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He is thinking about a job in a different state, what should I do?

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I've been dating a man for 5 months now almost 6 months. We live on the East Coast. We met each other friends and parents, we are compatible and get along great. Things have been going great until his grandmother died recently. Ever since she died he has been grieving, thinking a little erratic and his mood has changed. He was very close to his grandmother and she meant a lot to him. He started questioning the meaning of life and having negative thoughts. After her death he told me that he was thinking about a job in California which came out of no where. He told me that he submitted an application and is going through the job application steps. He told me that he doesn't know if he wants to take the job or not. He has been very back and forth lately. He makes plans for us to do stuff in the near future like trips together, meeting extended family members and more friends and includes me in his future but he is doing a interview for the job next Friday at the same time. The hiring process for this job is lengthy and requires him to take various tests and interviews. He told me that he doesn't think he'll get the job but he is just continuing to see how far he'll get in the interview process. It is a little confusing to me. It kind of feels like he is trying to run away from his problems. We did have a conversation about it and I told him how I felt. He said he will take me, my feelings and thoughts into consideration. He said he is thinking about everything and hasn't made a decision yet. He said when he thinks about it he feels excited about possibly going but at the same time he also feels that he doesn't know if he wants to make that move. He never mentioned moving far away until after his grandmother died. He seems very confused about it and maybe going through a midlife crisis or depression. Should I fall back until he figures out what he wants to do concerning this job? Or should I just continue the relationship as normal and see what he chooses?

He is thinking about a job in a different state, what should I do?
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