He wanted 2nd date, said no when I offered.
So, I went on a date with this guy last Friday, he wasn't quick at meeting me in the first place as he explained he can be quite awkward and will be very nervous, he said he doesn't tend to meet up with people straight away as he likes to get a feel of them with texting first. He's pretty introverted and has been single for years.
It went really well, we had a great time, I liked him. He was complimentary, said I looked nice, loved my dancing and singing and was a little touchy feely, which I don't mind, it was nice and I reciprocated in compliments etc. We both had a good laugh
He asked if I wanted to see him again, I said I did and asked him the same question, he said yes but didn't make solid plans there and then, just ideas on what we can do next time.
Come Monday, I let him know that this weekend has opened up for me and would like to see him again. He said he'd think about it as he's spent too much money this month. I explained that this is the last weekend I'm gonna be available for 3 weeks but just to let me know.
He didn't mention anything for a couple days and I ended up making plans for Friday, so last night I sent him a voice note telling him I've made plans for Friday, so only available on Saturday, did he want to do something together, if not I'll make other plans it's not a problem
He messages this morning "Morning you, thanks for the cute voice note ☺. It has been horrible and sticky indeed! was a lot better last night though so got a good sleep! How are you lovely? I think you should make plans if you don't mind, I'm really just looking forward to a quiet weekend. Haven't had one in a while 🥵. Hope you've been ok too ☺ x"
I'm a believer that if someone's interested they'll jump at the chance to meet up again. I also believe that the 1st and 2nd date should be close together as to not lose momentum etc. I'm looking for a relationship and don't want to waste my time.
What should I do?
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You could offer to pay for the date.
@ArtemisSilver Your answers are always short but sometimes they cut right to the chase.
@Asker It could be the case he hasn't got the funds to give you the kind of date you discussed then, right now...
It would take a bit of saving face but if you're interested go Dutch or pay for the date, like he suggests.
@MAC1983 thank you.
Would i not come across as desperate now, mentioning I'd pay for the date even though he now says he wants a quiet weekend?
That's a good question, @RedGamer. That is up to you.
You can say: "hey, want to Netflix and chill" or something simple like a walk in the park if you want to meet. No money necessary, even.
Or let him have his "quiet weekend". If he's interested now, he'll still be in 3 weeks when you have the time to date again.
The truth of the matter is you are in early stages and something could have happened that messed up his plans to be with you, and he might just not comfortable talking with you yet, like a family matter or health problem.
Unless you yourself lose interest be patient - you never know what the other person is going through or is like after one date.
@MAC1983 ok, well I took the plunge. I said I wouldn't have minded having a chilled on with him, we couldve played games (both gamers) watched films and I would've treated us to a take away but if he would rather be on his own then that's cool too.
If he decides he wants to be on his own then I have my answer in that he's simply not interested and ill leave things as they are. Hopefully it works in my favour though.
Thank you for your insight you've helped a lot
@RedGamer I'm glad I was of any help, and hope it works out for you both.
@MAC1983 yeah so he ignored the last part of my message which mentioned what I told you but replied to the rest lol I called him out on ignoring the last part and just said that its alright, I get the picture and will just leave it as that and move on
cut it off