Do you think that a relationship based on physical attraction is a dead end connection?

[jennifer_bloom]

I think if somebody is with somebody only for their looks, it could lead to cheating, boredom, or abuse stemming from resentment or unrealistic expectations, having somebody who offers you a safe haven for relaxation and emotional release, is far more useful than being visually interesting, because the man might catch the monkey, but then realize the two do not speak the same language and have nothing in common. Somebody said you can’t be friends with somebody who wants to sleep with you and I deleted that response because there are hundreds if not thousands of considerations in a relationship and your ability to attract roses to the bed is just one of them.

[anon15]

Yeah because things are always great in the beginning but when you get used to the way they look and that’s only thing that attracted you to them in the first place it’s not going to work out. If it was that easy for them to be attracted to you based on likes in the first place it’s just as easy for them to be attracted to someone else they sound like so you’re right I think it will lead to cheating but it will definitely lead to boredom sooner or later

[Jamesshinobi]

beauty fades fast. especially for woman. if a 17 year old body and 20 year old face is all you have to offer, what are you going to do for the other 50 to 60 years of your life?

[I_Can_Help]

Correct. Such an individual will end up with a 77 year old body and 80 year old face.

[Pinay_ako]

People age, people’s looks either deteriorate or get better with age but if you’re only with your partner because they were hot or sexy or good looking and the sex was off the charts in the beginning, then I’m afraid that “love” isn’t lasting because it will fade away just like their looks. One day, she gets pregnant have your kids and doesn’t look as appealing as she was before, would you still love her? There’s your answer.

[ohsheeT]

I don't think it's dead I just think that you're missing out on the best part of the person a lot of times because the real person's on the inside the person that you talk to Everyday is on the inside the person that you feel everyday is on the inside the person that you make love to every single day is on the inside the outside just all an extra bonus and when you get caught up thinking that that is who the person really is most of the times you find out you're wrong it's the person on the inside

[DoctorSex]

It often confused women why men think penis length is the make or break for all women.

It often confuses men why women think beauty is the make make or break for all men, especially when it comes to marriage.

Most men have said it and I'd like to echo that sentiment, men are attracted by looks, but they stay for the 3 Traits of a Valuable Woman.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[NovaCourier]

Yes.

1: The novelty and passion wear off after a while.

2: Even if they didn't, people age, and appearance worsens with age.

3: You would miss out on the best parts of a true relationship; trust, being loved, being supported and all the quirkiness of a relationship.

No point in having a long-term relationship based entirely on appearance. A few days/nights of passion? Maybe. A full on, relationship? Absolutely not.

[hyperben]

100% yes, I've a friend who is infatuated with his wife but she is an awful human, I've supported him through a terrible divorce where he lost his family, his house, his hair and gained a heap of weight but he is still physically attracted to her regardless how greedy and avaricious she gets, its hard to watch from the sides.

[Bluemax]

Suppose for a moment that your friend's wife was absolutely *wonderful*! Kind, supportive, loving, a decent and honest human being... and shecwas thoroughly unattractive to him. How long would that last? Would it have ever happened in the first place?

Character and personality are indeed critical, but physical attraction is often more important than people are willing to admit.

[hyperben]

@Bluemax oh totally, my friend is pretty narcissistic and would rather tolerate a beautiful (his words) asshole (my words) than a person less physically attractive but with a good heart. he is my best friend so I'm not going to shit on him but he always has a cool, new car, most expensive clothes, all the latest gadgets, his personality is driving his destiny.

[Phoenix98]

If your with someone for their looks and that's it there's nothing else attracting you to that person then yeah that's probably a dead end connection.

Looks should definitely be part of why your attracted to someone but you need to be attracted their personality and who they are as a person as well. In order for it to go anywhere.

[Bluemax]

Well said

[Phoenix98]

@Bluemax Thanks.

[MikeInHawaii]

“Beauty is only skin deep.

Ugly goes through to the core.

Beauty fades.

