Is it normal men want to be taken out on dates and the girl pays?

[Anonymous]

I'm not used to this lol

I asked my partner if it's okay if I set 1 day a month for eachother to go out on a date.

His response: Yea every other month either 1 of us should do it.

I have no clue what he means.

[MCheetah]

It's normal than men just don't want to be treated like ATM's by women who bring nothing to the table but their vagina, if that. Too many women use and exploit men nowadays. Men over 40 still think all women are these ladylike angels and sh*t, but most younger women don't appreciate or respect men anymore.

So many modern women nowadays are either sluts, feminists (man-hating psychos), or lesbians (queer; "bisexual," "pansexual," etc.) So you have a 25% chance at best to get a woman who isn't a whore, hates all men, or gay. And then on top of that, either one of those women also want to use men as an ATM even though we're living in "The Future Is Female" age of pandering to and sucking-up to women who are all-around awful (feminism, Simp Culture like OnlyFans, and Fat Acceptance being pushed trough corporations and the mainstream media).

So women's egos are constantly being inflated and they're constantly being told how "strong and independent" they are and how men need to step out of their way. Yet at the same time, these same women want men to be a gentleman and simp to her on dates and all around be submissive to her and treat her like she's a child who needs to a (Sugar) Daddy to take care of her.

Men under 40 are sick of it. You either want equality or you want to be treated like a baby like they do to women in Saudi Arabia. But men are sick of women expecting both while also being less grateful to men than ever before and either being a slut, man-hater, or lesbian in addition to all of this.

And then these terrible, awful, selfish, entitled women wonder why MGTOW and other such movements are a thing, and can only chalk it up to "sexism" or "inceldom" without seeing themselves are the main problem.

So in short, women can't decide if they want independence and gender equality, or traditionalism and simping, and most younger men have defaulted to just giving them gender equality. And the women who want both don't like that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes it’s normal because you labeled him as your partner. That means you are part of a team and you should step up every other month like he steps up. You get to plan the date so if you are facing financial challenges then plan to do free things. You are still planning and taking him out just like next month he takes you out.


What’s the downside?

[Asker]

No downside at all. I just thought the man does the planning and taking out because he's in love with her. But I have a very skewed thinking set. I apologize

[BarryLiverstone]

Don’t apologize for how you think. If you are open minded you realize we all grow in our beliefs over time. In reality not only would I suggest a good date once a month but would suggest you all have a date night once a week. Usually that can be more casual like going to the park for a walk/ bike ride or going to see a movie. But you are both in love and you can both plan bigger dates once a month.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ironically where I do agree with you however is the man plans the first few dates and pays for them when he is first leading the romance. However this isn’t when you are partners; this is when he’s taking the lead to demonstrate how he can provide and welcome her into his world. in my opinion once they enter into a committed and exclusive relationship as you said that’s when as partners they each share the responsibility of planning

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way you asked about what is normal. So the real answer to your question is every couple creates their own version of normal. I know you are asking for outside opinions and trying to compromise with him. But here’s the thing: if you want him to always plan and pay and he’s happy with that then that’s your normal and you two continue to strengthen the relationship. I’m guessing you step up in other ways and take care of him. So while you are considering this and all these opinions remember that what matters is what you and him believe.. period.

[BarryLiverstone]

Kinda dumped lots of words but does that help? What do you think?

[Asker]

Yes it helps perfectly thank you

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome

[mandyfire98]

Yes and that's how it should be. It should be 50/50.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep as I said they are now on the same team as partners. Actually it’s 100/100 as both should give to the other

[Lionman95]

It´s not yet a thing but it will be more prominent in the future. Because many guys don´t want to be only one paying anymore because that´s a tradition that came up when women either didn´t work or made way less than guys.
But the future could be that women make more than guys so the idea that only guys pay has to come to an end.

[TheBootyChest]

I think it's a great idea. That way each person can have fun in planning something new and interesting.

But i admit that I am still under the belief that the first one should be on the guy. It's his way of saying that he is willing to do "all of this" just so he can get to know her better.

[TheBootyChest]

What kind of date would you come up with?

[curiousbabyboo]

I would appreciate a woman who asks me out and offers to pay the bill. Even if I absolutely don't like her, I will accept, go on the date with her and then pay for the whole dinner.

Feminism is not something that should suit women when it's convenient for them and asking out someone and paying for things should be the way to be.

[ChrisMike1919]

I would find it weird. If I want to be a gentleman, I would pay, but if the girl doesn't agree, best is 50/50. But the girl to pay the entire note... must be my birthday or something to accept it. And even so...

[Asker]

That's sort of how I feel too

[boggboss]

As with most things these days clearly he likes the idea of both putting effort into dating

[Fireguy17]

I've never expected that, but it is nice when it happens.
An unexpected treat.

[Avicenna]

That's actually splitting the bill, and it's quite normal these days. Men generally do not expect her to pay for him all the time.

[bean2k21]

Yes it's normal. You have the right to vote, so you can pay for dinner when a female is Vice President, especially an idiot like Kamala Harris.

[Paul09]

It's not normal to ask if it's normal. Because you're both grown adults, and both work. So why not take turns? Society is so weird. You must do this bah bah baaaahh.

[FilmGuy93]

That's becoming more normal. Men are getting away from being okay with paying for a woman's time.

[Kasabiian]

He's giving you what women have been fighting hard for all these years - gender equality. So, what's the issue?

[LimitedBenefits101]

Perfect response

If you disagree with that he should KICK YOU OUT

[Mgtow1990]

No dude must pay for everything

[Anonymous]

Why wouldn't it be normal?

[jasco]

I wouldn't mind it

[In_Trance]

sometimes