Honest question, why do boyfriends follow bikini girls on instagram?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 8 years has followed bikini girls and he will unfollow some but not all of them. why does he follow them? could it be because i don’t give him enough cleavage to see? that i don’t dress sexy enough for him?

[Summeroflove]

Because they’re lusting after those women. Let’s be honest unless these girls are posting funny memes, political content, they know them personally, or they’re posting something interesting besides their bodies. What reasoning does he have to sit there and follow them? Honest answer….. No other reason but lust.

If you were following pages of shirtless dudes with six packs if he threw a fit over it, it would make him a hypocrite. Why? Because in a relationship the only person you should see that way is your partner. Many people just don’t have the self control and allow their lust to take over so they go around looking at other stuff.

I don’t wanna hear all the excuses from people about how this is normal, it's a fantasy, and the list goes on. At the end of the day if a opportunity presented itself to act on their desires and cheat, many would do it. Especially if they knew they would get away with it. If it happened at the right time at the right place. If they haven’t done ir already.

It is also that the fantasy isn’t enough anymore until they finally act on it. Obviously someone with integrity wouldn’t but someone also wouldn’t brazenly lust after other women.

[BetaBucks]

I admire your position on all of this. I don't think I have the same willpower, but I do appreciate it. Are you able to 100% abstain from porn while in a relationship?

[Summeroflove]

@BetaBucks I’m not saying anyone is perfect but if you keep doing it it only gets harder. I’m not perfect but yeah for the most part I do. There are plenty of other things someone can be doing besides they.

If you want to attract someone into your life whose the same way then stay away from that shit

[BetaBucks]

I agree with that. And I'm one week into nofap, so it's the direction I'm going anyway. That shit just rots our minds anyway.

[Summeroflove]

@BetaBucks well it’s the direction anyone should go. Keep yourself busy pick up a hobby start a new job if you have to and you’ll become by far more productive

[BetaBucks]

. 🤝 .

[Aakash_Hangargi]

See in Mens world men gotta be the chasers and the testastrones it wants that visual erotisism.

And as young boys in circles you have to boast and you develop lust and we get the dopamine by looking at the female structure and curves it gives certain pleasure.

And this becomes practices throughout the journey from a boy to man and it becomes an habit.

Now there's no intent to cheat but a craving to have that visuals as much and as many as possible it's thrilling exhilarating in a way.

Most would deny it but still silently look.

[elizamichale1]

Honey if u dont dress sexy n u r not naughty enough then ofcourse he is going to look for them n since he doesn't want to cheat so he follows them online... this is kind of nature for men to like sexiness so better u become that sexy someone so they can set their urges right... i have had many clients who came to me only coz their girlfriend or wife was not hot enough or were not trying to spice things up

[elizamichale1]

Thanks for the mho honey

[midnightmoon05]

Boyfriends don’t do stuff like that. Boys do.
if you told him it bothers you and he still does … you might want to rethink if he respects you.
also 8 years? What’s the end goal? Marriage or just play boyfriend/girlfriend?

[AviatorTom]

We Guys are visual creatures, and like to look at nice things. You must admit, an attractive woman in a bikini is nice to look at.

Nothing wrong with looking, it's doing that's a problem.

[morganherrel]

Men have eyes for the female body that most girlfriends can't satisfy, especially not in recent years where the virtue in caloric restriction has been forgotten, big is beautiful, and 40% of women aged 20-30 are obese.

The solution for most men today is to "settle" for unattractive girlfriends while satisfying their desires via the internet.

I don't know your specific case, but I think you have the right to ask him to only look at you. If that's not enough for him, ask him what you can do to change his mind.

I don't look at instagram models or pornstars on the internet... and I can't imagine it's THAT important for a guy to do this.

[ProbablyClueless]

It has nothing to do with you or the relationship. He's following the model because he thinks they look pretty.

You could be the hottest woman in the world to him, but he would still follow those models because he thinks they look good.

[Asker]

i first want to say that i like your user name 😂 ugh! i don’t like to think that he is thinking of other girls who are attractive :/

[ProbablyClueless]

I'm glad I could make you laugh!

But, yeah... I know a lot of women struggle with the idea of their man finding other women attractive. The good news is that you know he finds you attractive, or he wouldn't be dating you.

[Asker]

yeah but i want to be the only one he finds attractive in a sexual way.

[Andro36]

That will. never happen dear. Men find MANY women super attractive and there is nothing you can do to avoid that

[ProbablyClueless]

Unfortunately @andro36 is right. It's just the way men are wired.

[midnightmoon05]

I agree that me find women attractive, it’s flattering and natural. It’s also okay to look, admire beautiful objects/women in this case.
In a respectful relationship.. I do demand respect… that we can talk to each other about how this or that woman looks great… but never tolerate being disrespected… which is the action of viewing purposely and taking the action to liking them.
So that part I wi have to disagree.

[soe11]

• I think so.
• To me no need to look others.
• My girlfriend is attractive and sexy.
• She love wearing revealing outfits.
• Regarding bikini micro adjustable strings bikini and some occasion Teeny Tiny bikini.
• So I am happy with my girlfriend.

[DrPepper12]

You can relax about your ego or insecurities. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. It's just eye candy stimulation. It's harmless. Absolutely harmless. He is NOT dissatisfied with you but tell him it makes you insecure and ask him what WE can do about it.

[Anonymous]

Because men love hot women. Doesn’t mean you’re not giving him enough sexually in a majority of cases. You could give him everything, even take it up the backdoor. Men will still always look at other women. This isn’t about feelings either in almost all cases. It’s a visual thing. Don’t take it personal. I’ve been w my girl for 15 years. I love her now more than I ever did but yes I still look. Has nothing to do w her. She’s wonderful.

[Nikki1989]

Because they are men. There are exceptions to the rule, but it is rare.

[Asker]

what are the exceptions?

[ProbablyClueless]

It's kinda crazy how many questions on here can be answered with "because they're _____."

[In_Trance]

There's nothing wrong with looking. Everybody looks. You need to stay off his social media before you fuck everything up

[Asker]

he tells me the same thing, the part to stay off his social media

[WonderingManII]

Men have very strong sex drives. We become addicted to the female body. Social media floods us with too much of it. Probably nothing wrong with you.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Boyfriend of 8 years?

Oh, babygirlllll…😂

[Anonymous]

It has nothing to do with you. He could literally be DATING one of those Insta girls and he'd STILL follow the others. Guys like variety. We're VERY stimulated visually.

[Ironco]

He's a straight male, and he's not dead. That's why

[noohair]

This is the norm of social media society today.

[Jmmmfi4]

DON'T OVER THINK IT... GUYS LIKE LOOKING AT PRETTY GIRLS. IT'S REALLY NOT A BIG DEAL SO DON'T TURN IT INTO ONE.

[jjj101010]

Reasons vary, do they look different from u?

[spartan55]

It has nothing to do with you.

[RavVid]

Broadly it is window shopping.

[Alex-Snow]

They like to jerk off to those pics

[EnjoytheDay777]

They shouldn't if they have a girlfriend

[Andro36]

That's stupid. Anyone can find anyone attractive despite their marital status

[EnjoytheDay777]

@Andro36 Yeah, of course. I just mean if you're in a relationship it might upset whoever you're with if they notice you're actively looking at someone else (like following them, I mean).

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Because they can?

[anastasia_521]

I don't think so

[nawtee_me]

Because girlfriends let them….

[Twalli]

No, guys like seeing girls in bikinis.

[Anonymous]

Then put a bikini on yourself

[thearchjoker]

eye candy

[jahaims]

Ask him