Ugly will be there forever more.”

If a relationship is based solely on looks, it is based on the one quality that is people are almost certain to lose.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes opposites attract. But what do you mean by "dead end connection" exactly? Like no serious relationship potential? Because I don't know of anyone that will get into any kind of serious relationship, based on looks alone. Meaning if look are all that's there for them, then it's likely only a sexual relationship or friendship at best.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah there's more to it than just the sex stuff. I wish more people would think about it like you. I've seen so many mismatches of personalities all because the physical attraction is there and not much else.

[Bluemax]

I've seen mismatches also because one or both never found the other physically attractive.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Bluemax Oh fuck yeah! Utilitarian relationships come to mind. Dudes that end up locked down because they figured any pussy is better than no pussy. Or the worst when I'd watch people in the military get married just so they get the housing benefits and 6 months later they're getting half their shit removed in a divorce proceeding (I was an admin paper bitch). The list goes on... I've seen just too much bullshit that I'd ever tell anyone "oh yeah, that's a great idea!" I still remember being treated like a hot carcass by vulture women that was normally 'out of my league,' just because I made enough rank to be entitled to offbase housing.

[AviatorTom]

Not at all. I've known several couples whose relationship started with physical attraction only and have turned into long-term relationships.

Having said that, it is possible for a physical relationship to peter out over time, but that's not necessarily what happens... it depends on the people in the relationship.

[Robbey]

I agree. Someone might be the most gorgeous person ever but without an compatible personality and an emotional/spiritual connection, the relationship has no foundation. That’s not to say physical attraction isn’t essential for romantic/intimate relationships, no one wants to sleep with someone they aren’t attracted to. But if physical attraction is all there is, you’ll get bored once the novelty wears off, no matter how gorgeous they are.

[Bluemax]

If it is based *entirely* on physical attraction, then yes. Ultimately it's doomed to fail.

On the other hand, if a relationship has *no* physical attraction at all, that too is doomed to fail or be sexless.

There's a word for someone you share a deep emotional connection with, someone you respect and admire intellectually, someone who you think is a joy to hang out with. Yet someone you aren't at all physically attracted to. That word is "friend."

[curiousscorpio89]

Physical attraction is what sparks a relationship. What keeps the fire fed is the emotional and mental aspects. Without having all 3 present a relationship can not flourish.

[Sukaaa]

I feel it is temporary you know that's why a lot of marriage after two years or so fails because they are just happy with the... And not each other as people

[exitseven]

I think that you can have a relationship based entirely on sex. I think that this is what a lot of people are experiencing today. This ay be why they are so dissatisfied with relationships.

[Blackcosmo]

Yes because it won't be serious. You need to love each other's personalities too because that leads to a healthy and happy relationship.

[Jessica405]

Looks fade with age. True love doesn't.

A relationship based on looks will probably fade, too.

[Bluemax]

On the other hand, a relationship with someone who is physically unappealing is just as likely to be doomed.

[Jessica405]

@Bluemax Almost everyone loses their physical attraction. That is where a relationship based on love does last. No one, or very few people, would be with someone they don't fancy.

[I_Can_Help]

The only "true love" is the kind a parent has for a child. Romantic love always fades.

[Jessica405]

@I_Can_Help Rubbish! It only fades if you let it fade. Happens only with people too lazy to keep romance alive!

[I_Can_Help]

Who are you, the Love Doctor?

[Jessica405]

@I_Can_Help Just someone that loves her guy. No more to say.

[I_Can_Help]

Your love will fade.

[JDavid25]

Yes most definitely.. Infatuation only last so long before you start to get tired of the other person if y'all don't line up..

[Hairylegs222]

Only that yes. Personality, compatibility, some common interests are extremely important. Also morals, goals, and a shit ton of other things lol.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; I actually think the opposite, tbh. I think that physical attraction is absolutely vital! (And it should be maintained throughout the relationship.)
However, I also agree that no amount of physical attraction can make up for a lack of relational compatibility.