you date a blind person? Would you date a person with? if they didn't tell you and you loved them and then one day they told you they had bipolar? What if you didn't know and then 10 years into a marriage they get diagnosed with depression? I know disabled people that you would never need to know are like that and they make it to magazine covers for their profession in comedy. If you think comedy is easy, give it a shot.

People are going to be unique in the head regardless. Go for what you like as long as it works for you

[Blueeyes81]

Depends. If we met fell in love and she became disabled then yes. If she was disabled from the start no. May seem shallow but I'm not looking to spend my prime years caring for someone. I want someone who could go hiking, kayaking, water skiing, etc. I want to enjoy my prime with someone like-minded and physically able to join me. So falling in love with a physically disabled would be highly unlikely. But if I was in love and that would occur than that is different as I'm already in love.

[DizzyDesii]

I had serious feelings for a guy in a wheelchair back in 2014. He was so gorgeous and talented. He couldnt walk but he could do handstands in his wheelchair and all. And he played basketball. He was so cool and sweet. His car was even customized for him to drive while in his wheelchair. Im not really sure how it worked but he had been paralyzed waist down since he was a baby because some idiot babysitter accidentally dropped him off the stairwell balcony or some shit. I can't remember, but i slick miss talkin to him

[DizzyDesii]

So yea i can love someone who’s disabled but i dont think i’d put myself in the situation to again

[DizzyDesii]

The only other disability was hot damn Sam who lost his ring finger to a lawn mower. But he was fine af and he still had enough finger to fit a wedding ring. Man i’ll never forget him

[jennifer_bloom]

I definitely could but loving someone and having the ability to protect them and care for them are not the same thing

[FictionalCharacter]

If you mean physically disabled, I don’t think I can. I honestly don’t have the patience to bathe, change breathing tubes, give medicine, change diaper and clothes to a big adult.

There were times I tried physically helping family members and children in daycare. That all I got was yelled at and hit across the face.

[Marianna546]

Why are people asking questions like this? It's not like everyone will be so honest or something... Of course some people with good hearts will love such people. Everyone deserves love , yes? YES! And being disabled doesn't make a person less human or something. Those people have feeling too and love is something that they need in their journeys right now. I hate how some cruel kids bully such kids at schools... This is just so rude and uneducated behaviour. I used to be friends with one kid who had a Down syndrome and she was the sweetest girl ever.. But many kids made fun of her disability and were just plain cruel to her. Well, as i said many disabled people have people who take care of them on daily basis. You don't have to worry about that!

[Marianna546]

feelings*

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe. It depends on the disability.
If it's a mobility issue, then probably not; because I enjoy sports, and I want a partner that can participate in that with me.
If she's blind, then probably not; because I want to be able to gaze into each other's eyes.
If she's deaf, then probably not; because I want her to be able to hear me.

by the way, I care a lot about disabled people, and I am a huge advocate for their rights.
These are simply my dating preferences.

[domenico07]

Yes! My girl is on the spectrum (very high functioning) and that diagnosis doesn’t bother me at all. And I have OCD and anxiety and I’ve had only a few partners in my life (I don’t date really bc it’s not my favorite thing ever) and none of them minded

[Sonorous]

I already have enough complications with my mental health & conditions so I wouldn't want any more trouble. So yeah I could. But I wouldn't want to. I'd want them to have someone better than me.

[Blackcosmo]

Do you mean romantically or just normal love? Yes you can love a disabled person. I have a disabled sister and I love her just as much as I love all my family members.

[Sixgunsound]

I have in the past, and the disability wasn’t the reason it ended.
we all have something about us that isn’t perfect as organic beings. Those of you who are bots I’m not talking to you.

[menina]

I could love a disabled person but not in a romantic way. I know this sounds harsh but I'm just being honest.

[Berethor]

I don't know if I would start dating a girl that is already disabled, it's not an easy start.

[Screenwriter]

Of COURSE! IT's not what a person is missing. It's all the OTHER things that they've got!

[DJB72]

I'm an amputee, not a "disabled" person.

On my prosthetic I can do anything I could before the amputation. In my wheelchair I can do more.

Disability is a state of mind, not body.

[Kaamraj]

It's good that you clarified as romantic love, and speaking only in terms of romantic love then no. I wouldn't find her sexually attractive. That is just my attraction, and has nothing to do with her or men in general.

[JustiReno]

If my girl became disabled I’d still love n care for her, wouldn’t leave her

[serious_miss419]

It truly depends and I say that kindly. I dated a cognitive guy in a wheel chair he just couldn’t use his legs. Great guy!

[TallAnon]

In general? Of course, do you think someone stops loving a person if they lose a leg?

Personally, who knows?

[crmoore]

I'm sure most people could, though can and likelihood aren't necessarily reflective of each other.

[Bubbles16]

Sure you can just because their "different" that doesn't make them less of a human

[TheAfrikan]

I have to think twice about it, it depends on how disabled they are.

[Faith18letsgo]

Of course, disabled people are just like everyone else. Capable of loving and of being loved.