Girls, would you consider me “dateable”?

[Anonymous]

I’m 16, 5,6, shorter brown hair, heavily into cars, goes to the gym daily, I dress pretty average, cuffed jeans and a Plain T- Shirt. Usually paired up with a nice watch and a pair of Air-forces. I care about people, I’m damn near considered the school therapist bc everyone comes to me with their problems, I’m an Italian American and it shows through how I talk, and I have pretty bad anxiety. My luck with girls at my school has been horrible, so I’m curious if it’s MY fault.

[CarolinaJones]

Of course, however I'm a tad too old. It's not your fault, you seem like a nice and decent guy, listening to others (which is a great quality especially since some women like being heard). However, I believe your anxiety is a turn-down for some of those girls at school as it shows your lack of self-confidence. Overall, being shy doesn't make you unattractive. But it will make it harder for women to get to know you and find out about all your great qualities.

"I think there are a few things you can do to try to help. Focus on all your fantastic qualities, and try to give yourself a confidence boost by reminding yourself that you're a great guy. When you go to approach a girl, just be yourself, be casual. Try not to build it up as a big stressful thing, because if she says no, you'll probably never see her again anyhow. Don't worry about what she or anyone else will think if she says no, because it doesn't matter. All that matters is that you tried.

You can also try putting yourself in situations where you can get to know people BEFORE attempting to ask them out. Talk to people in class, join clubs, and participate in group activities. I know talking to people when you're shy is easier said (ha) than done, but people can learn to combat shyness. Even taking a public speaking class or something like that could help you" (Girl from GG community).

​​​​Girls: What are your feelings about guys with social anxiety? - GirlsAskGuys

[AmandaYVR]

You sound like a good kid. One day your soft skills (the therapist aspects, etc.) will get you more than just friends, and being a shoulder to cry on or get advice from, but also a girlfriend and partner in life. Try not to over-worry (I know it's hard not to.) This is just the beginning. Don't shut down, lose hope. You have anxiety, but so do many other people. It doesn't have to be a lifelong situation. You will come into your own. I believe it.

[LazerBean]

Nah. Otherwise you would be fine (minus your age) but I don't mess with people who have any significant mental problems.

[Anonymous]

Yes, very much so.