Why do boyfriends like bikini pictures of other girls on instagram?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend of 6 years likes bikini and butt pictures of other girls on instagram? it really bothers me because i’m insecure of my body. i want a smaller waste and bigger butt. however the bikini and butt pictures he likes are girls with HUGE butts and i don’t want huge, i want cute and bubbly. the girls pictures he likes butts seem soooooo fake. it’s honestly really unattractive. it honestly makes me feel like i’m competing for his attention. because if i’m not sexy enough for him, he will eventually cheat on me in the future.

[FilmGuy93]

Because the pictures are sexy; it really is a purely visual thing though, it doesn't mean anything about how attractive he finds you. I find your question interesting, because the way you phrased everything is actually a statement of how you feel within yourself.

You might find success in figuring out what you need to start feeling comfortable in your own skin.

[Asker]

you’re right. i’m not confident in myself at all. i don’t find myself attractive. am i pretty? yes. am i gorgeous enough for him? compared to the girls picture he likes? no. he constantly tells me that i’m boring and how i’m never fun to talk to. which i also believe why we never go out on dates anymore.

[FilmGuy93]

Awwh... I'm sorry you're going through that. He should be trying to make you feel special; not like you're a burden. I think you would be wise to explore the reasons you feel so negatively about yourself. The reality is that you just shouldn't be dating someone who doesn't make you feel like a priority.

[Asker]

i’m not the easiest person to handle. i have a lot of self esteem and confident issues so i pour it all on him. does he help at all with my confidence? no. do i compare myself to all the girls pictures he likes? yes. it’s just a picture, the girls are more than likely never going to give him the time of day, i get it. but i can’t help but feel like he will one day cheat on me with someone who’s more peaceful to him. he has DMed girls before complimenting how pretty or gorgeous they are and they all responded with thank you. it’s little things like that that drive me crazy.

[FilmGuy93]

The insecurities definitely make having a relationship harder. I'm sure that you'll be able to ease a lot of the tension with some self reflection.

[curiousbabyboo]

There will always be more attractive girls than you and as raging hormones like testosterone live in us guys, we will be tempted to look.

The difference between some random boy and a gentleman is the ability of restraint, everyone feels it, but not everyone acts on it.

This is assuming that this woman is some random woman, if she is a good friend of him, of course he should. It does not have to be sexual always, not with family and friends.

[kylee2437]

Because he doesn’t mind disrespecting you behind your back.

[boggboss]

If thats what u think why are u even in this relationship at the end of the day he might like looking but that dont mean he dont find u attractive

[Brammer54]

Boyfriend of 6 years? SIX years? It's time to either marry or part ways.

[Asker]

this answer doesn’t tell me why boyfriends like bikini pictures when he’s in a relationship

[Brammer54]

Two possible things:

1: He may be bored of you? But I don't know how good of a relationship you two have.
2: He admires beautiful women just like every man does. (Beauty is subjective).

A man admiring a beautiful woman and vice versa doesn't mean they are gonna cheat on their partner.

Best to talk to him.

[Asker]

he might be bored of me. he once told me that im not sexy enough for him in bed. he says i don’t make enough noise, i don’t dress sexy enough and i’m too shy.

[Brammer54]

Try to talk to him. Communication is key.

[Juan4574]

because it's a mangina, I look at pictures but I never like those sluts.

[jahaims]

Because he enjoys looking

[Asker]

even if he has me?

[jahaims]

Yeah. A lot of guys can have the best looking female in the world and still want to look at variety. I don't particularly understand it myself but it seems to be the way with a lot of males. I personally am happy with just seeing my wife.

[barn_stormer]

because he's bored of you duh

[Asker]

yeah maybe

[In_Trance]

What's not to like?

[Asker]

what do you mean?