Why is she becoming distant?

[Anonymous]

So there's this girl who I met online, and only live like an hour away. I asked her out online a couple months ago, she ended up saying no which was fine. I enjoyed her company enough to stay friends (still like her but not gonna try anything and trying to give up on it) with her. We'd play pretty much every night and all that.

She ended up asking to meetup but it seemed like she just wanted me to drive her to her friends house, so I declined. She asked if I'd be down to go hangout with her friends another time, I thought about it and since this is online and I've already been rejected, I don't particularly want to get closer so I said no. So to let go of this crush I started talking to another girl who seems to be interested in me, but when I did this, the first girl started to become distant and I don't know what's happening with her. My instincts are telling me she likes me and is jealous but my actual logical mind is telling me she just wanted attention and now she's not getting it and is looking elsewhere to get it.
Why is she doing this, it doesn't make sense.

[Anonymous]

Take away the thing you have most in common, and you don’t really have much there. You two met through gaming, so I’m guessing that during these sessions each night that’s when any casual talk happened, but the main focus was the game. Now that you’ve met someone new, I don't know if you’re interacting with her less, or like you said, giving her less attention, but she’s probably sensing the change and that’s why she’s drifting off. Don’t take it too personally, gaming friendships rarely have much substance when you take that out of the picture, unfortunately.

[Asker]

The gaming was more background for the conversations we'd have. We watched movies together and stuff like that. I even ended up reading her a bedtime story one time lol. I don't know I guess somewhere I hoped she liked me back but was too afraid to say it. It looks like to me though it's time to move on

[Opinion Owner]

Even that stuff though, like watching movies and reading bedtime stories, it’s not really things friends do. So when you remove these elements, even the gaming, it’s just not much in common anymore. But to be honest it’s probably more appropriate for her to take a step back if you are into someone new.

[Asker]

You're more than likely right. I guess that's not what I wanted to hear but its also what I've been telling myself. Oh well time to move on :/

[Asker]

I also agree that it's not things friends do, which is why it made me really confused. Like she clearly said no but her actions didn't show that. Unfortunately that led me to think she just wanted attention and nothing more

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t blame you for the confusion, anyone would feel that way, it was very misleading. But it’s better to nip it in the bud before your feelings got too crazy, then it would be deeply hurtful rather than just the disappointment you feel now. Maybe that’s me being optimistic but I do feel like that’s a plus. Hopefully this new girl doesn’t disappoint!

[In_Trance]

You're not clear with your description. Have you actually met in person?

[Asker]

No sir not yet, I'm afraid if I meet her in person I'll fall harder so I'd rather not. I do know what she looks like and vice versa.

[In_Trance]

I think this is a giant waste of time and you need to move on

[Asker]

You're more than likely right

[Anonymous]

don't use logic regarding women. Use emotion , that is how women think